Never fight for someone who refuses to be in your life, because if they don't want to be then they don't deserve to be. !!

This is the correct advice yet so hard to follow.

Make the choice.

Be a man or a mental wreck for half your life. I know what I am talking about here.

LET HER GO!

Get your mind right and your ass will follow.

True but not easy to focus and get the micd right.

Hope the OP is OK and listens to US.

Really??? and your ass will follow? Do you always give straight to the point, spot on, and beneficial advice like that? lol

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In this world, you don't get what you deserve but what you fight for!

WHOA!

You wrote this and nobody beat the shit out of you?

Beat the shit out of yourself. Right now!


Hit yourself square in the mouth, then come back and read this shit again.

She will change your life?

Dude - YOU change your life. At this point - and hear me carefully - she's nothing more than a vagina YOU aren't fucking. that's it. Nothing more.

Slap yourself into reality.

RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

RR is totally correct.

Believe me I have dreamt of one lady for more than half of my life.

Where has it got me? Fuckin' nowhere but unhappy.

One Puppy dies, yes it's a shame but NEXT and then more NEXT is the only real answer.

There are a lot of puppies out there just waiting for a real man.

As a clinical therapist-in-training I have to point out several issues with what you just said.

1) Telling somebody to simply "not think" about someone or something only lends influence to that thing. If I told you to NOT think of a pink elephant, it'd be impossible for you not to. A much better way would be the Mindfulness/ACT-based technique to simply accept the thought, 'thank your brain' for having the thought realizing that thoughts, much like the mood states they both control and are controlled by are transient (will pass with time). "Not thinking" about something that causes you strong feelings requires a great deal of psychic energy (ego defenses) and is akin to holding a ball under water - after some point in time your arm can no longer hold the ball and as a consequence of releasing it, it breaches violently out of the water.

What typically leads to clinical depression is people NOT processing emotionally charged experiences. We can examine the core belief at play through a cognitive lens such as what CBT and RET/REBT as one way of addressing such issues, for example. Ultimately "not thinking" about something does not lend itself to defeating the rumination of a negative event(s) that can precipitate into depression.

2) Calling somebody he likes a "dumb bitch" or any derogatory sentiment can actually have the opposite effect of making that person feel worse. The logic is if she's truly that terrible, he must be even more of an idiot for liking her. Seems a bit counterproductive.

You are obviously uneducated and lack experience to be giving any helpful advice. It's unfortunate the mods aren't doing their job in censuring incompetent boobs who have the mental capacity of a functionally retarded rodent, like yourself.

Someone watched Fight Club one too many times.

Guys plz don't fight here. I know everybody tries to help and I see every comments have some good points.
I think I feel much better if I tell her I like her and I have strong feeling for her.
Honestly she is kind a next to me now. I can easily go and talk to her.(it's jut me and her)
Any magic statement or action would really appreciated!

Ben,

My opinion once again, when your in love your senses are dulled - you don't think at full potential - you make mistakes. Talking to her will most likely go wrong if she's into another guy, which will only give you something else to cry about. You'll really DLV yourself - looking desperate. YOU GOT TO BE ALPHA.

There is no magic move or line, it's tactics. When you tell a girl (who's in a relation) that you like her it's a ego boost for her and she'll see you as beneath her. You have to ignore her, in the sense that you stop giving her IOI's and just play it cool. By making it look like your not interested you are in control. So be I'm control. Go out with different girls Dude, right now your you own worse enemy.

I would not 'tell' her much at all.

Show her and lead her and she will follow.

Magic statement: Don't be a pussy!

That's it. And it's all on you.

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

1.) The mind is not logical. The mind goes by belief, by faith. You can maintain two illogical beliefs at the same time. Have you heard of religion?

2.) Feeling bad and stressed out all the damn time will lead to depression. Common sense told me that!

3.) And you cannot think about something that is distressing, its called having a strong mind. But you to negative to understand the power of ego strength.

Remember sucka you just in training. You just in training. You dropping book knowledge. You dropping theory. Me, I'm giving common damn sense. You might want to get you some you shrink, lol

Agent, you have brainwashed yourself with book knowledge. Shaking my head at you.

By calling the girl a "dumb bitch" you are going to feel differently about her. In your mind she will lose value and attraction. You won't like her anymore. This shit is easy.

This dude agent sounds like a serious control freak.


The duality of man:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMEViYvojtY