Hey everyone ,

Would be great if i could get some honest feedback on the below situation with a girl at work


Overview of the situation :
1. She will always talk to me first and tried pretty hard to get my attention.
2. We flirt with alot of physical touch ( no resistance from her ) she does not flirt with anyone else
3. She has only been with 1 guy which lasted several years
4.She told my friend we were good friends when i recently started talking to her
5. She gives alot of IOI
6. About to ask her to hang until she told me she was stressed and that her ex BF is trying to get back to her ( she dumped him , told me how bad he was and how she wont get back with him yada yada).

I'm interested in her , should I bother continuing or bail?

hey dude,

what do you think yourself?

ofcourse you should continue. Why wouldnt you? Oh, the ex is back. here you go! take her! ... dude, seriously common. are you a man?

So she is stressed, be understanding about it. Dont push things or anything, but continue with what you are doing.


good luck!

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

- Problem , i think its possible for this girl to go back although she told me she will never go back but then again Ive heard that alot of times from girls
- Not sure if i should push at the moment maybe it might help me , if i don't possibly she'll go back to him?

No matter what you do, there is always a possibility that she goes back. you cant control her.

Be with her as much as you can, but if she seems resistant, dont push. Otherwise you are prolly making the same mistakes as her ex. Dont be needy. Show her a good time, amp up the emotions when you do hang out together.

If she says: yeah, but i cant hang out with you, because my ex wants me back, dont push, but do make her realize what she is doing. Ask her if she really wants to get back to him as there must have been a reason she broke up.

if she says: i cnat hang out because i am too stressed out, say: ok, i understand, but on the other hand, we would probably have a good time and relaxation is the best medicine for stress. (something llike that, dont matter if it is cheesy. it should make her think).

You see, like that you wouldnt be really pushing. It doesnt provide certitude about the outcome, but unless you chain her to the bed, you cant really control her actions.

cheers and good luck!

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

thanks LD

Did you get my PM? if so can you please reply to that

didnt see it yet . I ll check it out now, but i really need to go and clean myself up. I need to be at a wedding in approx 2 hours.

np mate, i hope it helped.

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you