Earlier in the week i invited this girl out to the bars and she said she couldnt come out because she was working all week. I went to the bars later in the week and I end up seeing her there. after a little while she approaches me and says hi and asks for a hug. i told her no and that im not giving her a hug right now then made my way elsewhere in the bar.......


whats the deal?

A flake, just move on and get other girls.

You acted like a child.

She flaked - big deal. When she comes over for the hug; why not go cocky/funny? Why escalate the tension? It's pretty obvious you're not going to fuck her. That's not a crime. So what? She flaked. She made the overture because she felt uncomfortable and you reacted in a way that let's her know she made the right move by flaking.

Never give a chick that kind of justification. It DLV's you in a major way.

RR

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I agree with RR 100% you came off as needy and showed a huge lack of self worth. There is also the possibility she was talked into going out by her female friends or just changed her mind. Women change their minds every second of the day, they are in a constant state of conscious chaos.

Your actions were not that of the confident man. If she was on the fence about you, I'd be willing to bet my left testicle it's she isn't any longer.

Assumptions are a waste of time. You should of played it cool and seen what cards she laid out first.

In all honesty, you should of taken the hug then in a confident non threatening manner said something like. AHHHHH! you decided to make it out. Is this a sign of you showing a bit of your wild side. ( this would of been a way for you to ask her WTF is up?) There could of been a million reasons why she decided to go, including her not being interested in you.

But here's the thing, by giving her the opportunity to either have a good explanation or even squirm and make something up. You would of had your answer regardless by observing her. There's something to be said about playing it cool. If you always play things cool, you become cool. Everyone loves cool people.

Never let a woman change your frame, especially if you are not 100% certain of her actions. The moment you let a woman's action change your frame is the moment you lost the game.

I'm not sure how experienced you are with women but they do stupid shit like that all the time, all of them! in one way or another, some on purpose some not.

If you want to get good with women you must learn to always keep your a cool frame no matter what. The less frazzled you get from women the more power you hold.

Nothing gets to a woman more then the dude that could care less of her actions or lack of.

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