People in story

Me
SPAM
HB-Boyfriend
HB-BedroomEyes (target)

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House party. Hosted by an awesome American guy who's got lots of female connections. This means the house was packed with hot girls and the ambient was beyond explainable.

First thing I do as I walk into the party is to introduce myself to everyone and have basic conversation with them. There was around 20 people and now everybody knows exactly who I am, making it easier to reconnect later on in the night with whoever I want.

I walk into the kitchen and spot 2 girls: HB-Boyfriend and HB-BedroomEyes.

We chit-chat about some random stuff and generally flirt.

This is where things start to 'go wrong'. I take a sip of my Sangria and start choking. I cough and cough and become forced to walk out of the kitchen. Some other dude walks in and continues talking to the girls.

I finally stop choking and I walk back into the kitchen, where I immediately use my choking for teasing purposes.

ME (talking to HB-BedroomEyes, while the other dude talks to HB-Boyfriend): You know . . . I just had a fucking near-death experience and you just stood there and let it happen.

HB-BedroomEyes: No, I'm sorry! I thought you were coughing because of the smoke!

ME: That's no legitimate excuse . . . I saw the light and the Lord for a moment there. Even had time to wave to grandpa before coming back to life.

HB-BedroomEyes: OMG.

At this point, we started talking about movies, music, views on life etc etc. Turns out we had NOTHING IN COMMON. In fact, we were complete opposites. What I loved, she HATED. What she loved, I hate, and so on.

ME: We'd make the worst couple in the world (yes I still 'use' this. It was mine before DeAngelo or whoever the hell so called invented it).

HB-BedroomEyes: Hahaha yeah totally.

ME: Let's take this party somewhere else. I know a good club.

I call my SPAM and he enters the kitchen, generally getting to know both the girls (at this point, I really needed a wingman because HB-Boyfriend was VERY protective over HB-BedroomEyes).

We bounce to the club.

Loud music, dancing, dancing, loud music.

HB-BedroomEyes: You don't like dancing?!

ME: What? I AM dancing.

HB-BedroomEyes: Not crazy enough.

ME: You don't think I'm crazy?

HB-BedroomEyes: Definitely not.

I pull her in and kiss her.

ME: Crazy enough?

HB-BedroomEyes: (Huge sexy smile on her face as if she wants to devour me)

I pull her in again and we continue.

It's funny how all the girls (and even guys) become so madly attracted to you when they see you getting it on with a girl. Literally everything at a radius of 20ft was staring at us.

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LESSONS TO BE LEARNED:

~ GET TO KNOW EVERYBODY. As soon as you walk into the venue, it is your DUTY to walk up to every person and introduce yourself. It's a MUST. Out of respect primarily. But the other reason (and probably the only reason you want to hear) is because it pumps your state and you become 'in the zone' making it easier to have conversations later on in the night and making it easier to connect with people.

~ Night life is about vibing and vibing ONLY. If you have the vibe and the ability to escalate - you'll get the girl. See I had NOTHING in common with this girl. Not even the taste in music. We hated each others bands, we hated each others movies (she doesn't like Kubrick's 'A Clockwork Orange' . . . A huge hole was punched through my soul when I heard this . . .). But we STILL hooked up because the vibe was there and the sexual escalation was there. Don't worry about finding commonalities with the girl. In fact, it's even better NOT finding commonalities, because it gives you the perfect chance to tease her.

~ I started choking. Other dudes were hitting on her. We had no commonalities. We didn't have the same interests. I bet that after the choking, most guys would give up. The point is, it's not over until she explicitly REJECTS you. If she hasn't rejected you - why give up? Fear of getting rejected? By saying 'hi' to her in the first place, you've already risked getting rejected. Push it some more, it's not gonna bite. Even when everything seems to be going against you - it's not over until SHE goes against you.

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That "crazy" move is awesome. Defo gonna use it when a chance comes in, good response.

It felt like a cheesy movie-line at first, but it turned out better than expected lol.

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Great post, seems a wingman is crucial. Too bad I find it nearly impossible to find a half decent one. What do you look for in a wingman and where do you recommend finding one?

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No, a wingman is not crucial, but it sure makes everything easier. Also, in this case I really needed a wingman because the girls were so protective over each other.

The qualities you should look for a wingman are the following:

- He should AT LEAST be at the same 'level' as you. If he's slightly better, then you will rapidly improve. If he is MUCH better than you, it could actually slow down your process because he will steal all the light. You will still improve in theory, because you get inspired by him, but you won't get as much effective 'in-field' experience until you go out with someone that doesn't 'exceed' you so much.

- Obviously, the guy shouldn't cockblock you in any shape or form. This includes smack talking to the girls about you, shutting you out while you are in set with him, not introducing you to sets he has engaged in.

- He should be extremely ambitious and positive. If you find a wingman that has very high energy and is always ready to open sets and push YOU to open sets, while giving you critical feedback after each interaction - you've found an excellent wingman. This is probably the hardest quality to find because a lot of wingmen only care about their own improvement (especially if both of you are beginners/mediocre PUAs). Sure, they will help you out and give you SOME feedback, but not nearly as much as their potential possesses because they primarily focus on being good themselves and expect this quality from YOU.

- In addition to the point above, if your wingman is good, he will notice when you start slipping out of a set and freeze up and therefore he will include you in the conversations as much as possible and 'get you rolling' again.

Which brings to the final point . . . It should be in your interest to possess ^those qualities yourself. You will not find a wingman with those qualities that will stick with you unless YOU have them as well. Put your energy in helping your wingman as much as yourself. The reward is more than worth it. Plus you learn better yourself when you give feedback to others. Just be careful about preaching about things you know nothing about, this will slow the both of you down significantly and might even split you up . . .

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hahaha, I'm still laughing at the choking part.
I can imagine someone half dying, leave the kitchen, come back 10 sec later in perfect state, like nothing happend, walk in and reinintiate the conversation with that line.
It would have cracked me up haha, gj on it!