The Mystery Method talks about how if a girl fails a complicance test, you IOD, then DHV, then complicance test again. It talks about just looking around as if she's lost your attention, for example. I have a girl who said she would come to the pub last night and hadn't turned up or messaged me within half an hour of when she said she'd be there. I bailed at that point cos I knew I wouldn't feel good about it at that stage even if she did turn up. I've been setting quite a strong frame with this girl and asking her to the pub was something of a compliance test as I didn't exactly ask her whether she wanted to, I just put the idea on the table and assumed she would go along with it, which she appeared to until she didn't turn up. Therefore I feel that a few IODs are in order next time I see her. I already posted a Facebook update implying that my attention was taken by somebody else, and haven't attempted to talk to her, but next time I bump into her (if she doesn't contact me first) I want to throw a few IODs at her and hopefully get the attraction started up again*, as I think any kind of attempt to recover the current situation would probably have the opposite effect. I'm after a reframe basically, and want her to feel that whatever she thinks she knows about me, she can think again.

So what sort of IODs do people use? I thought that calling her "mate" would be a good one as well as making less eye contact, maybe frowning slightly when she makes a joke etc. Any other ideas, as there seem to be plenty of lists of female IODs towards us, but not a whole lot of IODs we can use on them.

*I'm partly just assuming there because it's more positive to assume, but my PUA mate said that her telling me she was lonely in a PM was a strong IOI, and he said I did well not to offer her any comfort at that point, which makes me think some attraction will probably have been built.

I'd say don't IOD her. It's only as big of a deal as you make it, and if she notices you are showing disinterest because she flaked then you are REACTING to her behavior. And once you react it's over. If you act like nothing happened, then you are good to go. Fuck IODs man. You don't get shaken by anything. She didn't turn up? So what, you had a good time without her. Her loss. Even if you didn't that is the frame you must set.

Also, I'm noticing you are reading way too much into this. Stop doing this and just start behaving attractively. Stop overanalysing. I did this in the beginning. Once I stopped I automatically became way more attractive to people.