Hey Guys, I am Gay and hoping to improve my texting game and fix the flaws that I have been making.

I've read the 7 texting mistakes several times and the popular "texting game" post. I think I need a total overhaul because I give into texting the guy I'm focusing on and it may not be bringing me closer to hanging out again.

So right now I have a new guy. We have chatted a little and texted very little. We had a first date, it was alright... and I want to have a day 2 where I can be better prepared and planned for a more perfect night.

Question, how can I ammend my texting behavior from coming across as needy/interested too much? What should I be trying to convey in my messages? Just the appearance of "fun/positive emotion"?

Please give me advice and feedback on my post first date interactions and messages and what I can do different:

HB:Sorry for the hasty goodbye. It was fun tonight
HB: You're a sweet guy
Me: Thank you I had a blast!
Me: I'm glad we both have fun

Next day. 11:23 AM (this is where I am unsure if I should even be texting the next day)
Me: guess what? you have the prettiest eyes I have ever looked into! O.O
8 hrs later
HB: Oh stop
Me: alright I'll stop but you have too stop too!! (Typo* I was at the bar :/)
HB: Ill wear contacts
Me: that'd be great because its really distracting ya know? ;P
1 HR later HB: Ha, you're too sweet

I need advice, this is the 2nd day since our first date/hangout. Id like to have a 2nd date and create some positive response from my HB guy
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in my experience (straight), its never good when anyone says youre sweet (especially twice). you seem to be complimenting and using unifying statements before demonstrating higher value or making them qualify themselves to you. thats my opinion

Yeah, that's a really good point :/ if I had an idea someone was interested in me and I told them you're sweet twice...

Could you explain more what you mean by qualifing statements and adding higher value?

What he means by qualifing statements is to get your partner to qualifiy themselves to you. An example would be him saying "I have such and such to offer you" or "you should give me a complement now...I totally just finished the whole ice cream by myself!" -AKA the person u want is trying to win you over.. and is attention seeking from you... not the other way around. When you are chasing it lowers your value... you are the one trying to qualify yourself to the person you want..trying to win them over. In this situation the other person has all the power. Thus your value is very low.

The goal is to always have higher value then your partner. To know if you are "winning" the texting game the person you are interested in should be texting you first a vast majority of the time. It seems to me here you are the one chasing... and in his responses hes just like... meh...w/e i can take or leave you...ya i have nice eyes... cool... thats what everyone says.... *yawn*..

To get him to start texting u first you need to have a really great connection or extreamly solid game. If you dont know the reutine "The CUBE" I would learn it. This reutine in my experience w women makes them melt... im sure itll work on guys 2.

Wish you the best... pm me if u have any other questions. I also have a post in the "Closing/day 2" section of the forum where you can see some of my text messages and how the girl has reacted. would love some feedback!

GL
DUKE

Hey DUKE, thanks so much guys. So I am learning the best think I canwith most of my hb prospects is ignore them and wait. IM glad to say I am getting better at not doing any impulsive texting related to feelings. With my main prospect I have not been able to get him to initiate any texting but I did invite him to hang out again and he responded the next morning saying he would be down "just need to balance our school/work schedules" ... not sure what he is getting at