Hey everyone, I'm new to the forum, and this is my first post.

I'll try and keep this short, but I'm having a bit of a rought time here and figured you guys could help me out.

So I've been dating my girlfriend for the past few months, and we decided to take a break for the summer. I met her at a party, and she was initially very attracted to me, while I was sort of indifferent. I had to choose between her and another girl, which probably helped the early attraction on her part. SHe is gorgeous, and she knows she is, and I chose her, however she is also fun to be around, and genuinely a good girlfriend and treated me right.

For the next couple months she kept having doubts about whether or not we were "right" for each other, and it got to the point that our relationship turned into an open one. THe more I was with her, the more I liked her, and tried to convince her that we were compatible, and could make it work for the summer. Well, once school got out, we would talk on the phone and text, but she became more and more distant.

She told me a few days ago on the phone that she likes me, and thinks were were good in a relationship together, but she just doesn't feel that we were "meant to be". She still really wants me to be friends with her, and doesn't want to lose me. SHe also hints at the possibility that maybe depending on how we feel in August, we can try to start something.

While we were dating, I did a good job of playing the cocky, but playful boyfriend. However, I sincerely believes she does like me and is not sure what she really wants.

MY QUESTIONS:
I will be heading back to college in a couple weeks, she lives on the way there, and wants me to visit her for a weekend as friends. I know it is in my best interest to cease communication with her in order to get over her, but I also want to win her back, not necessarily to date her come August, but to prove to myself that I can win her back.

I am thinking of visiting her and trying to play off that nothing happened, all the while trying to rebuild connection, but I'm not sure how to do that?

Once I get back to college (after/ and if I visit her) I intend on going on an approach spree all summer until I find a girl with whom I can proceed into a relationship with once the year starts.

I have a REAL FEAR that If I don't have another girl in my life by August (once my Ex returns to school), that

1. I will still really like her, and even worse...
2. She may fall for me again, and we may both decide to date.... and from my past experience with her, I believe it would simply repeat a cycle.

Sorry this is long winded, any advice on the matter would be awesome

Hey dude, was browsing through the forum and saw your post. Im kind of going through the same thing, my first girl who i dated for 3 years showed up at a bar where i play open mic. Long story short we talked and she was almost magnetized to my persona, which i attribute a little to some of the etchniques ive been learnin about through the pick up community. Ive had a couple of past problems with her however where we will see eachother for a couple of weeks and she will get from what I see, emotionally attached to me and then she says she doesnt want to keep it going. Before, because she was my first girl I would really get frustrated, and even jealous, which I think put the nail in the coffin so to speak. Id like to see someone whos had a lil more success with women comment on this, ive only been with 8 girls so I still regard myself as a nub. It feels great being able to seduce a person who you had feelings for, but from what ive seen from experience the glimmer doesnt last much longer then 4 or 5 nights together and then it seems both parties fall back into there habits, and it ends up even worse then the first time. Thats from my experience, in my opinion however if you can still take away her breath, make her feel good around you she will be around. In my opinion play it smooth, even tho there is feelings there, dont let thosse control your attitude and flow of energy. Make her work for your attention.

I can also relate to this. 2 months ago we broke up with my now ex girlfriend and well it was impossible to cease all communication since I could only move to the adjecent room in the dorm. It wasn't easy but I pretty much got over her, and now she's all flirty and stuff. But I know it wouldn't do any good, and I know that she doesn't want this either really, so I'm just contributing to the flirting only because I enjoy it but I'm not planning anything more for now. I'd even sleep with her at some point, but first I need to get laid again(with another woman...) I think it wouldn't do any good and I could fall for her again if I didn't do that.

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You guys are quite young. Don't commit to one girl whilst you're young. Enjoy yourself and 'date' as many girls as possible.
Treat your ex as a fuck buddy. Fuck her when you get the opportunity to and ignore her the rest of the time. Funny thing is that she'll probably get more hot for you when you play the cool dude who doesn't give a shit.

So true dude , +1 .