i was texting this HB and things were going good, so i decided to try sexting (which i have never done before) i used the B4U text HER product examples just to get me going. i used the dirty dream example. i told her i had a weird dream and would she like to her it. she said sure. so i told her the dirty dream in the woods. she answered sayin why am i telling her this. i told her she wanted to hear it and she never answered back. i waited three days and texted her back with ( hey i like dinosaurs bhla bhla...) and we had a good texting comvo with cocky and funny in it for half the day and i tried getting a pic but she refused so then a few texts after that we stopped. i waited days to see if she was going to text me back but she didnt. i sent he a riddle we had a fun text convo then stopped. the next day i texted her and asked about the dream i had about her and everything went very wrong. she was telling me how she thought sexting was weird (i think its because shes never done it) she was talking about how the whole convo felt uncomfortable . at this moment i had dropped every pua thing i know i was sweating buckets, theres a moment i felt like hidden under a rock . i went super duper AFC mode. i kept saying sorry and she told me" to go look for someone who will attend to my needs'' . the question is how do i deal with this i work with her tomo and i dont know how to act or do, i just want to stay home and hide. Is it possible to still game her need seriouse help.

You know what is the problem and mistake you have done - using the fucking canned materials. They sucks sometimes(and bigtimes).

LMAO!

Just act like this never happened.

You could tell her you said that to win a bet or someshit.

Or you can apologize, and tell her the truth. You like her, suck with women, and got some bad advice

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^ and this is why you don't 'game' (hate that term - so gay) women at work.

seriously - tell her you temporarily lost your marbles but you're alright now.

No bro, IMO, he fucked up when he used texting as something other than to arrange a next encounter. Not only that, sexting. WTF man, just do that IRL or after you really got something going with her.
The aftermath? Move the on with this girl. You're better off starting fresh with someone else than salvaging this. Tell her plainly and straight up something about how you apologize for making her uncomfortable and that she can expect that's not happening again. Say it confidently and plainly. DO NOT have nervous laughter, or OH SORRY IT WAS A JOKE L. O. L. TEhehehe badsumtsshhh *twiddle fingers* etc etc. You dun goofed bro. Move on. Take this as a lesson. She isn't worth your time henceforth aside from job related business.

I suggest you meditate on WHY you are using canned material. You should know better than this. Learn how the canned materials were developed and the reasoning behind them. They are to be taken as EXAMPLES. You are not a CLONE to what you read, you are a creative human being completely capable of reverse engineering, and self-developing your own material. Go out there and try again with someone else. Brotato chips.

Hi mate. IMO you went AFC mode right from the start. A dirty dream text? And she answers: why are you telling me this? That should already have been a big message for you.

But no, because she does text back sometimes, you honestly think you still got a shot, so you 'dinosaur' text her back... and... here it comes... you had a good convo for half a day. Christ. Half a day? You dont have anything else to do but waiting for stupid text messages? if i would have been her, i would have had something like: 'fuuuuck! leave me alone!'. She doesnt want to give you a pic. But if you see her often, why would you need one? Even if she doesnt text back, you keep on texting. which really shows her you got nothing else going on for you.

Really friend, i hope you see that it went wrong way before you asked for feedback on the 'dream whatever' thing. Realize that cocky funny aint the same using text messages, because you cant calibrate the result. That is because you cant see her face and she cant see your. That is already half of the interaction gone lost because of this 'sexting'. For you own sake, man up and start talking face to face with girls . Much more fun as well.

Ok, you work with this chick. What were you thinking? You always need to be extra careful with colleagues, why? because if things go bad, you see them at work. If i was you, i would just walk up to her and say: 'hey, i know and i am sorry. The thing is... i just like you.' then i would walk away. And i wouldnt do it because i would still have some small hope that she would stop me and say: its ok, all is forgiven and forgotten. No, i would do it because the next day i go to work, i would feel less awkward.

IMO, you cant really patch this.

I might have sounded harsh and not so respectful. Do know that i respect the fact that you try out stuff, new stuff, just like that. But i do hate text gaming. And also something else in your behaviour that enervates the shit out of me. I am almost freaking positive that you felt something awkward in your body when she replied: 'why would you tell this to me?'. I would bet a lot of money that in the back of your head, you knew something went wrong, right at that moment. What enervates me when reading the post was that you clearly wasnt honest with yourself. Which leads to awkward situations

In any case, cheer up, and start with some real game.

ciao

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you will never get this girl back if you can't change how she feels about the situation. Ignoring it may work if she forgets about it, but that usually does not happen with negative experiences. She started to develop remorse...and you pushed her to do something she did not want to do...and you let her tee off on you.

If she didn't like your attitude and passion - she can just go and fuck herself with someone who has not so interesting view of sex.

Your problem was your texting.
1 If you wouldn't say it in person definitely do not say it on the phone.
2 Dont do all that bs building attraction over the phone if you dont have to, just meet up with her. If you have long chats on the phone with her she will feel no desire to meet up. Give her the gift of missing you

I love this shit!


To the OP.... Crawl before you walk.

But - never stop trying. Here's the deal - You fucked up, but you have a GREAT story. This is comedy gold!

Another example of "why not to game chicks you work with".

Kudo's dude... You go down flaming - but your story is epic. Failure - yes, but EPIC.

You fucking rock!

Don't worry about it. The PUA lifestyle will absorb your fuck-ups and they won't even matter years from now.

RR

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this is some big time advice im getting here and i appreciate it to the fullest .thanks guys. im going to work in an hour and a cant wait to see how this shit goes down. wish me luck. is it possible to fram working to handle this.

I'd act as if nothing ever even happened.

Be overly cool with her, and everyone around her.

She'll tell female co-workers if they're close. Expect that. Chicks talk about everything.

So - show the persona that you're simply a different, upbeat dude - with an edge.

If you're already 'figured out' at work... and you're not able to BE that guy...you may fucked already in that regard and you have to deal with the fallout. That's one of the inherent problems with dating at work. She'll talk about you - that's fact. You just don't want to be "that creepy guy" in any woman's mind who talks WITH her.

Also, texting sucks. It does. It's doable, it's effective as hell - but for me, it sucks, it's a necessary evil. I develop a chick this way: Minimal texting that WILL lead to sexting every time if she persists. From me, she can expect positive, upbeat, sarcastic, random - and overtly sexual. She'll know that up front. if she persists from there, I simply show her I'm who I said I was - more credibility and her further venture down this path is HER choice.

For you right now, it's a funny, yet fucked-up turn of events... in the long run, it's not even a ripple on the water.

Now - it's Frame control.

RR

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Apologize when its warranted, but never apologize profusely. Remember, things are only a big a deal as you make them out to be.

Sexting generally works best AFTER you've slept with her, not before, you simply put the horse before the carriage. That's not to say you can't do it before you meet, but gauge how/who she is first (e.g., if she makes a lot of sexual innuendo, takes the convo in that direction than go right ahead).

Cocky and funny would be a good way to continue building rapport with her untils he feels comfortable and attracted enough to meet you.

woman are a mistery. u can never be 100% what to expect. so i went into work i was about to shit my self. i saw her the second i got in and she fucken waved at me and said hi with a smile. im like wtf whats going on so i saw hi back and move on to sign in. 20 minutes later she follows me and starts talking to me, i still dont know whats going on ????? . so i just flaff talk and make a joke and give her not much attetion and leave heading toward the storage room and she follows me then we meet up with other stuff members and brake off. after this im like dud im gonna see what happening. 15 minutes later i meet up with her at the till and we talk and have fun and theres no sign of her being discomfortable so now im dumb struck. an hour later we are walking in the same direction and im ahead of her and i pay her no attetion and she taps me on the head with papers she was holding, i look at her and she smiles and i go cocky and funny. we start joking around my head is going carzy. through out the day she looks over at me and smiles i smile back and she said bye when she left for home. so my question is wtf is happening and do i still have a chance

I think you're firmly planted in the friendzone.

My suggestion: Stay there with this chick and find different ones - not at work - to fuck.

RR

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