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One of the main distinctions between arrogance and confidence is that with the former, individuals boast of traits and/or abilities that they do not posses. That said, an accomplished individual who gloats, wearing his achievements as a badge of honor for the entire world to see comes forth as having to compensate for deep-rooted insecurities/feelings of inadequacy.
Being confident and humble are very attractive styles of presentation, whereas boasting of past glories and future conquests serve as indicators that you're masking your personal shortcomings; sure people may not immediately be aware of what those insecurities may be, but they will generally get an intuitive sense that something is awry. It is typically gold-digger women who will prey upon such people, as the arrogant man is fearful of revealing his true personality to others for fear of disapproval, consequently his behavior can come across as erratic - highly reactive at times (particularly when his ego feels threatened) and at other times seemingly detached.
Agent Provocatuer does not know a damn thing
1.) By boasting you give the impression of greatness and you can impose this image upon other by saying it so much.
2.) It does not merely mask or hide insecurities. It actually changes how you feel and makes you confident. But y'all don't know nothing about that...
3.) you are supposed to react when people disrespect you or slander you.
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"By boasting you give the impression of greatness and you can impose this image upon other by saying it so much."
Boasting never wins admiration nor respect. If history has taught us anything its that arrogant, often haughty leaders ruled by show of force. Compliance was gained through threat of violence, not through admiration and respect. Being boastful is a cue for over compensating for a perceived, or real lack of something, whatever that may be. Being boastful in the pickup world serves as a detriment to a man's game, that is unless he is pursuing a merely physical relationship with a woman who in turn wants something equally superficial in return - a mirror for each others sense of vanity, nothing more.
With regard to confidence, this is something that can only come from within. By building an awareness of one's values, becoming competent in various areas, one will progressively gain a sense of efficacy and confidence. Confidence in itself does not come out of affirmations, but rather a self-assuredness that can only come through experience and perseverance.
When people slander, or spew vitriol at you, the motivation behind the behavior is to manipulate, or goad others into reacting. Secure people don't feel the need to engage in disrespectful behavior there's a proactive way to respond (assertiveness), and a reactive/maladaptive way to respond (to aggress). To state that one is "supposed to react when people disrespect you or slander you" is the very belief that gets people in trouble (I see it all the time, I have numerous clients who are contending with anger issues simply because this is their modus operandi when dealing with others).
Looking at the 3 statements you'd made in response to my post, it is to no surprise why you've received such a poor reception on here, and likely with the women you're meeting as well.
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