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Eddie thanks for all your help. yesterday night i closed the girl again, she is back to america now! I will miss her !


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Or am I just overthinking this again?

You're not in the friend zone with this girl, she is placing you above her in the text messages which means subconsciously she feels that you have a higher value and she is willing to submit to you. Friends usually don't get that kind of SPAM; but 2 weeks of texting is a bit much to have not set anything up for a hang out. That doesn't mean you're freindzoned; just make sure you make things clear when you hang out with her. Place you arm over her shoulder while you guys are walking around.( Girls love that shit by the way, it makes the feel dominated) I rarely ever hold a girls hand, its either she is holding onto my arm with both hands while we're walking or my arm is around her shoulder. It just lets her know who's boss lol ;)

Never the less, I'm sure you'll do great. Let me know how the date goes .

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me: yo wutcha doing up thurs
her: friends visiting and staying over till sat
me: lets grab dinner on sat :)
her: i already have plans on sat.. i prefer next week
me: how bout next fri?
*no answers *
3 days later i casually asked if u wants to go to the park
she gave me a really obvious bs excuse.

working on freeze out.. but not sure if she actually meant the next week thing or not
help would be nice :(


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Me: Do you have a boyfriend or anything? Your cute Smile
HB: um, I sorta do! haha
Me: Aw thats cute anyway
HB: hahaha. maybe
HB: We are not dating though. haha (1 minute later)
me: ok cool we will hang out soon and does that mean we need to keep us a secret?
Hb: what the fuck, no. I am not going to do anything with you or like you in anyway

Why such a blow off here? Is this a major shit test or just no attraction? I am confused.


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me: yo wutcha doing up thurs
her: friends visiting and staying over till sat
me: lets grab dinner on sat :)
her: i already have plans on sat.. i prefer next week
me: how bout next fri?
*no answers *
3 days later i casually asked if u wants to go to the park
she gave me a really obvious bs excuse.

working on freeze out.. but not sure if she actually meant the next week thing or not
help would be nice :(
It just seems like a case of no rapport or attraction being built and you're just trying to take the girl out when she isn't even attraction to or comfortable with you yet. If you want to set up a meet up through text ( I always recommend doing this over a phone call) you have to bounce back a few rapport text messages before asking her out. Get her all warm and tingly first and then mention a meet up because when she is feeling good, it is unlikely you will object to anything unless her excuse is legitimate.

A freeze out does not work on a girl who isn't attracted to you, if you want to do anything you would be talking her in another 3-4 days(preferably over the phone) and just doing some rapport building. Without mentioning meeting up or hanging out . And then the foundation will be set for you to arrange a meet up. :)

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Me: Do you have a boyfriend or anything? Your cute Smile
HB: um, I sorta do! haha
Me: Aw thats cute anyway
HB: hahaha. maybe
HB: We are not dating though. haha (1 minute later)
me: ok cool we will hang out soon and does that mean we need to keep us a secret?
Hb: what the fuck, no. I am not going to do anything with you or like you in anyway

Why such a blow off here? Is this a major shit test or just no attraction? I am confused.
haha that is not the text message I gave you to send, you added you're own little twist to it which switched up the tone of the message. You made it sound serious, what i gave you was a joke. When texting, every word counts because she'll read it over and over.

"haha so we're keeping us secret!" is a lot different in tone and emotion from " ok cool we will hang out soon and does that mean we need to keep us a secret?"

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Me: Do you have a boyfriend or anything? Your cute Smile
HB: um, I sorta do! haha
Me: Aw thats cute anyway
HB: hahaha. maybe
HB: We are not dating though. haha (1 minute later)
me: ok cool we will hang out soon and does that mean we need to keep us a secret?
Hb: what the fuck, no. I am not going to do anything with you or like you in anyway

Why such a blow off here? Is this a major shit test or just no attraction? I am confused.
haha that is not the text message I gave you to send, you added you're own little twist to it which switched up the tone of the message. You made it sound serious, what i gave you was a joke. When texting, every word counts because she'll read it over and over.

"haha so we're keeping us secret!" is a lot different in tone and emotion from " ok cool we will hang out soon and does that mean we need to keep us a secret?"

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Oops.... I sent 2 emails, I guess I should have been more clear.

I sent this first, well then were hanging out soon!!
and then your msg.

After that msg she responded negatively to it, probably because the first msg had a serious tone to it.

Too late to recover?


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me: yo wutcha doing up thurs
her: friends visiting and staying over till sat
me: lets grab dinner on sat :)
her: i already have plans on sat.. i prefer next week
me: how bout next fri?
*no answers *
3 days later i casually asked if u wants to go to the park
she gave me a really obvious bs excuse.

working on freeze out.. but not sure if she actually meant the next week thing or not
help would be nice :(
It just seems like a case of no rapport or attraction being built and you're just trying to take the girl out when she isn't even attraction to or comfortable with you yet. If you want to set up a meet up through text ( I always recommend doing this over a phone call) you have to bounce back a few rapport text messages before asking her out. Get her all warm and tingly first and then mention a meet up because when she is feeling good, it is unlikely you will object to anything unless her excuse is legitimate.

A freeze out does not work on a girl who isn't attracted to you, if you want to do anything you would be talking her in another 3-4 days(preferably over the phone) and just doing some rapport building. Without mentioning meeting up or hanging out . And then the foundation will be set for you to arrange a meet up. :)

Oh i see. I forgot to mention these texts came after an f close :D
We were drunk, but she pretty much pounced on me.
I do agree on more rapport building . It also seems shes prefers texting ive called but she let it go to voicemail and replied by text instead :X


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Me, this girl, and her friend were going to the club today. We had planned this for like a week. Today she texts me:

Her:Hey, I don't think we're going out tonight :( sorry!
Me:Aww, too bad!! I'll just have to have fun with out you :p
Her: :(

Well she obviously flaked but I'm not sure if it was intentional so I'm not sure what to respond :/


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I apologize for such detail but I want to provide everything thats happened so far.


In short, I met this girl and I told her to come along to this latin club where I can teach her some moves and have some fun(she loves latin culture)

she gave me her number and told me to message her so she could get mine

ME: [Gave her my name] Lemme know if you're down for this thursday ;) [for the latin club]

Next Day (Thursday)
Her:Hii sorry I took forever! My friends still can't decide

ME: What's the alternative?

Her: Studying :P for now -->[she had exam on friday.]
Her: Do you have the econ midterm??

ME: Whatta geek, I knew it! :p [telling her I knew she was going to study instead of going out tonight -->that's why when I met her I suggested this or next thursday]
maybe...how much are u willing to pay for it?

Her: Haha how much would u sell it for!

ME: Lemme see...around 80 dollars
ME: Or you could go to [name of club]
and we call it even ;)
ME: Yo I'm actually not going to [name of club] anymore

Her: Haha that's sooo much! But ya my friends are down for something low key

ME: I'm actually messing with u haha [about the money]
It doesn't matter anyways cause I looked for the midterm and noticed that I took that class with a different prof
I can hook you up with the book tho
What's it called?
ME: Is it econ you have on friday?

Her: Yeah! I don't need the book anymore, got it from the library!

Next day (Friday-Today)
Her: I'll probably need it for the final though [I'm guessing she meant the book]


I am aware that I have done nothing to escalate the conversation anywhere, so I was wondering what can I say that will make the conversation go into a more aggressive/sexual path rather than a 'friend zone' path?


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I apologize for such detail but I want to provide everything thats happened so far.


In short, I met this girl and I told her to come along to this latin club where I can teach her some moves and have some fun(she loves latin culture)

she gave me her number and told me to message her so she could get mine

ME: [Gave her my name] Lemme know if you're down for this thursday ;) [for the latin club]

Next Day (Thursday)
Her:Hii sorry I took forever! My friends still can't decide

ME: What's the alternative?

Her: Studying :P for now -->[she had exam on friday.]
Her: Do you have the econ midterm??

ME: Whatta geek, I knew it! :p [telling her I knew she was going to study instead of going out tonight -->that's why when I met her I suggested this or next thursday]
maybe...how much are u willing to pay for it?

Her: Haha how much would u sell it for!

ME: Lemme see...around 80 dollars
ME: Or you could go to [name of club]
and we call it even ;)
ME: Yo I'm actually not going to [name of club] anymore

Her: Haha that's sooo much! But ya my friends are down for something low key

ME: I'm actually messing with u haha [about the money]
It doesn't matter anyways cause I looked for the midterm and noticed that I took that class with a different prof
I can hook you up with the book tho
What's it called?
ME: Is it econ you have on friday?

Her: Yeah! I don't need the book anymore, got it from the library!

Next day (Friday-Today)
Her: I'll probably need it for the final though [I'm guessing she meant the book]


I am aware that I have done nothing to escalate the conversation anywhere, so I was wondering what can I say that will make the conversation go into a more aggressive/sexual path rather than a 'friend zone' path?


The conversation is too benign/bland, its offering no tension, nothing...you could easily carry the same conversation with a guy - its trite and offers nothing meanwhile you've obviously got a boner for this chick and its evident that you're just trying to keep her engaged in a dead-end conversation. I bet you felt a bit down that she found the book at the library rather than borrowing it from you.

You're apprehensive on making any sudden moves for fear that you'll frighten her off, but at the same time your walking on egg shells approach will lead to nowheresville, or even worse....the dreaded friendzone ("Oh he's such a nice guy, he showed me how to dance, helped me prepare for my excme, blah blah blah...").

If your objective is to bang her (which it should be regardless of wanting a relationship or not with her), you have to add some palpable tension to the conversation, a reason for her to look forward to your texts. Put yourself in her shoes. She likely has a dozen other guys texting her similar crap, what makes YOU stand out in her mind?

Drop the textbook convo it just seems comfortable for you, begin talking about random shit use the "OMG I just saw your twin" line or whatever, but have a rough idea as to where you're going, don't just say random shit for the sake of reducing tension - think before your reply to her next text. When she says stuff to you frame it as sexual inuendo and throw it back at her, be a bit of a shocker but don't be way out there or you'll seem schizo (not attractive). Don't be so afraid to shake things up, you've got nothing to lose at this point and when you start being a bit random and mysterious and stop trying to qualify yourself to her you'll pick her curiousity and she'll perceive you more as the fun, humorous guy that can make her laugh at any random point throughout the day. Give her a reason to want to hang with you, but at the same time I wouldn't ask her out as I dont see her having enough attraction to you at the moment to agree to a meet, however the potential is definitely there if you play your cards right.


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I apologize for such detail but I want to provide everything thats happened so far.


In short, I met this girl and I told her to come along to this latin club where I can teach her some moves and have some fun(she loves latin culture)

she gave me her number and told me to message her so she could get mine

ME: [Gave her my name] Lemme know if you're down for this thursday ;) [for the latin club]

Next Day (Thursday)
Her:Hii sorry I took forever! My friends still can't decide

ME: What's the alternative?

Her: Studying :P for now -->[she had exam on friday.]
Her: Do you have the econ midterm??

ME: Whatta geek, I knew it! :p [telling her I knew she was going to study instead of going out tonight -->that's why when I met her I suggested this or next thursday]
maybe...how much are u willing to pay for it?

Her: Haha how much would u sell it for!

ME: Lemme see...around 80 dollars
ME: Or you could go to [name of club]
and we call it even ;)
ME: Yo I'm actually not going to [name of club] anymore

Her: Haha that's sooo much! But ya my friends are down for something low key

ME: I'm actually messing with u haha [about the money]
It doesn't matter anyways cause I looked for the midterm and noticed that I took that class with a different prof
I can hook you up with the book tho
What's it called?
ME: Is it econ you have on friday?

Her: Yeah! I don't need the book anymore, got it from the library!

Next day (Friday-Today)
Her: I'll probably need it for the final though [I'm guessing she meant the book]


I am aware that I have done nothing to escalate the conversation anywhere, so I was wondering what can I say that will make the conversation go into a more aggressive/sexual path rather than a 'friend zone' path?


The conversation is too benign/bland, its offering no tension, nothing...you could easily carry the same conversation with a guy - its trite and offers nothing meanwhile you've obviously got a boner for this chick and its evident that you're just trying to keep her engaged in a dead-end conversation. I bet you felt a bit down that she found the book at the library rather than borrowing it from you.

You're apprehensive on making any sudden moves for fear that you'll frighten her off, but at the same time your walking on egg shells approach will lead to nowheresville, or even worse....the dreaded friendzone ("Oh he's such a nice guy, he showed me how to dance, helped me prepare for my excme, blah blah blah...").

If your objective is to bang her (which it should be regardless of wanting a relationship or not with her), you have to add some palpable tension to the conversation, a reason for her to look forward to your texts. Put yourself in her shoes. She likely has a dozen other guys texting her similar crap, what makes YOU stand out in her mind?

Drop the textbook convo it just seems comfortable for you, begin talking about random shit use the "OMG I just saw your twin" line or whatever, but have a rough idea as to where you're going, don't just say random shit for the sake of reducing tension - think before your reply to her next text. When she says stuff to you frame it as sexual inuendo and throw it back at her, be a bit of a shocker but don't be way out there or you'll seem schizo (not attractive). Don't be so afraid to shake things up, you've got nothing to lose at this point and when you start being a bit random and mysterious and stop trying to qualify yourself to her you'll pick her curiousity and she'll perceive you more as the fun, humorous guy that can make her laugh at any random point throughout the day. Give her a reason to want to hang with you, but at the same time I wouldn't ask her out as I dont see her having enough attraction to you at the moment to agree to a meet, however the potential is definitely there if you play your cards right.


Hey agent, do you think you could lay off my post for a bit? The other guys have shown me that respect. No offense but I don't agree with some of the things you say so if you want to make a "WHat do I text her next/ With Agentprovocatuer" I'm sure many guys will run to it asking you for help. Until then, could you show me that respect and just lay off a bit; I'd really appreciate it. People come here to ask me for my view point, after all the name of the post speaks for it self. Thanks bro! Peace & Love :)

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I apologize for such detail but I want to provide everything thats happened so far.


In short, I met this girl and I told her to come along to this latin club where I can teach her some moves and have some fun(she loves latin culture)

she gave me her number and told me to message her so she could get mine

ME: [Gave her my name] Lemme know if you're down for this thursday ;) [for the latin club]

Next Day (Thursday)
Her:Hii sorry I took forever! My friends still can't decide

ME: What's the alternative?

Her: Studying :P for now -->[she had exam on friday.]
Her: Do you have the econ midterm??

ME: Whatta geek, I knew it! :p [telling her I knew she was going to study instead of going out tonight -->that's why when I met her I suggested this or next thursday]
maybe...how much are u willing to pay for it?

Her: Haha how much would u sell it for!

ME: Lemme see...around 80 dollars
ME: Or you could go to [name of club]
and we call it even ;)
ME: Yo I'm actually not going to [name of club] anymore

Her: Haha that's sooo much! But ya my friends are down for something low key

ME: I'm actually messing with u haha [about the money]
It doesn't matter anyways cause I looked for the midterm and noticed that I took that class with a different prof
I can hook you up with the book tho
What's it called?
ME: Is it econ you have on friday?

Her: Yeah! I don't need the book anymore, got it from the library!

Next day (Friday-Today)
Her: I'll probably need it for the final though [I'm guessing she meant the book]


I am aware that I have done nothing to escalate the conversation anywhere, so I was wondering what can I say that will make the conversation go into a more aggressive/sexual path rather than a 'friend zone' path?


The conversation is too benign/bland, its offering no tension, nothing...you could easily carry the same conversation with a guy - its trite and offers nothing meanwhile you've obviously got a boner for this chick and its evident that you're just trying to keep her engaged in a dead-end conversation. I bet you felt a bit down that she found the book at the library rather than borrowing it from you.

You're apprehensive on making any sudden moves for fear that you'll frighten her off, but at the same time your walking on egg shells approach will lead to nowheresville, or even worse....the dreaded friendzone ("Oh he's such a nice guy, he showed me how to dance, helped me prepare for my excme, blah blah blah...").

If your objective is to bang her (which it should be regardless of wanting a relationship or not with her), you have to add some palpable tension to the conversation, a reason for her to look forward to your texts. Put yourself in her shoes. She likely has a dozen other guys texting her similar crap, what makes YOU stand out in her mind?

Drop the textbook convo it just seems comfortable for you, begin talking about random shit use the "OMG I just saw your twin" line or whatever, but have a rough idea as to where you're going, don't just say random shit for the sake of reducing tension - think before your reply to her next text. When she says stuff to you frame it as sexual inuendo and throw it back at her, be a bit of a shocker but don't be way out there or you'll seem schizo (not attractive). Don't be so afraid to shake things up, you've got nothing to lose at this point and when you start being a bit random and mysterious and stop trying to qualify yourself to her you'll pick her curiousity and she'll perceive you more as the fun, humorous guy that can make her laugh at any random point throughout the day. Give her a reason to want to hang with you, but at the same time I wouldn't ask her out as I dont see her having enough attraction to you at the moment to agree to a meet, however the potential is definitely there if you play your cards right.


Hey agent, do you think you could lay off my post for a bit? The other guys have shown me that respect. No offense but I don't agree with some of the things you say so if you want to make a "WHat do I text her next/ With Agentprovocatuer" I'm sure many guys will run to it asking you for help. Until then, could you show me that respect and just lay off a bit; I'd really appreciate it. People come here to ask me for my view point, after all the name of the post speaks for it self. Thanks bro! Peace & Love :)



agentprovocateur I really appreciate the advice man, I'll take that into account from now on.

Well EddieFews, I would be interested in seeing your point of view as well. It doesn't hurt getting different point of views. Any advice?


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The conversation is too benign/bland, its offering no tension, nothing...you could easily carry the same conversation with a guy - its trite and offers nothing meanwhile you've obviously got a boner for this chick and its evident that you're just trying to keep her engaged in a dead-end conversation. I bet you felt a bit down that she found the book at the library rather than borrowing it from you.

You're apprehensive on making any sudden moves for fear that you'll frighten her off, but at the same time your walking on egg shells approach will lead to nowheresville, or even worse....the dreaded friendzone ("Oh he's such a nice guy, he showed me how to dance, helped me prepare for my excme, blah blah blah...").

If your objective is to bang her (which it should be regardless of wanting a relationship or not with her), you have to add some palpable tension to the conversation, a reason for her to look forward to your texts. Put yourself in her shoes. She likely has a dozen other guys texting her similar crap, what makes YOU stand out in her mind?

Drop the textbook convo it just seems comfortable for you, begin talking about random shit use the "OMG I just saw your twin" line or whatever, but have a rough idea as to where you're going, don't just say random shit for the sake of reducing tension - think before your reply to her next text. When she says stuff to you frame it as sexual inuendo and throw it back at her, be a bit of a shocker but don't be way out there or you'll seem schizo (not attractive). Don't be so afraid to shake things up, you've got nothing to lose at this point and when you start being a bit random and mysterious and stop trying to qualify yourself to her you'll pick her curiousity and she'll perceive you more as the fun, humorous guy that can make her laugh at any random point throughout the day. Give her a reason to want to hang with you, but at the same time I wouldn't ask her out as I dont see her having enough attraction to you at the moment to agree to a meet, however the potential is definitely there if you play your cards right.


Hey agent, do you think you could lay off my post for a bit? The other guys have shown me that respect. No offense but I don't agree with some of the things you say so if you want to make a "WHat do I text her next/ With Agentprovocatuer" I'm sure many guys will run to it asking you for help. Until then, could you show me that respect and just lay off a bit; I'd really appreciate it. People come here to ask me for my view point, after all the name of the post speaks for it self. Thanks bro! Peace & Love :)



agentprovocateur I really appreciate the advice man, I'll take that into account from now on.

Well EddieFews, I would be interested in seeing your point of view as well. It doesn't hurt getting different point of views. Any advice?


yw.


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I apologize for such detail but I want to provide everything thats happened so far.


In short, I met this girl and I told her to come along to this latin club where I can teach her some moves and have some fun(she loves latin culture)

she gave me her number and told me to message her so she could get mine

ME: [Gave her my name] Lemme know if you're down for this thursday ;) [for the latin club]

Next Day (Thursday)
Her:Hii sorry I took forever! My friends still can't decide

ME: What's the alternative?

Her: Studying :P for now -->[she had exam on friday.]
Her: Do you have the econ midterm??

ME: Whatta geek, I knew it! :p [telling her I knew she was going to study instead of going out tonight -->that's why when I met her I suggested this or next thursday]
maybe...how much are u willing to pay for it?

Her: Haha how much would u sell it for!

ME: Lemme see...around 80 dollars
ME: Or you could go to [name of club]
and we call it even ;)
ME: Yo I'm actually not going to [name of club] anymore

Her: Haha that's sooo much! But ya my friends are down for something low key

ME: I'm actually messing with u haha [about the money]
It doesn't matter anyways cause I looked for the midterm and noticed that I took that class with a different prof
I can hook you up with the book tho
What's it called?
ME: Is it econ you have on friday?

Her: Yeah! I don't need the book anymore, got it from the library!

Next day (Friday-Today)
Her: I'll probably need it for the final though [I'm guessing she meant the book]


I am aware that I have done nothing to escalate the conversation anywhere, so I was wondering what can I say that will make the conversation go into a more aggressive/sexual path rather than a 'friend zone' path?


The text messages weren't all that bad, however they wasn't attraction building at all. It was just " lets get together as a group and have some fun". The way you go about getting a girls numbers has a lot to do with how the way the interaction will take off. If you tell a girl " Hey you and you're friends can hang out with me an my friends go dancing" it give the appearance that you have no real interest in the girl you are simply seeking to have a good time. And every text message you send and that she sends will revolve around that same theme. Its about getting the phone number by making it clear that you have romantic/intimate interest in her; you have to be clear about what it is you want the number for. That way when you do text the girl, it is no surprise why you are contacting her. She knows what you want, you are just contacting to tell her when you want it and have fun rapport building conversation along side of that. Sure you are probably more likely to face rejection when you approach with clear intentions however, you will be dealing with a lot less flakes and waste of time. The only girls that will be giving you there number will be the ones with genuine interest in you. And isn't that what we want after all?

Also, you shouldn't be texting the girl with a mindset similar to " I'm going to send 4-5 text and then try and get her out" it should be more of a " I'm about to show this girl the time of her life through these text messages, she'll be dying to hang out with me" You aren't asking her for anything; you are just shedding some light on her and letting her know that you have a opening that she would fit perfect in. Similar to a job, a job isn't necessarily contacting you to ask you to come in for an interview, the job is letting you know that there is an opening( for you're dream position) on tuesday at 3 o'clock. Would the job give two fucks if you don't show up for the interview? No, because they know that there are a lot of people after this same position. You are the once missing out on an opportunity :)

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