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Based off what I just read (your link), social proof isn't something you want in pick up. You don't want to fit in, forget that. Fitting in is overrated, I'd prefer to be a trend setter not a trend follower. I never want someone to think "I qualify with their style", I'm me, nobody else. Why on earth would I want that kind of social proof? Individuality is the new social proof (you can get custom ANYTHING), wearing the same as someone else is unacceptable. Now of course I also understand there are boundaries, wearing a tux to the pub may be over kill.
You also proved my other point about social proof with your statement you roll up to some spots in a Ferrari or with a set of leather kicks on you are fucked, that isn't social proof you are some dude that kills the world for a cool car or a douche who skinned an animal for a pair of kicks. Social proof isn't just about gold, money, cars, it's about fitting in with the people you are with now.
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Just thought of a great example My uncle is a very good well known Dr. through out So Cal. My Dad is a carpenter, a very good carpenter at that, been the foreman on schools, Disneyland, and California Adventures.
Now if my Uncle went into my Dad's world he wouldn't have the same social proof even though he makes probably over 10 times what my Dad makes. If he tried to work on a job site they'd laugh him off of it. My Uncle would have HORRIBLE social proof even with all the money he makes.
At the same time if my Dad went and worked with my Uncle or tried to help he would likely be laughed out the office, he wouldn't have any social proof even though he is a very well respected carpenter through So Cal.
A businessman has very little social proof among surfers even with a better income(in most cases).
A Surfer has very little (if any) social proof with businessman even though he can do shit most businessmen could never do.
Social Proof is not related to economic value but to the culture at hand. It is being accepted and praised by your CURRENT peers. This can be related to economic value but certainly not always.
social proof has nothing to do with being forced to fit in, rather exploiting the phenomenon that is ''group think'', if you are seen dressed as ''punk rocker'' you will be treated by others how the perceive they should treat a ''punk rocker'' due to ''group think''
you absolutely do not have to start changing who you are to get a girl, that was not really the point of my post, the point was if you are into emo girls, being emo yourself, or someone who appeals to a certain niche or stereotype by fitting a niche or stereotype will be able to game their targets easier due to being ''socially proofed'' before entering set, will help raise your value through social proof, it is just setting a preconceived perception of yourself, if you like what you see before you talk with it, you will respond better, and how ever you perceive a person will effect how you interact with them
as for a difference between financial status and social status, you are right, they are not the same thing, but financial status directly correlates to a persons social status and has a direct immediate effect on a person's ability shape their lifestyle/image
social proof can be thought of as the ''proof'' of your social status, and social status can be thought of as a combination of health/wealth/interpersonal relationships, the more you have of these things, the more you can generate ''proof'' around that, more women on your arms, more friends, better dressed, more money, looking more ripped
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