Ok guys, so this is what's up right now.

My biggest thing by far is that when I begin a conversation ith a girl, thing go well and there is clear sexual tension, etc. basically a good "pickup" I cannot seem to leave my feelings out of the equation.

Today I had a great connection with a girl, got her number, almost k-closed, and after her other chicks were opening me. However I didn't want to talk to them, only to the one I had that great connection with. Almost all girls I talked to we're attracted to me, but I didn't care. All I could think about was the incredible vibe I had with the first girl.

My feelings have ALWAYS been dominant, and I have told myself to be disciplined and not fall for girls right now as it will only result in neediness and a lot of pain. However I can't find the off-switch.

For example, the idea of a fuck buddy intrigues me greatly, but the only way I could not have feelings for a girl if I was not attracted, which would therefore mean I wouldn't want to fuck her.

How do you guys do it? Is it an abundance mentality? On one hand I wanna fuck quite a few chicks, but on the other hand when I have such a nice connection I couldn't care less about screwing chick after chick. Only her.

WTF is wrong with me?

You don't know this woman from a can of paint and you want to marry her? She might be a fucking pyscho path and you want to live happily ever after?

How old are you and how long have you been gaming women?

Chronic Bitch Dependency: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DOvq8FsiUE

Hey dude. I'm 20 and got into the game properly this year. Was a virgin until 19 and spent my teenage years alone without a girl ever. Which is what propelled me into this. I never got the attention from girls that I get now, as you can imagine it was really new to me.

It's not like I wanna live with her happily ever after, it's just I really really wanna see her again. I know how fucked up this is, believe me. Infatuation after an hour or two of talking and touching? I too would tell anyone that there are plenty of fish.

But I love human connection, and value it so much, maybe too much. And a connection with a girl is something that is still a bit new to me, even though I know she's not special or whatever.

Dont think of emotion as a bad thing, girls love it. Im the same like you , when i have an incredible vibe with one girl i really focus on just her, but thats only after i kiss closed her though. Before that there should not be any feeling like that.

Try meeting more than one woman at the time and you will probably get a bit more comfortable. But really: emotion aint a bad thing :

How many other girls are you hooking up with right now, or close to hooking up with? I would guess none? and that is why you feel like this about this girl. Oneitis has a simple cure, start hanging out / gaming more girls you find attractive and get along with. If you have two other attractive girls who want you, you will stop obsessing over any one in particular.
See you don't have alot of experience with women, you only lost your virginity a year ago, so your behaviour isn't weird, it's normal.
I remember my first real girlfriend back Junior High, she was my Oneitis. I didn't even think about screwing other girls. Cause i was an immature kid. Though your not a 14 year old your still alil immature when it comes to relationships.

The bottom line, is if you are obsessing over one girl, then you need to get more girls. That's the answer to your problem. If you have other girls in rotation, but keep obsessing over this one girl, then maybe you need to upgrade the girls in your rotation to girls who are more desirable/appealing to you so you stop putting this one girl on a pedestal.

DP

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Thanks man, thought this would be the solution.

. You are inexperienced so your mind naturally gets carried away with unreasonably pleasant possibilities...the thrill will wear off with time, the more girls you meet, mental discipline, and a conscious effort to occupy your mind.