This post is all about finding the right type.

Freaks, Hoes and Good Girls

Hopefully this is a recap for most of you. The theory has been around the community for a long time. I personally have found it to be very helpful when dealing with women. The main idea is that different types of girls want different things from their relationships. Most girls fall easily into one of these three categories. Guys should be able to figure out what type they are dealing with and act accordingly.

Good Girls - Girls who are happy in relationships when their significant other is happy. These girls will tend to go out of their way to do nice things for their guys: cook, clean, give them gifts, play out their sexual fantasies, etc. They are the easiest type to maintain a long term relationship with because they make it fairly easy for the guy.

Freaks - Girls who are happy in relationships when they receive attention and strong emotional states. This is the type guys fall for the quickest, because they generally come off as very vulnerable. This type thrives on validation, both positive and negative. They cause a lot of drama, are more likely to cheat on you (sex is a form of validation), and usually have some form of daddy issues. These are also the type of women who tend to stay in abusive relationships. Guys, don’t get into serious relationships with these types of girls unless you really know what you’re doing. The way to make this work is for the guy to be able to inject a steady amount of drama into the relationship (or find some way to give her strong emotional states).

Hoes - Kind of self-explanatory. These girls are happiest when they are receiving material resources (money, gifts, etc) from guys. They are only interested in dating high-status guys or guys who show a willingness to buy them things. When you meet them, they will probably ask you about your job, what car you drive and/or where you live. They will relentlessly tool a guy over to get what they want. They’ll try to get you to pay for everything. The best way to have a long term relationship with a girl like this is to play the “pimp”. Don’t put up with any of that stuff.. Be clear that she’s going to have to pay for her crap if she wants any chance of seeing you. Be fine with her tooling over her orbiters or get her to tool over her orbiters for your benefit (I.e. send her up to the bar to get you free drinks from AFC‘s).

In conclusion, if you’re goal is an easy drama-free relationship, then stick to good girls. If you like a challenge and/or really know what you are doing, then try the other ones. However, you got to have great game to make it work with the other types. The freak’s petty drama and the ho’s attempts to tool you over for money are just forms of shit-tests. If you fail the shit tests, then these types will eat you alive (I learned this lesson the hard way, like most guys).

Low self-esteem vs. High self-esteem

Low self-esteem girls tend to sabotage their own relationships. They tend to assume other people think of them the same way they think about themselves. They tend to think you’re going to leave them eventually anyway so they will act out to test that theory. They do not make good long-term relationship candidates.

High drive vs. low drive

Don’t get into a long term relationship with somebody who has a lower sex drive than you do. It’s just not a good idea. Try to screen for people without sexual hang-ups. Personally, I would not consider a serious relationship with a girl who isn’t at least somewhat open-minded about sex. I also would not date somebody who would use sex as a bargaining chip.

RED FLAGS (I HAVE PERSONALLY ENCOUNTERED)

- History of drug abuse and or alcoholism
- history of poor decision making (like a long line of douche bag ex-boyfriends)
- seems to be in a constant state of crisis
- history of depression (un-medicated or not good at keeping up with the medication) or has a mother who’s mentally ill
- works as a stripper
- unwillingness to give and/or receive oral sex (I.e. has sexual hang-ups)
- history of past sexual abuse
- thinks masturbation is gross (opinions may vary on this one)
- Assumes you will pay for everything and/or disappears to the bathroom every time a check arrives.

EDIT: Some additions Richard Pryor listed, that I really liked:

- No friends
- Some form of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Bad relationship with her parents, especially her father
- History of eating disorder (anorexia/bulimia)

I’m sure I can think of lot more if I tried. Be cautious when you see girls with these qualities.

In the future, when you ask a question on the forums about a particular situation, then it would help us if you let us know what kind of girl you are dating. For example, I am dating a high-drive, high self-esteem good girl. That should already tell you a lot about her personality. Incidentally, she’s pretty awesome and we don’t really ever have issues even after a year and four months.

EDIT 2: Further reading - Dogsoldier's fantastic post about Freaks, Hoes and Good Girls. The post focuses on how to spot the different types in a club scene and how to pick them up.

http://www.fastseduction.com/discussion ... 32&fid=173

Screening. The answer you're looking for is screening.
Hope that helps.