Monday Evening.
Its the end of Exams and its Student Night at a club called Mercury.
So its expected that their is going to be one hectic and crowded night in this club.
I love my Clubbing, to me, clubbing is just one of the best ways to go out, and interact with people, especially the opposite sex. I love just dancing and going crazy, especially with woman on the dance floor
I got back in contact a few months ago with an old friend. I'll call her Zoitsa for personal reasons. Now back then I didn't really know her, we weren't really friends back in primary school, but when I saw a friend request from her on Facebook, I was stunned, she was my perfect 10. So I basically attacked her, Got in contact with her and started texting her etc. she invited me to go out clubbing with her, I figured out that she is one of those party animals so I said to myself, what the hell, lets do it.
So we went out, all was fine, "This was the first time I saw her in a while". Danced and chatted and blablabla, successful evening.
We kept a good relationship after that. But I didn't want more from her, not until a week before I had sex with her, which was a week before. That was about 3 weeks after we met up at that club. Anyway, after that we had a fight and things kinda faded. She then got a boyfriend, and now they having fat problems. She went out to this club "Mercury" and she was the last person I expected to see there.
Now after our fight, we basically stopped chatting, stopped seeing each other, but we both still had some kind of feelings, some kind of connection, that we both didnt speak of, even rarely showed. Monday night was my first night that I decided I'm going to try out my "Game" that I learned from the book "The game" I only got to about 150 pages into the book, so I wouldn't say I'ma pro yet. But I had enough knowledge to start with.
I told my best buddy "King", that if we accidentally run into Zoitsa at this club, that I'm going to crack and try and pick her up, regardless that she is with her boyfriend or not. As I learned anybody is an open target regardless if they taken or not. "With a married woman - ring doesn't close the hole"
And so, Murphy's law, She is there. Now I decided then, that im not going to run after her, I thought, look if she wants me, she would coming looking for me she would come greet me, etc.
And I was right there, the second I walked in the club and went to the table where the rest of my mates were, she pounced onto me, and gave me one fat hug and a kiss on the cheek.
I didn't know what to say or what to do, as this isn't what I expected from her. So I asked, "Where is your boyfriend?"
She said they not doing well, last week at a club, "Fez", he kissed another girl infront of me and walked away from me, blabla. There and then I knew, she was on a mission to get him back, even tho he wasnt there, she could still show pictures to him and be like look what you missed out kind of attitude.
And I was fine with whatever has happening.
I noticed the IOI's straight away, The way she kissed my cheek, the way she just grabbed my hand when I decided to neg her while I turned way to chat with the guy friend she was with, she even took my hand when she was taking photos with other guys. All the signs were there, all I had to do was move in and take her.
But the evening went on, and played hard to get. Danced with my mates, kept hooking randoms, at the bar, on the floor, etc. but when she spotted me on the dance floor and ran up to me to get me to dance with her, she gave me a hug, bit my neck and scratched my back, this chick was so DTF. She took me to her group of friends and I parked off in the middle of the circle and noticed, but these are guard dogs, these guys are all her boyfriends friends and they guarding this bitch. So just to test, I kissed her on the cheek and what do you know, I had these dudes patting me on the back saying no kissing, I whispered why do you have guard dogs? everything from there went down hill, I was uncomfortable dancing there and my buddy "King" noticed and came up to me and saved me from that mess.
He explained to me that she is playing me. She was playing the same game that I was playing with her, just she was incontrol, and i didnt like loosing so I played harder. I decided to ignore her completely, I didnt dance with her again nor talk to her, but I could tell from the corner of my eye that she was staring at me, She knew what happened. Time went by and we kinda danced up to each other, I had my back to her, and she tapped me on my back, ndd told me to come dance with her, from hand signals. I looked at her waved at her saying hi, and turned around and danced up to a chick and kept playing. I have no idea what her reaction was, but 10min after that she decided to go. I guess I won.
But here is this thing. Ive never been in situation like that, and I do still have feelings for her, havent spoken to her since and Im expecting to see her again tonight at another club "Assembly".
What do you suggest I do? You guys rate I just go for it? or play hard to get again?
Im also planning to try out my new moves, like openers, negs, routines etc.

Thnks

Hey man.

First of all:
Excuse me? You read 150 pages in a book and you feel like you have enough knowlegde to start with... What did you expect here seriously? That after reading 150 pages you would successfully pick up somebody that is obviously quite better at the game then you are? Its like watching the first 30 minutes of a Steven Segall movie and think you know enough martial arts to compete into a championship...

I am not hating you for it, or trying to offend, i am just trying to open your eyes.

Now, back on your topic.
Never ever try to outgame a woman when you are emotionally involved. You can't win this. You say: 'i guess i have won', but do you feel like you have won? do you feel good now? Since you admit you still have feelings for her, i guess you dont feel so good after all....

The second you realized that you was subject in a jealousy strategy, i would have confronted her with it. I would have said: 'look, i still like you even after our fights, but i will not be used to make your boyfriend jealous. You want me? Lets meet at 2 am outside the club. You dont want me? Leave me alone.'

Instead you choose to play along, so none of you two know exactly what you want from each other. You are thinking you played along, she might be thinking you are acting like an ass. I dont know, you dont know, that is not good.

What i would do, even though at this stage i know i dont have much chances getting her back, is going to her and straighten up. Tell her what you want and what she has to do if she wants you back (like meet up outside the club where non of her boyfriends bodyguards are).

this kind of honesty might sound weak, but actually you are showing balls here and you will have peace of mind. She cant play games with honesty either, that is how you win (although you might loose the girl). If she laughs at you and asks if you really thought you could get her back like this, then tell her: 'No, actually i was trying to prove myself that you were not the stuck up bitch you are now. But thanks for clearing it out to me . bye!". That would be the worst case scenario, but still you will feel lots better then you do now.

finally, i want to tell you: please use your now moves, openers, negs etc, use them a lot, train them, get experience. Read up on new material, use it, experience it. But i wouldnt use it on her, at this stage, she is going to see right through it (considering the context). Then come back and say : "i have read 150 pages and spent hour after hour of trying stuff in the field, i think i have enough knowledge to start with". And then you would be right.

ciao and good luck!

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

Do not use negs, do not use DHVs, do not use any of this bullshit unless you are congruent to it, and don't dress like a fucking circus clown unless you are congruent to it. Congruency: clarity of thoughts, words, actions. Don't do Mystery Method if it isn't you.

Of course, changing your inner-game is the hardest thing for anyone to do. The reality though is this: you realize by never approaching, approaching feels "Wrong/not congruent to what you feel" but you WANT to do it...so never lie to yourself.

One of my sticking points is being so intense with some girls, I've actually f-closed a girl by threatening to destroy her mouth with my dick...HOT HOT HOT level 10 girl at a club. Multiple guys going up and DYING out. But recently, I had immense issues "calibrating" to girls or being "Adaptive" It's a tough tough fucking discipline going from being an extrovert (that is never outspoken) to saying whatever the fuck is on his mind while being not socially acceptable (a type of controlled syndrome).

I'm now finding myself struggling to NOT say whatever is on my mind. I have to realize I may be getting results, but its not how I want to live my life telling girls I'll put my dick in their mouth. I need to be more....smooth about it.