My gf and I got in a random discussion about dancing and when I asked her if she was ok with me grinding on other girls in the club her response was "No...I dont really care" which shocked me! because in the past she has totally told me she was not cool with it! I just laughed and said "good to know" but was puzzled at the fact that she now changed her mind? I felt like saying do you think its ok for you to grind up on a guy? (Which I don't think is ok) but I left it alone.

I think it might have been a shit test to see if she could get a rise out of me, but perhaps I should be worried?

She is your girlfriend. You don't have to "Game your girlfriend" this is ridiculous. If you two have been together for 2 months, you can cut the shit. But I get you teased her.

I personally don't take what many women say seriously (unless I get that immediate vibe like ...oh crap she's serious) and even then I usually realize they say what they feel (and usually they cant put what they really mean into words).

Women test you a lot from the moment they meet you to see if you're really the guy for her. If she says she doesn't care, she might not in the moment. The minute you grind another girl, watch how the tune changes. You should realize she's not solid in what she's saying.

haha yeah man see I really believe she would care, the only reason I could see for her saying this would be a.) she did it and feels guilty, or b.) she is trying to get a rise out of me.

In the past she has made it very clear that she would not at all be ok with it! so I was thrown when she said it was ok, I wouldn't trust my self personally to grind on another girl because women are my weakness and It might lead me to do other things, I know not to put my self in dumb situations, its also why I would not be ok with her doing it because for all I know she could be the same way.

That being said I think I was wise to keep my mouth shut and shrug it off rather then ranting to her and looking like a chump!

You should not worry about stuff like this. First, it's not a shit test. Shit tests are subconscious attempts to test your frame / alpha qualities / congruency. I don't really see that being an issue here. Second, why would you be worried? It's dancing. Do you two really have so many trust issues that you don't trust each other to dance with other people?

Also, why are you asking her this question in the first place? Do you really feel like you need to get her permission as to who you can and can't dance with in a dance club? That is beta behavior and not a particularly good sign for your relationship.

You might consider reading these:
MASF Relationship Doctrine Codified by Kwagmyre: http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/ ... ified.html
Corvette on Betaization: http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin

Don't listen to CaptainJack - relationship game is important. Guys should educate themselves on how not to screw up their long term relationships. Most guys are way more concerned with learning how to GET girls than they are with actually keeping them. Getting a girl is easy.. anybody can learn to fake being an alpha male / social robot for a date or two or three (i.e. long enough to sleep with them once). Becoming the guy who can rock a sustainable drama-free relationship, on the other hand, requires most guys to overcome the social conditioning they have been indoctrinated with from a very young age. That's not so easy.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wolf

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agree with wolfwood however, if you read this guys post in the relationship forum, i would be a tad worried.

you have to work to get the attraction back in this relationship. continuing to act beta will not work