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@OP
There is no such things as a fake IOI just mis-interpretations by the observer.
All women love to give off attraction cue's in fact the better they look the more they will do it, a lot are actually unconscious mannerisms, but don't get me wrong, they also do quite a bit of them consciously, especially if they are in fact interested.
Even when a stripper is trying to fill her nightly quota of lap dances, she is giving off IOI's but they are not fake, she may not want to fuck you, but she still has an interest. ( her own interest) Such is the same with attractive women that spent 2 hours looking good. To be efficient in pick up, you must dictate her reaction of your own actions.
This does not make it an open invitation to approach. An approach invitation will usually always weigh heavy on eye contact. and an accumulation of a group or set of IOI's as well as many other aspects to consider. One of the most important things to consider is her entire body position as well as your present elements. If she is sitting there dressed to kill, sipping on a glass of wine and looks like there is no way she should be alone, there is usually a reason for it.(waiting for a man)
If you are an educated man within the art of seduction and wondering if you should approach, you should be observing everything. Not just some silly little typical mannerisms that most women do to gain attention.
I have approached thousands of women in my lifetime. I have never once encountered what you speak of. If you are skilled enough you learn to send your own micro-approaches before you even approach. ( a simple smile, a head nod, a wink....anything to get into her reality) You need to make her react to you, rather then you reacting to her. You must dictate your interaction, not assume.
Wait for an approach cue, if it doesn't happen, you don't approach. Especially a well dressed woman sitting alone probably in the early hours of an evening. Your current setting and probability should always factor into your observations.
With all this being said, rather then blaming the woman on giving you false IOI's I'd suggest learning to dictate the situation, seek specific cue's by creating them yourself, get her to react to you. Not the other way around. If she reacts the way you were hoping or expecting, and your intuition tells you to go for it. THEN GO FOR IT.
all women have an interest for themselves.
Fake IOIS
Full Definition:
Women can sometimes give fake IOIs such as smiling, bantering, or flirting, in a way that implies that they are interested in a man, even when they aren’t– instead using their attention as a way to gain something from the man.
Hired guns such as store sales girls and waitresses will often flirt heavily with their customers, even going so far as to make them believe that they are genuinely interested in them, in order to receive big tips and other gifts from their customers. AFCs who are not properly calibrated may mistake such fake IOIs for genuine interest, and savvy hired guns will take advantage of the approval seeking behavior of AFCs for their own gain.
In the field, fake IOIs are often given by unscrupulous women looking for free drinks, who pretend to be interested in a man, just so that they can gain access to his wallet. The worst case of these are gold diggers, who get into relationships with wealthier men whom they are not interested in, just so that they can use his money.
PUAs should learn to become aware of fake IOIs through calibration and by using congruence tests to determine whether a woman is genuinely interested in them. When ferreting out fake IOIs, it is often helpful to examine the woman’s body language, as a woman might be willing to say anything to get what she wants, but her body will react unconsciously to the PUA’s advances, if she does not truly feel what she is saying.
Usage:
The waitress was just kino’ing you for a higher tip, those were fake IOIs.
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