G'day All, Any or None

I'm a 37 y.o. bloke living in Perth, Western Australia, who is performing poorly in a Sales Role that I loathe. I'm about 15 kilos or 35 lbs overweight and I live in a rat hole apartment near a train line that stresses my already tenuous finances.

I've no real skills that can be translated into a somewhat worthwhile job and I'm afraid of approaching anything (women or opportunities) due to a fear of failure. I am cognisant that all I do is Fail and that if I don't start doing something soon, then the previous five years of my life will be the model for the next 30 years of my life (I'm a smoker - how long have I got?)!

But, it didn't always used to be this way - and it won't be again. It is time to leave the path most often travelled and get back on the hustle. I've read a little bit of this Game theory and realise that it can probably be applied to other areas of life. So, I'm going to try and lose my fear of failure at everything - it really can't end up much worse!


Tonight I got the text from my now ex-girlfriend "I do love you but I want to be in love with you like I was before. I can't make it happen"

Time to change! There is so much written here about techniques so I'm just going to try and do five approaches with a smile and say hello for the rest of this week and then build week by week. I'm also going to modify some lifestyle aspects and add them to my weekly challenge like AFC Daniel does.

I'm going to try and change my whole life by following Game Theory - and bang a few molls - wish me well!

G'day from Perth

Made a few changes to my plan. I'm doing the whole LifeStyle Challenge thing - I work better with a routine.

I also went to the gym. Haven't been for years - so it was somewhat humiliating! Also a little different to see yourself in a mirror that isn't in your bathroom. Took it gently.

Went and said hello to five people. It was surprisingly harder than I thought. One pretty average looking chick came up to me at the smoking section of the mall and smiled and I found it hard to say anything. Makes one aware of how tough it all can get. Asked a smoking hot fellow shopper in her workout gear if she knew where the tomato relish was. She was very nice and actually walked me to the aisle and grabbed it for me. People are kinder than one gives them credit for.

But, it was harder than expected and I did feel more than a little uncomfortable.

I also felt bad because I was dressed like a slob - it certainly lowered my perception of myself and how I perceived others would react to me.

It is the first time I really looked around at single chicks for a while.

I've just finished Day 7 of the StyleLife Challenge.

It has made me think about a lot more than just picking up bitches.

It really makes one look at one's life and wonder where all the hopes and dreams went.

Where your confidence went. Where it all started to go downhill. So many things to address so that I don't waste yet more of my life. It is so much bigger than Pick Up.

I don't know if any of you other guys have ever given up on a dream? I definitely have - many times - and I think you lose a little of yourself every time that you do that. Awful.

So I've tried to make some changes - am one week through a two week course that should allow some movement away from sales on the job front. I'm at the gym and I've dropped 3kgs in the last fortnight. A big week juggling work and the course this week - then I'll be in a better spot to keep the changes going.

Good to hear mate, stick with it and the differences are worthwhile!