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@SexAddict
Hi man,
Next week I'm attending a festival with a friend and his clique ( some HB's involved). Due to working and moving I haven't really met the people that are coming with us.
Any insights how I become Alpha in this new social circle.
I'm not such a good talker in larger groups of people (6+) and mostly I keep myself on the background especially if these people are not that familiar too me.
*I overthink what to say ( if your around new people, you don't want to be the guy with the lame jokes)
*The group is too large to gain rapport.
Nevertheless, somehow in smaller and trusted groups I'm the one controlling the frame.
This is a 4-day festival and it would be a good chance for me to get some new connections and become a member of a new social circle. (I'm 19yo btw)
This doesn't directly relate to Picking up chicks, but certainly it would give more opportunities to meet new women.
Secondly, not related to peer group issues, just sex. Any healthy guy doesn't want to wank in his tent . . .
Festivalgame in your eyes, advice?
I know my questions are quite open ended, but i'm looking forward to be hearing ur insights.
Thanks in advance
Don't worry so much about being alpha, worry more about having a good time and making sure your new friends have a good time. If you don't want to address the group as a group, take some time out and have a nice polite conversation with each individual, introduce yourself to each of them on your own time. Have a good conversation, show your fun side.
Take your time do it over the period of the first day. Once you have had a decent conversation with each of them 1-1. You will be able to move freely around the group, you will be able to address the entire group if you wish.
Most people are not out going. Most people are the " sit in the background type". You need to be the opposite, the easiest alpha male trait you can have is being outgoing and friendly to everyone.
The easiest way to control the frame of a group is to be the life of the party, go out of your way to have fun and try to make sure everyone is having fun. This will not only win you over with your group, but it will draw others to you. ( in particular WOMEN)
Festival game, should be a little easier then any other game, people tend to feed off all the positive energy around them, you must keep a super positive frame, and have fun. Just remember, this is your summer. Make the best of it, you will be around a bunch of people you don't know and a shit load of others you may never see again.
It's the perfect time to re-invent yourself into that outgoing fun guy, that isn't afraid of anything or anyone. Keep a super friendly and fun frame, and go introduce yourself to any attractive women you please. If you are gonna be there for 4 days, just keep it friendly at first. Go make friends with all the attractive women you see. Don't worry about gaming them yet unless they already give you the signs.
Save the gaming for the night time or day 2. If you have meet a hundred women and made nice with them on day/night one, you can easily open sets and targets to game then next day.
See it as the long hustle, your biggest focus should be on having fun, the most fun you have ever had. Make friends with everyone, once you have done this, the girls should come easy, then you can start gaming.
Everyone likes the fun/friendly outgoing guy. Be that guy!