Hi!

I have been trying to get my confidence up lately and to get rid of my AA.
Last night I made it as my objective to just open 1 set. So I went to the bar, sober of course, and saw this mixed set of 1guy, 1HB7 and 1HB8. So after a while, I went for it!
I used the "Do you know the thing when your avoiding someone who is in the same bar"-thing. My ex-girlfriend was in the same bar so that worked well. At this point, only the HB8 paid total attention to me, probably because I didn't pay attention to the HB7 or the guy :/. Well, after the "yes blaablaa" I introduced myself and shit. Asked where they know eachother. After they said that the guy they are hanging around is their alcoholic friend who drinks a lot (in a joke-way), I pulled this some sort of AMOG (or something similar):

Me: Ahhh so you like to drink a lot?
Guy: Yeah
HB8: He is the first person to pass out
Me: No way! Dude you got to get hold on yourself. No way you are going to pass out before them (meaning the girls).

Well, after that I didn't entirely know how to continue so I just said "Well it was nice meeting you, see you later(looking @ HB8 eyes)"

Then I just went to my table and started drinking. I think I drank like 3 or 4, noticed that the target group got a little closer and the HB8 was checking me out time to time.

Couple foreing guys came to talk to them, and they spent some time there (1 hour or something). Didn't think these guys as a threath, because the girls werent interested in them (A lot of IODs). Next time I walked past the target, who was accompanied by this foreing guy, I just popped "You have a very charming boyfriend". She replied "Oh I wish I had".

Next time I encountered her was when I was asking this foreing guy who left his seat, if the seat is avaivable close to her. (Of course I wasnt planning on sitting next to her, I just wanted the chair). The guy said "no" and I just (a bit drunk) said: "Well you better sit on it when you come back (smile)". As I was walking away, some1 grabbed my arm. First I thought it was my ex who was jealous. No it was the Hb8. She dragged me to her spot, and sat to the bench the foreing guy left there. I think this was the point where the control wasnt mine anymore :/ First is said something like: "Hey I decide where I sit, not you!", then a reply "Well you just sat there (smile)". I faked that I was leaving BUT, I don't know WHY, I stayed ://So then we talked a bit, I wasn't sober so I couldn't get a hold of the thing quite well. The target turned out to be really cocky herself!. I tried negging her ("Is she always like this", "You are too dirty to me") She had a coule of piercings, so I THINK this was some sort of a neg "Did you do those by yourself?". She took the control over again just with "Yeah, I have them in my nipples too".

I just didn't know how to get control of the set anymore.

I ejected and went to my table again. At that point I thought that the set was lost, but I was drunk so I wasn't thinking clearly enough.

So there was this sort of little convos through the night.
At some point I noticed my ex gf making out with this guy, and man that sucked. I felt super bad, though I didn't show it. At that point I saw this HB( dancing with his friend so I just went to dance with her. We danced a bit, quite dirty way. There was huge kino stuff going around, I kissed her. She continued dancing. After we danced a bit I told her that I was leaving (because I didn't feel so great). Then she told me something like "oh it would have been nice to get to know you". I didn't really care @ that point, I just k-closed and left.

This is what totally sucks: After I "left", I went to change my blackjack chips to cash, and I saw this HB8 hanging around with this dude, who was a friend of the dude making out with my ex:::::SSS. I noticed that my ex and this HB8 had some sort of convo, so that REALLY sucked.... I bet as soon as my ex told her that I was her former boyfriend, HB8 would tell her about my opening :D. So shit, started quite good, ended up like %¤#(.

Ok guys, I know it's a lot to read but what would you have done differently? Of course I'm not going to drink that much anymore.

Definitely dont drink that much haha but you shouldnt have ejected! you had that girl right where you wanted her she was crawling all over you! next time to show disinteres instead of leaving just move your body facing away from her or something but you had her! even if it felt like she was in control oh well! let her THINK shes in control always think three steps ahead of the girl and really YOU will be in control.

If she thinks shes in control throw in some qualification like

"Hey you know what i love about you?? you seem really fun and spontaneous i just love that quality in a girl! and then if you adda adventurous to that its like the perfect combination! are you that kind of girl? fun spontaneous and adventurous?"

Obviously shes gonna say yes and then you can say hey lets take a walk or grab a drink or whatever and theres no way she can say no because shes already said shes fun, spontaneous and adventurous. Trust me noone wants to contradict themselves.

As for the ex problem you could have seen that one coming the ex will probably reach out to a girl you talked to if shes trying to screw it up for you. so what i would have done is say something to the HB8 like

"Hey i met a girl just like you a couple weeks ago it went pretty well we started makin out, we had sex bla bla bla, but then i realized she was one of those pussy follower girls. your not one of those girls are you?

she will say something like "what do you mean?"

then say " she was one of those girls that would NEVER do things for herself she would always do whatever her friends or other girls told her to do. she was a follower basically and never made her own decisions. i hate that i think thats really un attractive. your not a pussy follower girl right?"

she will say "no"

Then youve got her. when your girlfreind comes over and says "hey dont talk to that guy anymore hes a douche and a waste of time just trust me" the HB8 will be thinking in her head "IM NOT A PUSSY FOLLOWER GIRL" hahaha then shes all yours

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"Ever notice how you come across somebody once in a while you shouldn’t have fu***d with? That’s me." — Clint Eastwood

Thanks a lot! I have to memorize these! Yeah well the only reason I ejected was that I didn't know what to DO next I think it's would have been worse if I had just froze there and do nothing. But definetly gonna study/practice more to how to keep the thing more in control. In the end, the HB8 I was targeting was REALLY cocky and dirty. It's kinda hard to even think that you are in control when this HB8 acts like that

I noticed that other part I lack skill of is this "cocky and funny"-thing. I think myself as a funny guy, and when I focus enough I can be cocky too. But one thing I forget during this is to be this sort of "friendly" or is "safe" better word? I forget to be playful, or say things in playful tone. Though I use facial expressions a lot during conversations.

PS: My friend just told me that my ex refused to spend the night with this dude she was making out with. It seems that this fella got really pissed off about it and
continuously called her through the night begging and explaining. I feel awesome

No problem and all in all you did a good job just remember the ABC rule ALWAYS BE CLOSING. so many guys practice for months on approaching girls and transitioning but then they dont close or dont try because they either 1. dont know what to say next or 2. feel like theyve done enough already. But if you do that when it comes time to actually close a girl your gonna be like damn i should have practiced closing i have no clue what to do now haha but if you ever dont know what to say just throw in a routine for example i always have those qualification routines in the back of my head for whenever i need them and one last thing dont always eject just cause you dont know what to say sometimes a little silence and eye contact creates some huge sexual tension. good luck though!

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"Ever notice how you come across somebody once in a while you shouldn’t have fu***d with? That’s me." — Clint Eastwood