Please bare with me...I'll try to be as concise as I can.

Just hit the 6 month mark with my GF a few days ago.

Things had been going really well. Over Memorial day we went out of town to a nearby casino and stayed there for a couple nights and during that stretch of time we saw each other for 7 days straight and had sex each day. Had a blast.

This past weekend we had plans to hang out on Saturday, however she informed me the day before on Friday that she would have to work (she works a LOT - one of her jobs is part time at a restaurant a few times a week. I made a separate post about this). So we made tentative plans to hang out Saturday after she got off work. Well she didn't wind up getting off until 11PM and works about 35-40 minutes away from me so I told her that it probably wasn't gonna work that night (I had gone golfing earlier in the day and had met up with a buddy to watch the Stanley Cup). So by the time I had gotten home I was exhausted.

She was fine with this and the next morning (this past Sunday) texted me and apologized, saying how she was sorry it didn't work out the night before and for her schedule being so unpredictable.

She began housesitting for a friend of a friend yesterday, and will be there until Friday. Yesterday I drove over there with her and helped bring her bags in and made dinner and watched some TV. Also at this time I paid her what I thought to be $120 of the money that I owed for the casino trip over Memorial day weekend. Turns out I only gave her $100. An honest mistake.

Yesterday when I left her house she seemed fine (she was sick, has a ear/throat thing) so we didn't have sex. Plus she's house sitting so I dunno if that made sex more unlikely or not but anyway we didn't have any.

Today I don't hear from her at all, not until about 8PM or so. I texted her once around 11am saying "hi you alive?". And then again at about 6PM saying "babe? you ok?". We normally text lots throughout the day so when I didn't hear from her at all until a couple hours ago, something seemed up.

And when she did reply, all she said was "Hey. I'm alive, just a busy day. Btw you shorted me money." So I'm thinking...OK...gee...nice to hear from you. I'm doing good, thanks for asking (sarcasm). So I playfully respond back "Dang it, you caught me I must have only gave ya $100?" To which she replied "Yup". Normally she is much more talkative and playful etc.

At 10:30 when I was on my way home I texted her and said "awake?" and got no response, but she did read the text b/c of Iphone read receipt. So I tried calling her just to say hi, no answer.

I just have a bad feeling that something is up. I've been wracking my brain to think if I did or said something wrong and I can't think of anything. The only thing I can think of is shorting her $20 of the casino money I owed her which was an honest mistake, and I'll pay her the remaining $20 if I see her again, which to be honest I am having my doubts on. We haven't had sex since last Wednesday. We're supposed to hang out tomorrow but I doubt that will happen.

Throughout the course of the evening I've been preparing my head and heart for the worst and am to a spot where I'm almost expecting it. I do feel better than I did a few hours ago though.

Sorry for the huge novel. Does anything seem weird about this? Am I reading too much into it or is there legitimate cause for concern?

Any advice much appreciated.

Read this.

http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011 ... intuitive/

Read especially well the paragraph about 'giving her space'.

Then read the whole blog.

Thanks.

Was freaking out a bit last night when I posted this.

If its space she seems to want, then that's what she'll get. While at the same time me exploring my options

I don't know. I read the story and I could be wrong but nothing sounded all that out of the ordinary. She just didn't respond to a couple texts instantly. And she even responded to them later. You might be overreacting.

I completely agree the answer is to just give her a little space. You spent a lot of time together lately. Give her a chance to miss you. Then if she doesn't contact you in a few days, casually contact her. If you don't get good responses then, that might be more concerning. But at the moment it seems perfectly fine to me.

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I dont get why guys text so much. Don't you have things to keep you busy? Even if I had the time to text that much I would not because there are so many valuable things you can do instead.

Also, do you usually initiate texts?

and lol at her calling you out for $20. What a bitch. After 6 months in being in a relationship she actually cares about a 20. Do you usually take her out? Does she ever pay?

It looks like you are investing more into the relationship then her. Also texting her more then once and then calling shows that you have nothing better to do and that you care more. If you are not a challenge who has his own life then she will lose attraction. It sounds like she knows she has you so she's not worried. Don't forget to maintain a cool unphased frame. You are the prize, not her. Your actions must demonstrate that.

Thanks for the post man.

I do have my own life, one that she is well aware of. She usually initiates texts, though I have initiated a few more times recently (which I am done with by the way). I sent the last text yesterday afternoon and will not be contacting her until I hear from her first.

Part of the issue is that neither one of us really cares much for talking on the phone, and we only get to see each other a couple times a week most weeks due to her working so much and my commitments during the week (I play on a pool league on Sundays and Tuesdays, and do weekly trivia on Thursdays with friends). So texting is a big way that we communicate. I was not always like that, but frequent texting works for this relationship.

Turns out the reason she was mum and being a bitch WAS because of the $20. I don't blame her for bringing it up (I would too in her shoes) but I would be nice about it and view it as an honest mistake.

She did not do this. Instead, she asked me why I shorted her, saying that it seemed sketchy, almost insinuating that I shorted her $20 intentionally. I said that if she thinks that I would actually do something like that intentionally, then we have issues we need to discuss. We went back and forth on this and I explained that I had a stack of 20's in my pocket and mistakenly counted out 5 x 20's instead of 6. I do not like having my intergrity questioned, especially by my GF and had plenty of reason to really make a big thing about this.

Only reason I didn't is because she just got laid off (her main job ends the end of this month) and is stressed and hyper sensitive about money right now. If something like this comes up again where she brings my character into question, I will likely end it.

I pay probably about 60% percent of the time. The rest we either split or occasionally she will pay. The hotel stay for instance we split 50/50. She is a hard worker and isn't looking for a sugar daddy so I am not worried about that. But the way she came off on the $20 thing was uncalled far, plain and simple.

But you are right, I think I have more vested in this than she does and she thinks she has me. An ex of mine recently texted me out of the blue and I will be bringing this up casually in conversation the next time I see her. She has brought stuff up like this in the past "this guy at work hit on me, my ex posted on facebook page, etc" likely to see what my reaction would be. I am the prize and she needs to realize this.

Aside from being more unavailable, focusing on my own life, talking and hanging with friends (especially those that are girls), any other way to reinforce that I am a challenge? I think I get the idea, just wanted to check to see if there wasn't something obvious I was missing.

Thanks again.

Please tell me you guys are still teens. What she did is a huge red flag. After 6 months, to bring up $20 like that. I feel disgusted just reading about it. Sounds like a low class woman. I honestly would have taken out $50 from my wallet and ripped it infront of her face to show how little I give a fuck about money, and I'm a pretty calm person.

My opinion is to game other girls while dumping her or still seeing her, up to you. She sounds low value, don't settle, life is short.

Thanks for the reply.

But I hope you were joking about tearing up $50. To actually do that is just dumb.

Money is money. If someone owed me $20, I would say something about it also. It's called being responsible and paying your debts.

Like I said, it was an honest mistake, just the way she approached it that I found unacceptable.

But thanks for your advice nonetheless.

I was not joking. I value money but it does not control me or my principles. There are things far more important. I know you made an honest mistake but her behavior was unacceptable. Maybe if you just started to go out and she didn't know you that well then you could be more understanding but after half a year? It's not about the money at all, that's the point of tearing it up...we may have different principles but I like to prioritize on the important things in life. If youre still gonna be with her I hope you at least learn from the experience and then you can better understand what I'm saying.

I hear and respect what you are saying.

But morals and principles don't pay the mortgage, buy groceries, etc.

I think we just have different priorities. Money is not my #1, but is definitely an important one.

Thanks again for your input.

I think that what Sly_Wolf is bringing up is not the value of money. It is the fact that this girl acted in a disrespectful manner. She handled the situation as if you were some untrustworthy scammer, rather than a serious respectable boyfriend who just happened to make a mistake.
Of course, money is the only thing that is going to pay the bills (I can hear my own voice trying to get the message across to my exGF who thought she could still spend her dad's money instead of getting a job at 26!). But if I mistakenly gave 20$ less than due to my GF, I would not expect her to jump at me and act mad about it. I would expect her to let me know I made that mistake and that it's no huge deal, it can be fixed next time we see each other.

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Oh ok. If that's what was implied, yes I agree 100%.

Thanks.

You are right, morals and principles do not pay the bills but money does not pay for respect and love either. She treated you worst then an acquaintance. It's unacceptable, you said it yourself and you seem fine with it. You know this girl better then any of us but she doesn't sound like someone I would respect and spend time with, not when there are so many better women who are not paranoid, cheap and disrespectful. Plus she is busy which is another minus in the relationship, unless you don't care about that.

Good luck, whatever happens you at least are aware of all sides so no matter what you will learn from it. That's much better then your average joe who keeps repeating mistakes and does not learn.

Thanks for the link.

I didn't really think the money thing was rude but I don't know the context. Either way I don't think it was a big deal, but the question I have is how did you seriously not count the 120.00 right?

Again, nothing you've said seems strange, but you're probably due for a small frost out.