Me, myself and I

First thing first: Who am I? Why should you guys take my advices? I'm just a 19 years old normal guy with basic knowledge in seduction. I've been aware of this community for maybe 2 years now, I've read a ton of books, e-books, videos about seduction, I've been going out at least once a week for the past two years (Why?because I simply love it and I always have a great time). Having read all those books and done everything that I done, I realized that I could simply NOT memorize everything they show you in pick up. No matter how hard I tried, I would always forget about 99% of stuff I was reading about pick up. So I just decided to "do me", and experience success/denies by myself, with the help of some basic pick up methods.

My dancefloor guide: mrmatt-dancefloor-club-game-vt128197.html?highlight=

Why did I create this journal?

Recently, I noticed that my game level has been dropping... I've been focusing too much on coaching a guy, school and other things that I forgot to focus on my own game. Which is why I decided to create this journal.

My situation


Recently, I've been thinking about getting a girlfriend. I used to be that type of guy who is all for the sex, but that changed...

Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find...

I could easily get a girlfriend if I only wanted one for the sake of it. In fact, there is 4 girls who craves to be with me, but I just don't see myself with them exclusively for a long period of term... I feel like personality is very important for a girlfriend so I could stay interested in her (Which would not happen if I only picked her for her appearance. On the other hand, I'm having so much success that I would need a really attractive women that I so I wouldn't feel the temptation to cheat on her... So basically, I'm looking for a beautiful girl with an amazing personality. Easier said than done.


My goals


- I want to be a better person.

- I want to maintain good grades at university.

- I want to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

- I want to find a girlfriend. That I truly love (Not just for the sake of it).

- I want to improve my inner and outer game (With the help of Chief's guide to outer game)

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Day 1

Yesterday, I went out for the first time in a couple of weeks so I didn't know what to expect. I had two goals in mind when I arrived:

- Enjoy the music and dance my ass off (I'm a hip hop dancer, so I actually enjoy dancing. I don't just do it to get girls) .

- Dance and number close a beautiful girl (Not just every girl).

How it really went

Like I said on my introduction post, I didn't focus on my game as much as I should lately so I was feeling a bit rusty, at first. I even wondered for a short moment if I would actually get to dance with a girl at all. That was not cool.

I also noticed I wasn't feeling that much comfortable while approaching that I used to be. The only explication for that is that I didn't open that much lately. As a matter of fact, I often go to the same 2 nightclubs. And since I've been flirting with tons of girls, I always see girls I know (sometimes I don't even recognize them) and they come to open me.

As for yesterday, 3 groups of girls I knew opened me. 2 sets that I didn't care much and left, and the last one was 2 of the hottest girls in the club who've been hooking up with my friends.

I hanged out with these girls a bit then I left to do my own things. At one point when I was dancing alone on the dancefloor, they saw me and came up to me. Huge DHV. They both jump on me, I start grinding with the two hottest girls in the club (And they both are professional dancer, so that's an attention dragger). One of them lifting my shirt. Every guy near me were like: Who the fuck is that guy.
And every girl kept looking at me... Anyways, after a while I got bored of it and left to go get my own girl.

Walking in a really crowded place, I saw 2 girls leaning on the wall (one of her was freaking hot) and at the same time, something was smelling like shit near them. So I just look at them and make a gesture to tell how it smells like shit in here. Then I open with: Is that you that smell like that? (Great approach, I know... /sarcasm off). They bought it and were like: "Nooooo it's that guy!"

At that point I just back off to get away from the smell but I notice that they follow me. Maybe they were trying to show me that the smell really wasn't them. Anyways, this is when I knew it was game on. Started flirting with the hot girl but It was harder than with any other girl since she was a 9,5/10... Push and pull didn't really work since she must get approached by ton of guys all the time, so I had to adjust my game. I start dancing with her, and hell... She was an amazing dancer, with one hell of an ass. Probably the first time in the last year that I got a semi-boner from dancing with a girl.

But since it was the end of the night and I needed to find my friend, I didn't have the time to go for a k-close but I still took her number. She was giggling while she was giving out her number so I asked her whats up with that. And she was shocked because it was actually the second time in her life that she gave her real number to a guy she met at a club.

That must be a compliment.

Anyways, that was my night. I achieved both of my goals but I still didn't approach as much as I wanted. I'm trying to go out tonight and hopefully I will work on my opening!

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Day 2: Great/Weird/Awful night out

What I expected

It's Friday night! Everyone's ready to party and I finally convinced the guy I've been coaching lately to come with me. We were meeting up with a girl who hooked up with my best friend in the past but I wanted to game her and get out of the friend zone (She was really cute). Like I said on my last post, I also wanted to work on my approaches so I was planning on approaching many sets.

So yeah, that's what I expected from yesterday's night.


What really happened

In reality, my plan didn't work out AT ALL. First of all, my friend got really drunk and then admitted me that he had a crush on the girl I was about to game... I've been winging him all the time recently (I even found him a fuck buddy) so I told him that I wouldn't wing him for that girl this time since I wanted to get her.

The girl arrives, we talk a bit, and it was just so fucking weird. My friend was pushing it so hard even if she wasn't interested at all. At that point, I'm just "fuck it" so I leave them since I don't want to waste my time looking at a friend of mine harassing the girl I want.


So yeah, I don't know if the night was great or not... I had fun with girls but didn't fully close anything and got cock blocked by my own friend all night long.

After a while, she texts me and come meet me alone upstairs and that's when I start gaming her. I could clearly see that I was in the friend zone but this was about to change... Teased her a lot, cocky&funny and at one point I started dancing with her, I could see that I was still "just a friend" but I was confident this was about to change. However, things could have been MUCH simpler, if my wing didn't try to cock block me every time! For example, at one point when I am dancing with her, he comes up to us and start talking to the girl, so I stop dancing and let him talk to her...

Her: Want do you want, seriously?
Him: Well you know what I want. It's not up to me. It's up to you...
Her: what the fuck are you talking about?
Him: You know... I want to dance with you.

So she basically started dancing with him for 10 secs, said: "There you go, you danced with me." and went back to me. Anyways, I figured out I'd show you an example of what he done ALL night long. It was getting really annoying.

This is where the night got interesting. At one point when I was just teasing this girl, a HB8 I previously hooked up with came up to me. We chatted a bit, no big deal, but I could tell that this was annoying my girl. So I went back to her. But not even 10 minutes later, another girl, HB9 (Really hot) that I made out with a couple of times came up to me. I talked with her a bit and we started dancing. This single moment is where everything changed. This is when I clearly jumped out of the friend zone. I saw her get really jealous, she gave me back my hat and my hoodie (That she was wearing) and left. I danced for 5 minutes with the HB9,5 before leaving to the bathroom and I then proceeded to text my girl to ask her where she was. When she found out that I left that really hot girl just to come back to her, she was so surprised. I grabbed her, she followed me upstairs (FINALLY ALONE) and I told her we would play a little game.

The cube.

At first, I could tell that she was not really into it. Short answers but with strong/direct kino, good eyes contact and a deep voice, I managed to get her going and I could really see the sparkling in her eyes. When I was done, it was a done deal. She was clearly into me. She was following me no matter where I went, she grabbed my hand and wanted me to come see her friends. Then we went on the dancefloor and it wasn't the same. I could see the attraction that wasn't there earlier. It was just a matter of time before I k-close and f-close her.

But...

What had to happen...

Happened.

The needy wing that my friend is saw us, came to us and did his things... When the girl was not 1 meter away from us, he told me: "Hey man, do what you got to do with her man, and do it great for me. I'm not man" and etc...

I mean... What the fuck was that... It's not like I needed his approbation or anything. The girl then asked me if we we're in some sort of competition and he kept fucking everything up. And that point, I was so fed up of his drunk behavior that I said: Fuck off, we're leaving.

I tried to explain him everything he did on the way home and he got really mad. I will tell him the next time I see him that I never want to see him that drunk ever again if he wants to go out with me...

As for the girl, she texted me and I can tell that I did my job right and am no longer in the friend zone. We should meet next week.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Okay, much things have been going on recently. Here's a post I wrote on the forum that pretty much explains my mindset.

I didn't write it in here since I was actually looking for replies!

Link: here-vp620151.html#620151

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Okay, lately I've been through lot of stuff and I didn't have much time to game. However, I had a weird weekend and hopefully, next week will be better!

Friday night

Friday, I went to a house "party" with 3 of my buddies. Actually, it wasn't really a party but some girls we met at a club last week wanted us to come so we gave it a go. They were 12 girls so I figured out it would be a good opportunity to practice my game.

I'm not gonna lie, at first it was pretty awkward since we didn't know anyone. Personally, I never seen those girls since I was with other girls last week. So we arrive and they are pretty much all sitting around a table and drinking. While my friends stayed up and weren't really talking to these girls, I joined them at a table and I started talking to everyone. I felt like a TV host for the first 30 minutes, making jokes and everything. While I was secretly analyzing everyone of them.

Of those 12 girls, 3 were with my friends, 1 was a whore, 3 were single (But not my style) and the rest were in relationship. That being said, there was only 1 girl in the whole party that I found really attractive, and I wanted to game her even if her boyfriend came at the party later that night!

Basically, I just kept drinking, saying bunch of crap, making good jokes and enjoying my time the whole night. The only time I was actually thinking about what I was doing is when I was with the cute blond who was with her boyfriend.

Fast enough, I noticed that she was an attention seeker and that the more I would tease her, the better it would be! At first, she was at the opposite side of the table so I had no chance of really talking to her. But after throwing a few bombs here and there, she started moving until she was next to me. At that point, I was literally hitting on her (and for Christ sake, it was working) when her boyfriend was sitting next to her, and I was trowing high five at him while doing so... Not gonna lie, I felt bad for the kid.

At the end of the night, 2 of the 3 single girls asked for my number.. Didn't get the cute blond number since her boyfriend was there but I'm pretty sure it won't be so hard to get her, if we ever see them again!

Overall, 2 number closes, which I won't text or call... and if I do, it'll be to get the blond's number! So yeah, fun night... Except maybe at one point, the girl who was trowing the party had her brother and his drunk friends trying to pick on us. One of them started insulting me and wanted to fight, didn't react at all... Great meditation exercise!

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Saturday night


After a relax friday night, I really wanted to go out and have fun, maybe bring a girl home.

I called a girl I flirted with a couple of time and met up with her at the club. Within 5 minutes, I was making out with her so I was pretty sure it was a done deal. Funny thing, I saw 3 other girls I know (already made out with) while I was with that girl and I think jealousy got the best of them since they texted me later to tell me how come I didn't stay with them and bla bla bla...

So yeah, the night goes on, I'm getting ready to leave. I tell her to come with me tonight but what had to happen happened... She was driving and she was lifting her friends... Or at least, that's what she told me. So yeah, went home alone


I don't think I will call her to meet up with her again... I gave her a chance and she didn't take it. That's how I roll!

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Quick update

Managed to get the cute blond's number and she is clearly interested in me. However, from what I understood, she won't cheat on her boyfriend and I think I will put her on standby until she is single.


Here's some of the texting I did with her. Looks like she texted me alot and I had a real hard time with it! Tell me how I should've handle it, from your perspective!

Texting:

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Texting:

Basically, she has been giving out a lot of mixed signals and I don't even know what to think anymore. On another note, my text game is not top notch and I've been having an hard time trying to frame the conversation.

Actual conversation:

... Doing small talk... (Everytime she asked something about me and I didn't answer, she kept asking. She was basically leading the interaction. At one point, I tell her that I would like to invite her to X place)

Her: Would be cool but sorry, for the moment I got a boyfriend
Me: Pfft, look at you, already thinking that I'm trying to seduce you, your unbelievable!
Her: Oh ok good to know, so you talk like this to all the girls you meet? Even to my friend X?
Me: Maybe your cute, but I need more in order to be attracted to someone!
Her: I could say the same about you, but I have a boyfriend so I wont... But if you know you can get someone better than me, talk to me in a way that it won't be weird, especially since you know I have a boyfriend! :O

(Really mindfucked me, didn't know what to think)

Me: You just said I was cute btw
Her: Yeah and??? like you said there's alot of cute people out there, your not the first I see :0

(Small talk... At one point I tell her I could basically talk to her a bit and know her better than most of her friends)

Her: First of all I don't have anything to prove to you, blah blah... Been with older guy than you (I was teasing her about her age), including one of them who I really loved and who passed away, and now I'm with a boyfriend that I love. I like to dance, read, etc... I'm a blah blah blah girl so don't try to read me, I already told you everything about me. And I really hate when someone try to play with me like you are doing right now!

(Really. Really, destroyed my frame. Woah... ok? At that point, I know I had to show a bit of my good side so I started talking a bit nicer, ended up doing the cube routine on her via phone for the first time and it ended up working perfectly. She was "petrified" how accurate it was. Since then, she's been nicer to me, but when she is always curious about why I want to see her again, what makes her different from her friend (I actually told her that, and she's been asking me why like 5 different times over the past 4 days...)

How do you guys deal with girls like her that are really unpredictable and give out a lot of mixed signals... At that point I'm not even sure if should just wait until she is single and invite her somewhere or try to fuck her while she is still with her boyfriend. Ugh.... Psychology....

(Side note, she is really really cute, If I managed to sleep with her, I would probably want to see her again)

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Shitty weekend, from start to end:

Awful weekend. I can't wait to next week just so I can forget about this pathetic weekend. Jeez.

First of all, Canada's government raised to price of beers so I had to pay 40$ for a 24-pack of beers that I used to pay 28$!


FRIDAY NIGHT


Anyways... Even if I was really tired on Friday night, I still decided to go out with a friend of mine. However, he is rather shy so I knew it wouldn't have a typical night out and I would actually have to babysit him a little... His phone fucked up (he was driving) and the place was really crowded so we couldn't really split up for long. That's already a bad sign... But still, we chat a bit while drinking a couple of beers until we finally decide to go on the dancefloor.

We've been on the dancefloor for not even 5 minutes when a blond hipster comes up to me. Oh mother of god! It was the girl I invited on Saturday at my friend's party! Since I wasn't completely sober , took me a good 30 seconds to fully understand what was happening, so I decided to tease her and act like if I didn't remember her. Apparently, she didn't really like it and she went back to her friends. Knowing I fucked up, I told my friend that I would come back to him in 10 minutes because I had something to fix. Went back to the girl, talked to her a bit but she wanted me to dance with her. Damn she was hot tonight! Small summer dress with a nice g-string!

Danced with her for about 10-15 minutes, and then she wanted me to come meet her friend. I told her I had to find my friend and I would come see her again afterwards. Took me a while to find my friend. Then I told him I would wingman him until he find a girl and only then, I would come back to my girl.

-.-

Didn't work out at all. He was being so picky, didn't even find one girl he could actually dance with. And I didn't find my girl later that night since the place was so packed up. So basically, not even a k-close for a night I could've easily f-close.


SATURDAY NIGHT

I was just having a relax Saturday night at my friend's place. The blond girl I saw Friday told me that she was probably coming, but she ended up saying she was too tired and flaked.

I tried to invite more of my girls but at that point it was too late and they all had an excuse or something planned. I felt desperate for the first time in months.

Now it's been a couple of bad weekends in a row, and I'm starting to think that my game level has decreased quite a lot lately... Don't know what to think of.

Amen.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Hello guys, it's been a while since I last updated my journal!

quick update


First of all, I've been busy with work and school a lot lately, but still found a little bit of time to go out.

Meh lay

Yesterday, I went to foufs and met up with a girl whom I saw 2 times a couple of months ago. Basically told her right from the start I was bringing her home. She was fine with it. We arrived at my place, directly go in bed and as we get down to business. Then it happened... I've been really horny lately and all throughout the night, so after I fingered her, I think I came after like 2 minutes. And I'm saying "I think" because I am not sure, and I kept going. But my condoms we're so effing small, It was hurting me and I broke two... After another 15 minutes, I came again... Still not sure... At that point I only wanted to go to sleep, mad at my own penis.

The next morning, stimulated her clits and made her orgasm in about 5 minutes, but afterwards when she started jerking off, she asked me if I came (after like 15 sec) and I'm pretty sure I didn't. But there was a SHITLOAD of pre-cum. Jeez, so many things fucked up. I might call another booty call on saturday just to forget that lame performance!

On the other hand

I've been interacting a lot with this "crazy" girl and she is really starting to interest me. She is actually the first girl who I actually ask on a "real" date since last summer. She could be a potential girl friend so I guess time will tell. We have a date in 2 weeks!

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Update

Hello guys, I just finished my semester! Summer time!

So yeah, I still don't know if I'll be partying my ass off for most of the summer of if I shall try to find a regular girl (A.K.A a girlfriend). Things been going well with a few interesting girls. However, I'm not even sure if I will see "crazy girl" again. She told me a few things which I really didn't like this weekend. I didn't react at all, knowing it's better to prevent myself from cracking up, but I didn't really answer her either.

Anyways, I'm going out this weekend to have a good time. Most probably will try to pick up some girls too, but hey, that's just me!

Take care guys!

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Summer time

Hello everyone, not sure if anyone ever read this journal, but still, it's been a while since I last updated it!

So yeah, things have been going well for me.

I finished school, started working so I'm not that broke anymore (for the moment)!

Lately, I've been seeing only one girl and I'm starting to like her (she is a potential gf), I've spent 4 of the last 5 days with her. However, I know that I must stay in contact with my other fuck buddies because if I don't, I might get too needy (I know myself

She is probably the first girl in a year that can actually hold my interest and I think it's great! For those who asked me who I met her, I actually knew her for a while now since we went at the same high school and I had a crush on her. But I met her randomly at a club a couple of times and I flirted with her. Invited her at my place for a movie date the a couple of days later and I can't wait to see what will happen with this! And if it doesn't work out, well... Still have my old FB

N.B. Been using a lot of 60yoc stuff with her and it's working great.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist