hey sexaddict911

Thanks for the advice, really appreciate it man.

I will definitely try that style text; was thinking of relating it to a gig we went to and our favourite song which has kissing in its title to make it more personal and hopefully evoke happy positive memories.

She's been away recently so I've decided to wait a couple of days until I see her again at college and reinitiate contact so it won't seem totally random (I feel it couldd seem a bit creepy otherwise?)

Anyway I'll keep you posted with how it goes and her reactions.

Thanks dude

The_Aspiring_Man

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Never worry about being creepy, unless you actually have creepy intentions. There is nothing wrong with initiating any type of contact. As long as you don't over do it, or give off an impression of desperation or neediness.

If you are already in good rapport with her, you should not fear randomly messaging her. If you are more comfortable with waiting until you see her again, then by all means wait. It's always best to work within your most comfortable state of mind.

Good luck, I look forward to your update.

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Question to SA - you're playing the "nice guy who is also very sexy" type of game which is similar to what I'm doing. I remember you said that you're always very polite, very correct, that if you say something "wrong" you apologize, that you act very gentlemanly, and then you're also very sexual and keep escalating physically towards sex. The combination of these two elements is very powerful.

My question is - do you also "push" the girls away sometimes or is that something that you avoid doing entirely? For example, would you ever tell a girl something like "you know, you're really cute but too bad you're not my style" or would say "that's disappointing" on something she says so you would "flip" the scrip and make her chase you? Do you ever do this? Only in certain cases?

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It's usually younger chicks who would act like this. When I was 20 I had two 17 years old who were best friends, stop talking with each other because of me. Women in their mid 20s and up, IF they are normal healthy adults, wouldn't behave like that. (it's a big if - 30% of people have some sort of a personality disorder).

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I always seem to find that 30% to date...

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hey sexaddict911

Thought I'd also pick your brains on a conundrum that confuses me. Maybe given your experience and knowledge you can help explain it, seeing as your a highly perceptive person (I saw your past post on high school late teens and it is scarily accurate!)


The thing I have always found bewildering is the fact that at my school there are some genuinelly lovely girls who I am friends with, and think are intelligent, have heard them talking about how pissed off they get with this 'playboy/douchebag' due to his infidelity. I am (loose) friends with this 'playboy/douchebag' - mainly because I'm one of the few people in my year able to talk to everyone and be friendly with all. What I find astounding about this dick is that he gets so much.

Why is this so if everyone knows he will fuck it up/piss you off?

He constantly has a gf or a fuck buddy despite the girls' knowledge that he will screw them over and cheat. Only one or two girls recognise this in my year - something I find crazy and stupid really! From an outsider's point of view I know that he fools them with bullshit about how he's reformed and really cares for the girl(s) he goes for.

What I want to know is, do you think that the girls keep on going for him because of his reputation (I read your past post on the college badboy image)? Will it last? Is it this image that helps and if so is there another way to obtain a similar status/status with the same pulling power without the douchebag effect?

I would love to have the same sexual status but without the stigma - this guy is secretly loathed by many I know but are too scared to admit it.

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Hell, I can answer that one. The reason girls keep going for him is twofold. One, when he's around them, being his usual attractive self, they aren't thinking about his reputation. Two, especially at that young age, a lot of girls are cocky and think "well, he won't cheat on ME"

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I am the nice guy, it's not an act, and yes I am very sexual so both come very natural. I am very polite, but here's the thing, this is generally upon approach and to build comfort, I still always have somewhat of an edge with my sexuality, even before I make it conscious. It's already there with my body language. Once I make it conscious, this usually balances everything, as a sexual frame of mind is very much a "bad boy" frame. Sex is naughty, sex is BAD!(pun intended).

Once I have her engaged sexually I am not so polite, not so nice, I become dominant. Women love this. Guy's love a sweet in in the street, freak in the sheets type woman. SO DO WOMEN( with men) Just trade the freak in the sheets, for being dominant sexually.

Find the perfect balance and you can become a lady killer.


I honestly never think of what I am going to do, push or pull.....It's more of a situational response. I give the women the push that I feel need it and pull the ones that don't. If they are showing a lot of interest but not responding enough to my sexuality then I will push. If I know for a fact she is good to go for sex, I will push.

Examples like those two are generally when I push. Or when I already have a high social value, in demand, have lots of prospective interests present.

In general I am a pull type of guy.

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High school is all about popularity, popularity is all about any type of reputation. The guy that pulls a lot of women get respect from all the guys that can't. Even if they know he's a douche-bag,
who cares, he banging all the women. As for the women they want the challenge, they want to be the one that was significant enough to change him. Either way, even when the girls are discussing how much of a douche bag he is, he is still being talked about. His status is high. I am also assuming he is good looking as well.

In high school, high status= high desirability.

All he really has to do is show these girls a sensitive side, expose some type of vulnerability while he maintains a bad boy image. Then tell them what they want to hear, he could have sex with them all.

The stigma is helping him maintain the status.

Unfortunately, all the BS he tells them is working. This stuff works in high school, but once a chick is tricked a few times, they tend not to fall for it so easy. BUT! if there is ever a time to play the BS game, it's in high school. As you get older, it's not so easy.

The only way for you to have your cake and eat it too, is to be ultra sexual.

Target the hot chicks that are not in the main social circles. The good looking loners, the outcast, there's always hot loner/shy girls in high school.

Keep it secret, keep it sexual. You'd be surprised, how sexually open the shy type girls can be once they are comfortable with you.

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You are not a nice guy(accommodating, and wimpy patterns of behavior), poetic has the same problem understanding this, you are A GOOD GUY, not the typical nice guy... There is a difference...

this is a nice guy:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/ ... guys.shtml

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That's a good link 360, thanks. I think "good guy" is a better way to put it. Being a good guy and also hyper sexual is a killer combination.

SA - You've been good with women since your teens so you are 100% naturally like that, all the time. I'm a "nice Jewish boy" after a 9 year relationship... In the past year I had to completely rewire my brain. When I'm "on" then I'm the same. Good but dominant and hyper sexual. But sometimes I feel that I'm "out of it" and that's why I'm trying to bring in more structure and routines into my game so I can force it even when I'm "out of it", if that makes sense.

Your line "What fucks like a tiger and winks? " is an excellent metaphor for the essence of your game.

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Tell me the basics of what to do on the first week of higjschool if i want a high reputation. Im not good looking due to my acnes. What would be best for me to do? I have many popular friends, just not girls. Gonna fix this problem with your advices.

Thanks in advance.

This ^^^ is your biggest issue. Good looking is a state of mind, if you cannot consider yourself a good looking person, why would anyone else. Looks alone do not create the desirable man. This must come from inner confidence, general likeability and your ability to connect to others.


A perfect example is that cute girl you know that when you first met her, you didn't really find her attractive, but after you got to know her she became attractive.


Inside yourself or outside, you never have to change what you see, only the way you see it~~ Thaddius Gollas.

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Follow this link, take high dosis of panthotenic acid, and get topical nicinamide(b5)

http://gmuntz.tripod.com/

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