I've been seeing/hooking up with this chick for about a month now. She was brought into my circle of soccer friends through one of my teammates (and friend). She liked him, and I knew it, but he didn't seem interested in her so I went for it, and I got her. We had a really good relationship going and were on our way to becoming official/exclusive, with one hitch, she wanted to keep the thing we had going on between us for the time being. OK fine, it had only been a couple weeks and this leaves me as an available target for other women. Then she got really sick about 2 weeks ago and I didn't really offer her much other than some words of comfort, this is when some distance started to build, but it actually was a good thing in my opinion. She went from texting me all day long, to much less frequent, which I prefer. I felt kind of bad for being selfish during her illness and decided to surprise her with some flowers, nothing special just a couple flowers from wegmans costing me 8 bucks. We had soccer last night, so my friend, her and I were all there. I gave her the flowers before we all went home and she loved them, but I didn't see the reaction I was expecting. When she got home she posted on facebook "Weird situations! :/"

I obviously don't know all the details since I haven't brought this up, ever. But I assume she is conflicted between me and the other guy on my soccer team. So my question for you guys is, what do you think is going on based on these events? What do I say to her? My first reaction is to walk away, but do I say anything to her? What should I do? Thanks.

Unless your under 18 never spend less that £20 on flowers. Cheap flowers are worse than no flowers.

What a tool.. Yeah how about you buy her an iphone instead?

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Mate, she probably is seeing him too. Why don't you see other girls at the same time before you build a oneitis?

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Because an iphone is comparable to a £20 bunch of flowers? Being cheap isnt an attractive trait.

It doesn't have to do with being cheap or not.. 20 quid+ for flowers is expensive though. Between all that he has to say, you only commented about how cheap the flowers are? That should be the least important thing for you

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The point of the flowers was to show her I care about her being ill and hope she gets well. I don't feel that buying expensive flowers is necessary unless it is a bigger occasion (birthday, v-day etc). I also don't think he is interested in her, or anyone for that matter. He has a kid and spends a great deal of time with his sons mother, I have never seen or heard of him spending time with any one else in the 1-2 years I have known him. His situation is odd though and I'm not sure what's going on there. She (my girl) may be seeing him, but I'm not sure of that yet. I don't feel that she is, but I also don't want to be ignorant. I'm keeping my mind open at this point. So on to my other questions. Do I walk away? And if I do, do I say anything to her? If it turns out she does like him and he isn't interested in her, and I walk away... she will be left with nothing. I guess that gives me a good deal of power, eh? But this scenario includes a lot of assumptions. I would like to take the option that will most likely result in her chasing me. I have built a great deal of comfort and I KNOW she likes me. What do I do??

Edit: I also know see other girls is going to be the common reply, and I plan to. But that's what I should do with myself, I'm looking for what to do with her?