Whats up guys,

I just registered on the forum here after reading stuff for a couple of days. I need some help with a recent girl I came into contact with. Im staying in a hotel for a couple of days and there was a cute girl behind the lobby. Talked with her a couple of times, just basic hotel questions blabla. Ofc she has to be friendly and stuff, but I felt like she enjoyed talking with me because she asked questions besides the std hotel stuff, like where i come from etc, what im doing here, where i was going out (when i was about to leave around midnight). That night after going out, she was doing the night shift and it wa rly quiet at the hotel. I came back around 3am (little drunk but not so much) and we talked for almost an hour about all kinds of stuff. I number closed her. I really felt that there was a certain vibe between us. Even when I said that I was going to my room she asked me two more questions (that require a longer answer). We also kinda agreed on holding a date in 2 days from that moment.

I went to my room and sended here a text so she had my number too:

'Not sure if I said my name, its xxx, if you were not sure under what name to save it on. Have a good night (in filipino)'

'Oh thanks, I already know your name, haha brilliant I didnt know that you speak filipino. Ty, you still not sleepy?'

I fell asleep before receiving it. In the afternoon I sended her

'I actually fell asleep right after sending . But hey, would you be up for grabbing a dinner together later tonight? Tomorrow (initial plan) is gonna be a bit tough for me'

Now she didnt reply anymore (for 2 days). So im not sure what I should text her next since I dont wanna look too needy. I didnt see her at the desk after that night too.

You shouldn't have explained yourself about falling asleep and you shouldn't have asked "Would you be up for grabbing a dinner together tonight"

Personally, I would have just said "Me. You. Dinner tonight, somethings come up tomorrow"

I think you could of brought her to you're room for a quick one, its exciting and adventurous; girls melt for stuff like that.

nevertheless, if you haven't reignited anything by now, a phone call wouldn't hurt. Just call her up

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how do i deal with girls flaking out? a lot of my first dates (almost 50%)are getting cancelled when the girl txts me earlier in the day saying something like:

'hi, i cant make it tonight because (insert tenious excuse here). sorry x'

First of all, how do i consolidate my dates better so this doesnt happen.

Secondly, how do i deal with this when it does happen? have tried couple of approaches and neither has lead to a date going ahead.

This is very frustrating as i have a few girls on the go now and when you set time aside to see someone and then you end up sittin at home alone cos the bitch woke up and didnt feel like it when you could have been out with another girl. grrr! noticed its only really first dates this happens with as girls iv seen before never flake out but girls i have number closed and then been txtn or started talkin to on fb tend to flake out a lot more.

Hope Eddie and some of the other more experienced guys can assist here as its doin my fuckin head in!

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Are you speaking with these women on the phone at all? Women are emotional and can become a little afraid and worried about meeting a new guy without a connection being established first. I try and go for a 20-30 mins(sometimes more) before the date and just talk about whatever comes to mind just to establish that comfort. I can't remember the last time I was flaked on by a girl I had a solid lengthy phone conversation with. Give this a shot

Also; if you are worried that a girl is going to flake because you haven't heard from her all day, on the day of the date text her something like " Don't forget to bring an extra pair of socks, i got the rest " This will at least reengage her because she will be wondering what the socks will be used for.

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top shout eddie! spoke brieflyon phone yday with the girl that flaked today but she couldnt talk for long as she was with her parents n stuff n didnt wana call bk after incase i looked too keen. but yeah from now on i will try an get the 20 mins in. lovin the socks txt as well, thats goin in my bag of tricks.

how would you reply to the flake out txt?

on this occaision i made an arse of it i reckon, to start with i tried to play it cool and rearrange then she was sayin she was busy over next couple of weeks and would let me know so i kinda went for broke with this:

'How bout you have a little think bout which guy you are going to cancel on to come out with me and give me a txt later, if not then take care hun x'

i realise this wasnt the way to go but i do not have a 'flake out recovery tactic' just yet. anybody got one?

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Lol rufas you got blown out yet you still persisted.

Then you blame the pua stuff - lolll

You did it all wrong

Message game is the easiest aswell especially when shes initiates

oh well learn from it but don't blame pua, you were just hopeless

my two cents - you didn't calibrate, she was already interested, you were that cheeky monkey then you say something like "what you gonna do about it"
always keep it short and snappy otherwise it looks like you care to much, keep it simple too, unless ur in a serious indepth conversation...

calibration my friend, work out what stage ur at based on what her responses are

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ok.

With a flake, you just respond in the way you would if you had 3 other girls waiting for you to hang out with them if you're current date flaked.. Think about that for a second and then answer you're own question.

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your the man eddie, cheers again

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I'm Just glad I could help

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Ii picked up this hb8.5 in the mall a few days ago, we've been texting. yesterday during a text i was building rapport before asking her out in the next day or two. All was going good when I started qualifying her, she had me really stumped with some of her responses possible shit test, plz help out.

6/12/2012

Me: What do you do for adventure?
HB: Have sex
Me: Respect. Wats your craziest sex story/fantasy?
HB: This guy fucked me so bad I was crying
Me: Not bad... Can u cook?
HB: Yes .do you want to fuck me

** I didn't know what to say right away**

6/13/2012

Me: Whoa there tiger. I still want to get to know you first. Im not that easy.
HB: Ok. Do u want to eat my pussy?

** Obviously she really straightforward or shes shit testing me double time.**

I was thinking of replying:

ME: Geez, your so needy. I don't know who your last bf was, but he didn;t spank you enough.

Should I reply with that??? Or Can you someone give me some suggestions plz


How would some of you guys replied? What do you think of my reply?

im no expert by any means mate and still takin a lot of advice myself but i think this girl might just be wanting fucked. i overthink things at times and i think thats maybe what your doing. id go with something like:

'well, ill come pick you up and we'll see if you can convince me x'

It turns the tables and makes a game of her seducing you, iv used it before in similar situ and its worked. maybe wait n see what eddie says tho.

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Hey, basically, a girl I've been talking to has a LTR with someone else, but wants a FB, which I want to be me. She's hinted towards it, but we haven't went there yet. What can I say to her to better qualify me for that position?

Thanks, this sounds good. I was thinking maybe doing something similiar. Maybe I'm over thinking it, even though she is a 8.5 so, my thinking is shes probably getting hit on a good bit. I did deflect her first shit test text but maybe instead of neggin her, I should turn the tables as you suggested.

I'll wait a little longer to see what eddie says and then text her.