The Importance of Focus:
Focus is usually important so that you know what to do. But when I say focus, I mean all your energies into what you want to accomplish. Within us we have drives...food drives, sex drives, pride. We want love, we want financial security. A man must be able to reflect on himself and think about what he wants? Why do you do the things that you do? Do you want affection? Attention? Validation? Are you afraid? Are you angry and what to take it out on something? All these things are what drive us.
When I say focus you take all drives and you focus it on what you want to achieve. So if you tell yourself I am not going to eat all day if I don't talk to this girl, if you tell yourself I will never have any kind of sex again if i dont approach this woman (see modern man has a way out...the internet lol), what if you tell yourself if I pull this girl then all the guys will respect me, if I pull this girl my dad will be proud of me, if you tell yourself if I pull this girl shes gonna be my sugar momma and by me good shit, If i don't pull this girl I am going to literally just drop dead....i guarantee you would approach the girl because you have focused your energies intensely upon her and believed these statements (these energy focusing affirmations). Now back to affirmations , by repeating your affirmations you believe, you would believe those statements. And those statements would pysche you up. Notice how I use fear as fire. You have to be able to take disrespect, fear, doubt, hurt and focus it.
Michael Jordan once said "my pain was my motivation"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PH8nTfxwByY
This is MJ's hall of Fame speech
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLzBMGXfK4c
A lot of people did not like his speech because of how angry and bitter it sounded. However, in his speech he was talking about how he took negative energy directed at him and refocused it in a productive direction in order to motivate him to succeed and become the best player of all time. It does not matter if it is right or wrong, true or false all that matters is that it worked. And these feelings would have been inside of him any way these drives were within him but instead of letting them work against him or go to no use...he used them.
Here are the rules of Focus:
1.) The certainty that something you don't want to happen will happen if you do something will discourage you.
2.) The certainty that something you want to really happen will happen if you do something will encourage you.
"A man should not strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them: they are legitimately what directs his conduct in the world." (Sigmund Freud)