I'll take 7B for a $1000, Alex.

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Hey SexAddict, I have a few related question for ya.

I stumbled across this the other day. I travel for work every 2-8 weeks right now and don't have a solid place. Basically my place(s) just have furniture. I brought a girl back to my place and cooked some food, but something was off there... felt empty and boring is the best way I can put it.

Two scenarios. What things do or would you have at your place to make it interesting? Perhaps things you have to talk about, or things you can do to have some fun playful interactions?

1. You bought a house and can do/add whatever you want to it. (Will have my own place soon)
2. You travel and can only take certain things with you.

The best thing I can think of is a tv, but traveling doesn't permit me to take a tv with me everywhere I go.

Another question. I know you mention you don't ever have a certain routine, but there has to be some things that you do in most or a lot of the interactions from the time you bring her home to bringing her to your bed. Can you describe a somewhat typical interaction from once you get her to your house to getting her to your bed? And how much time does this usually take?

For your new place, take a tour around your local area, street markets, street vendors, etc etc. Find local art that is unique, if you can actually buy any type of interesting art directly from the artist, chat with the artist for a bit, they will sometimes have very unique stories about what inspired them to create the piece or just interesting stories in general. You can use that as a conversation piece.
1) Lap top with a small portable speaker. This will allow you to play music,( asking her to pick the music will give you a better idea of her typical emotional state as well as open her up emotionally) watch interesting programs, movies, shows, etc etc. ( if you do not have local internet available, invest in a satellite laptop. You should have online access in a majority of area's.

2) A deck of cards. Learn some fun games to play with two people.


It all depends on the target at hand and what type of connection you have already built with her prior to getting her home. If you have already established sexual tension and have escalated physically, it just a matter of creating some quick comfort, as in letting her feel safe in the new environment. ( your place)

If you have yet to establish a connection and or sexual tension through physical touch, it may take a little longer to create the comfort. Always wait till you have established comfort, before trying to escalate physically. Learning to observe her body language is a great tool in knowing when she has become completely comfortable. It should become quite obvious, look for signs of her being relaxed. Get a good look at her body mannerisms when you first walk in and look for the subtle change. Laxed shoulders, jacket off, sitting on couch cross legged or feet up rather then feet on the ground. Her touching you, and most general signs of comfort. You should notice an overall difference after awhile.

Generally a good bottle of wine and deep thought provoking conversation will work wonders on any woman.

In general it is up to you to seduce the woman, as all women are different it is very difficult for me to give you a set routine or structure. I can however give you a guideline of steps to take.

1) build comfort ( through conversation and polite actions and humor)
2) create a connection ( deep conversation, trigger some emotions, relate to them)
3) show your physical interest, initiate touch, react according to her reactions)
4) Escalate physically and verbally ( open her up sexually through conversation, this will allow you to gauge her availability for sex)
5) Take control, go for the kiss, if she responds well, keep going till you feel her completely letting go, then simply pick her up and carry her to your room(works best after a couple of glasses of wine but is not a prerequisite)

I hope this gives you a better idea of how to progress through a typical seduction, but as I said before, all women are different, and it will inevitably be up to you.

If you can be successful in achieving the steps above, you should have a great chance of sealing the deal.

If you get good at this, it should only take a couple of hours to progress to the bedroom. Follow the signs, keep an eye on her body language, they are generally the best cue's to how well your seduction is progressing.

If you need a better guideline of cue's look up the body language post by poeticlyskuac ( in this forum) it is an excellent guide.

Good luck, let me know if you have any follow up questions.

Cheers.

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"Seduce their mind and the rest will follow"...I'm pretty sure this is the best advice you could provide!


Peace...

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Hey SexAddict911

Would love to tap into your experience and wisdom. First off respect to you, for being so successful with women, and now trying to help us young newbies haha

Anyway so basics with me is I'm 17 and....

I really like this girl who is a good friend of mine, broke up with her bf about 6months ago. I started to develop feelings for her about just under 1 month ago now; several months before then, she fancied me and was super flirty - however at the time I only saw her as a friend and liked someone else (I'm not the kinda lad who like other guys in my year at school would just drop their targets and go for her - although I greatly regret this now and wish I had taken what was on offer when she was into me)

I have started to try and build up the attraction levels between us again, with a little success I think. However I'm not 100% sure if it's me imagining it/telling myself to interpret signs as signals that she is reciprocating or whether she is just being friendly.

Whenever I've been around her recently I have made a big concious effort to notice her, make eye contact and talk, no matter how brief our chat is. She is always smiling laughing when we do but she's normally kinda like that with most friends.

At a very laid-back chilled party a few days ago, I thought I'd try and test how much she liked me by seeing if she 'followed' me i.e socialised with the same group of people I was with or hovered in close proximity to where I was, and I noticed that she sort of did so. She brought a camera to this party and asked to have her picture posing with me 20 times - but I didnt want to look into this too much as she took a few hundred pictures that night. One other thing I noticed that night that I thought could be a sign was the fact that she came up to me during a certain song and said, "I always think of you whenever I hear this song, I don't know why".

I have also caught her looking at me once or twice side on - which I know is a good sign. Another one I had was recently as I've just done some exams and in the big exam hall with 50 people she was sitting a few rows to my right and in front, and at the end of the exam the first thing she did was turn to me and smile, something I returned so that our eyes locked for a few moments. I then followed it up by coming over to talk to her about it as she walked out but this chat lasted a few minutes as she had to leave, annoyingly!

Also, when I have tried texting her, the responses are mixed: sometimes the conversation flows and rebounds and other times she ends it.

She is perfectly happy touching me as at the party I tested her level of comfort by putting an arm around her waist, hugging from behind with head on her shoulder and grabbing her hands (although the last is what she is comfortable doing with various other male friends)

Yet her personality is quite gregarious, bubbly, happy and open; so that is why I have some doubts/apprehension about being more proactive and taking the plunge.

My questions are: a) What do you think I should do to progress our relationship/increase her sexual feelings for me?
b) Am I wasting my time? Personally I dont think I am, but Im slightly unsure as to whether Im getting mixed messages (I dont want to fall into the trap of extrapolating IOIs and jumping to conclusions)
c) Tips for getting more sexual tension in to my texts and making them hold her interest so that she wants to respond?


Sorry this is kinda long but i hope you'll read it and can help Any wisdom would be greatly appreciated please dude.

The_Aspiring_Man

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Based on what I have read, it would seem she has some attraction to you and perhaps even an emotional connection ( the song comment) It would seem she is basically waiting for you to step up. In a metaphorical sense you need to " PULL YOUR COCK OUT AND THROW IT ON THE TABLE" In other words, make a strong statement of interest. Women at any age, need a man to take charge and pursue them. It is the basic laws of human nature.

If you are finding it hard to make a strong statement of interest, you can always start off subtle and build up to it based on her reactions. If you wish to be subtle, you can do a few different things.

Something that could work for you but still not have to put yourself completely out there is to text her and tell her you had a dream about her. Make the dream vivid, make it unique, but above all make it intimate. You can say something like you were both at some sort of outdoor party and it was amazing ( be detailed and descriptive) That song that she mentioned to you the other day came on, and you remember it well, she came up to you told you that the song playing reminds her of you, then she ( without hesitation) kissed you passionately. Then tell it it was very vivid and felt so real. Tell her you woke up and had to text her telling about it just cuz it seemed so real.

Doing something like this will give you an opportunity to gauge her response, but at the same time, it was completely unconscious by you so if she has no real interest in you, you still haven't made a strong statement of interest so in a sense you are not getting rejected, at least not consciously.

Making it vivid and descriptive will allow the vision to get into her head and let her fantasize it herself, if she does have a physical interest in you, she should follow up with questions, and in general be intrigued to know more about it. If she response well this is a great way to live in the moment and begin to escalate sexually. You can say stuff like " Have you ever just kissed a boy out of the blue" "Have you ever had any type of those dreams, or day dreams" Have you ever thought of kissing me? Do you think we would have a hot passionate first kiss? etc etc.

If she responds well and the sexual/intimate banter begins, simply keep escalating as far as she will let you go. If it goes well, you could even make an arrangement with her to kiss her the next time you see her, just to compare the feeling you had in your dream. The bottom line here, is this should allow you to see where she stands with you, and if she is in fact attracted to you.

I personally would advise to make a strong statement and let chips fall as they may. This will help you eliminate any future hesitations as you will see its not that scary, regardless of the outcome.

In the end, it's up to you. Be subtle, or be strong. Just be sure to BE something.

Good luck my friend.

Keep me posted.

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Hey I was just thinking about how women act mainly on emotion instead of logically and I was wondering if you purposely try to use this in your game. I knew women acted mainly on emotion but I never really thought about purposely trying to use it until now. For example if I'm trying to get her to come over to sell the 'hangout' as something fun and exciting over text. That way she gets a positive emotion and is more likely to want to follow through. Same thing If I was at a club with a girl and trying to keep the interaction positive and sexual so she'll want to come home with me or give me the #. I know that seems a bit obvious but like I said I haven't purposely thought about it till now. Just wondering your thoughts on giving women positive or even negative emotions to try and get them to act the way you want. And if that's something you have consciously used when texting or being with a girl.

Thanks

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Hello! I have a chance to go out with two girls at once and this made me think a little.What are some strategies?

a) if you don't know either girl,you are not sure whose available and which one you like

b) If you know one and and you want to game her,she is coming with another girl because she is to shy to come alone

Every interaction with a woman must be positive, be positive in every aspect of your life not just with women. Women and people in general are drawn to positive emotion and positive energy.

Negative energy and emotion are pointless, eliminate this from your thought process, even when it is thrust upon you, simply use your positive energy to slice through it like a sword. The more positive you can be, the better suited you will be in all aspects of life.

Absolutely use this as part of your game, positive emotions trigger positive chemical release in a humans brain, this in turn creates positive responses. A happy woman is a fun woman, a fun woman is an open woman, an open woman is primed for seduction.

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If they already know you and know they will be out with you, there is a chance one has already called dibbs on you.
On average this type of situation can be fun and sometimes end in a 3 some, but most likely, there will be one that likes you more then the other, if they are friends, they will most likely of already decided for you, it should be obvious which one you can have and in general the other one will play along with it, and if you make any advances towards her she will be sure to guide you to the other.

Women( friends) will rarely ever fight over a guy, especially if it is already a preset encounter.
Simply make your intentions known as soon as you can. Show which girl you are interested in by simple gestures or coming right out and saying it. If the girl is into you, a lot of times her friend can help her break out of her shyness.

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Just got back to the site after sometime and saw this thread on the top.
Not sure how you came to this conclusion. Women are VERY COMPETITIVE when it comes to guys. They'll stab each other in the back to get the guy (sometimes even when they might not be completely into him at the beginning)

Two best girl friends even sisters never call dibbs or whatever it is. They will want what the other girl wants... Comeon after being with a few women you of all the people should know this.

Good advise on life but fundamentally flawed on women. Triggering emotions negative or positive has nothing to do with seduction. So long as one can spike that emotion she would be receptive. There is a whole theory on negative emotions explored and explained by AFC Adam.

But nontheless.........

These women you are talking about, they seem pretty desperate. You must know some pretty devious women.

Wow Marc you must be an absolute tiger, getting room mates, best friends, and sisters.Unfortunately not all have the obvious mastery of seduction that you claim to have. I can only speak from my own personal experience and in general, girls don't fight over a guy when one already has interest, it is possible, anything is, but not common.

Any personal involvement I have had in your suggested scenario's above, were never at the same time, more so after I had already been intimate with one. The only way that has ever happened to me was when it already started sexually and with a 3 way interest to begin with.

You must have some serious seduction skills to have them fighting over you at the same time, especially close friends. I'm impressed!

Perhaps this is how things in your world work, but i can assure you positive energy and stimulating positive emotion is certainly the easiest path to seduction. If you wish to bring up negative emotions in a woman, that is your choice. In my world the more positive the experience the better.

Welcome back Marc.

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Negligible experience in 3somes limits me from making a comment on this. But 2 girls who know each other very well (sisters, friends, roommates) would not get into a 3some for a guy they have just met or been on a few dates unless they have been sleeping with each other before. If you've done this then kindly walk us through the steps for the benefit of everyone here.

But yes, the scenarios experienced were -

(1) Two Sisters - physical with one first, emotional connection with the other which turned physical later.

(2) Room Mates - Dated both and then slept with one - But both competed until I slept with one of them.

(3) Friends - Same as above only slept with both.
Non Sense. You should know better.

Ok well thanks for sharing, perhaps you would be better suited to write about this stuff in the lay report section.

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