Last night some friends and I decided to meet at some 80's dive bar.

In the back a friend and I meet these girls. One of them asks my age, I tell them to guess. She asks how I know my friend, I say music and that I'm into piano guitar etc. This seems to really get her. She says that we should go dance and I take her by the hands and go to the floor.

While we're dancing she's rubbing all over me. Holding my hand, getting in close. I did an AFC by buying her a beer and waiting for her. But then we headed to the other dance floor.

My friend, a total dickhead, walks by. Then he looks back and sees that I am dancing with a totally cute chick. He starts getting up on the action then my other friend too. What the fuck? Can't they just see, be happy, and then walk on.

So after a while, we're dancing, and my friend is coming in. He's cutting in using his butt and stuff. Then this girl is like "I'm going to dance with your friend now, okay?"

So, is this not cool what my friend did? I think he did it to be malicious. My other friend tried to tell him to just go away and leave me be. Anyways, this "friend", I think he's a douche now and I'm probably not going to hang out with him anymore.

Learn next time to nip that shit in the bud right from the beginning. If he was coming in, tell him to back off. He's being ignorant to you, why should you act like he's a friend?

Be a dick at the moment you need to is a hell of a lot better than sitting back later that night alone and feeling resentment. Dont go out with him anymore, but you missed your chance to stand up to him. No big loss as long as you've learned not to be a pushover to anyone that "claims" to be a friend.

True. Thanks for the advice. Me and this guy are never hanging out again. He's a dipshit.

Ever here the phrase keep your friends close and your enemies closer? Sounds like the Guy has some kind of game. I'd keep him around and observe what he does. Then I'd use his own game against him. Make him look like an AFC. It's a great way to get better at the game. He was giving you his own shit test. Don't let him AMOG you next time.

Machiavellian, but worthless in my opinion. Forget that fool and don't pass up the next opportunity you get to assert yourself like the man you are.

nah fuck him dude, rolling with champs is what'll help your game

I don't hang out with backstabbing losers. I don't want to study this guy much less see him again. He's a douche.

Dang that sucks man, I've been there though. Its rough because when you neg - you weaken a girl and increase her desire for validation. Then that other guy can come back and restore her social value by showing her all that attention, plus if you don't jet and immediately get a different girl, it looks like you're both fighting for her and you're losing value. Thats a DLV that is telegraphed to the whole room.

Taking a girl to the dance floor can be a risk until she feels like she's built up an investment in you. Its pretty easy to rock in and pull a girl randomly unless she is consciously working to maintain the dude. Also keep in mind that any IOI on the dance floor can't be trusted, these reasons and more are why Mystery calls the dance floor a "trap".

As far as hanging out with the dude? Sorry Bentley I gotta disagree man. This is a person who DLV'd him to the ENTIRE ROOM and CB'd him. He may have done this purposely or inadvertently and to tell you the truth -- I don't know which is worse! Its better to be in a positive and fun frame of mind than a pissed off and defensive one. Steer clear of the CB. Keep positive. Hang in there.

Sounds like you're doing good work out there.

It was personal. It was intentional. He disrespected you. You should have told him to get the fuck away from you the minute he came near. Now you know and knowing is half the battle.

"If you let a bully come in your front yard, he'll be on your porch the next day and the day after that he'll rape your wife in your own bed."

All these people on here are talking about forget it. That is bull shit. You need to speak with this guy and call him out on what he did and demand that he apologize to the girl for treating his friend like that in front of her I think he needs to do that in your pressence. You are upset because you have lost respect and should be restored.

Hey man
Dont take it heart, its just what lads do isnt it?
He is 1-0 Up... Get back at him, dont take it to heart.
Boys will be Boys !!
This happens to me and the lads on a weekly occurence. 1 Of us pulls some hot stunner, then the others try and ruin it, if you act early and get a K-Close they leave you be, maybe we just push eachother too hard to get a K-close or Number.
and i totally agree with above comment, get a K-Close... Then she could be yours for the night.

Good Luck

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This is unacceptable. Only thing worse than dissing a man in front of his woman is talking about his mom. Some lines you don't cross.

Like with crime, with Amoging the best way to stop it is prevention. How is your BEARING? Do you talk and carry yourself in a way that is worthy of respect or do you act soft as if you are the dude to punk. IF this is your friend you should have know his behavior and what to expect from him, why did you not see this coming?

Most importantly what did you do after she told you she was goin to dance with him?

[quote="IwantEasyLove"]Like with crime, with Amoging the best way to stop it is prevention. How is your [b]BEARING?[/b] Do you talk and carry yourself in a way that is worthy of respect or do you act soft as if you are the dude to punk. IF this is your friend you should have know his behavior and what to expect from him, [b]why did you not see this coming[/b]?

Most importantly what did you do after she told you she was goin to dance with him?[/quote]

I doubt she "told" him she was going to dance with him. He stole her on the slippery dance floor. I do agree that you need to assess how you carry yourself, and why this guy felt ok with punking you. But at the same time, I disagree that you need to get this guy to apologize about it.

He's just not going to do that. Also if he did where is the advantage in that? Unless this is a common place that you can't give up and can't give time, like the only bar in town kind of deal.

If you're not always fighting for territory with this guy you need to let it go. I would. Or I'd end up in the parking lot like a redneck with him - this is not in line with our goals.

If you want to beat him, do it socially, with social proof. Tighten your game! Keep your chin up! Pull more 8's 9's and 10's then he can. Pull their friend circles. Then start having parties. Don't invite him, or better yet if he shows up, ask him to leave. Asking him to leave your party would be the ultimate (I remember you said he's in your friend group).

Don't let this guy taint your experience and don't have anything else to do with him. Write him off. The event sucked - yeah. The event is over. Getting your feel goods with an apology will not make you a better PUA. You're doing fine, stay on track.