I wasn't going to write again in this thread, but I think I owe an update to all the people who gave me great input a reply.

The last post I submitted in this thread was that I was going home for the summer, and I was going to be away from her for about 3 - 4 months. During the first two weeks I was really upset, same songs on replay, and all that mooshy bull shit. Some of the cheesiest shit ever said in my life was done in that two weeks, and it was mutual.

As I started to get use to the distance, she didn't. I never have my phone on me anymore because of the roaming charges, and I only use it via wifi, so when I am out I get her messages which is at night as I am out during the day. I come home to a novel of messages of how much she loves me, how I am hers, and yada yada yada. As you can already see in my tone of voice, I started to grow tired of this.

I had another girl visit me, and she was amazing, ofcourse the current girlfriend got very jealous and the messages would increase in quantity and quality of cheesiness.

As I began to grow closer to this other girl visiting, my "gf" would now send me pictures of her naked, saying she wants to fuck me, saying as soon as she sees me she wants to loose her virginity. Who would of thought?

Anyways, during the time this other hot girl was staying with me, whom my gf new about, and I told her she had nothing to worry about, I was out one day the whole day and came home to messages from my gf saying "I want to see you I can't take this, (all that mooshy shit), then it went onto saying, I know you are going to X Place on this date at your families reunion, I am free that weekend, I am going to book a flight to come see you"....... Me being out I dont reply, She messages again "reply. reply. Reply. Reply. Okay i found a cheap flight, Im going to book it, should i book it?.... reply reply reply....... I booked it.... Hope thats okay."

..............To My Family Reunion.

Now I write this, not saying location, dates, incase maybe someone who knows me reads this, but it was MORE than a family reunion. And she books a ticket to come to it without even asking me.

I get asked the question, "Do you love me?" more than ever. And she uses words like "we are FOREVER, right?", non stop.

So, from getting nothing at all, I could now have everything, but I am scared to even take anything from this girl. What do you think of this?

If I had one answer to give you all. Be the good guy to your "Super Christian Gf" at first, then go stone cold. It will drive her crazy.

How serious are you guys? How long do you plan on staying with her. Once you sleep with her, in her head you are basically married. So if you sleep with her and leave her, you will break her.. So if you don't want to hurt her that bad go find sex somewhere else.

But if you plan on sleeping with her and staying a few more months and then finding a fucked up reason to dump her you can go for it... I'm speaking out of experience, and damn, that sounds more cold when I read it out loud.

Im trying to think, maybe its the distance that is making her go a bit obsessive and crazy, or is this really her?


When you had sex with her, was it worth it? When you left it, how damaged was she... I am scared to break up with her now because I know it will RUIN her

In my case I liked her. I dated her for about 9months after that. And then I broke it off. She got used to the idea of sex so it wasn't that big a deal after we did it a few times. I don't really know how to measure if it was worth it. The sex wasn't bad the first time wasn't really great but it got better, and she is a dancer, which helped.

When I left her she was pretty broken, but far from suicidal. But I cut of all contact with her so she wouldn't be reminded of me. At first I thought this made it worse, but I think this helped her get over me in the long term.

I think in your case the girl is acting crazy because she is scared of losing you to a girl that will have sex with you and of course she is being jealous of the girl that visits you. So ultimately you have to decide what you want out of this.

What do you guys recommend I do,

To be honest I feel like I have lost all attractiveness to her. She as well know she came of super clingy, so now she will talk to me and be like "hey I was acting that way before to let you know I cared, but now im going to let things flow, and let fate take its place ", and im like uhhh oh, even her doing that i see she cares so much more.

I do miss sex and because I waited so long for her I feel like im out of the game of sex, and I wont be as good if I did it with an experienced girl. Should I take her virginity when Im back and have sex with her for a while, who knows I might get feelings for her again. Or should I end it now, but then we go same university and I dont know there arent many hot girls in my uni

What do you think

Be super nice then disappear/ show her you're on the verge of a break up, she becomes obsessed with you - Hah, what a classic formula that works almost all the time.

Best formula out there!! But I find when you TRY to do this formula on purpose, (like you are fully aware of what you are doing) that it doesnt work as well because they sense it. It is when you seriously lose interest, and seriously think about breaking up, they become obsessed, and at this point it is already game over.

what i think ?... 100 % honest

why is sex so important for you...?

and second she told you what her rules are .. she is christian - doesn''t have sex before marriage etc. still you hookup with her for some reason probably because she's hot or something, and you try to change her into something she is not.

you project your ideals on her because you want to fuck...you are asking her to go and fuck herself and break her own rules. Her whole sexual message was her insecurity because you were fucking around with some other chick and unconciously you know what you are doing.

you were never attracted to her... you are attracted to the idea of sex... you value it - that's your attraction. If you weren't attracted to that idea it's probably not attraction to her personality because otherwise you wouldn''t care so much about having sex.

you talk about other girls on uni that could be possiblity hot.. you are totally disrespectfull to her.

1. You accept her rules , hookup with her and - and you try to change her and her rules to get some sex - you are totally disrespecting her by agreeing and then suddenly disagreeing with her.

2. You even try to find ways to fuck her over in order to get sex .. freezing her out and shit like that.

3. You are not dumping her.. i don''t believe this is because you feel sorry for her because you are already trying to fuck her over. You don''t want to face the fact that you are being a jerk and fucking around - because she is actually honest and she told you what she's about - and you somehow accepted. it's all about your ego - because you are already looking/ thinking around for other woman. It''s not about her so stop pretending it''s about her.

im not telling you to be nice to her or to turn into a christian.. that's not what this is about. it's about facing the fact what you really need instead of thinking what you want. it's about you knowing what you really need instead of thinkig some shit and indirectly fucking around with someone which is totally unnecesarry. the feeling you get for her blabla... what are your feelings ? explain to me... tell me what you really like about her and what you want long term ? from what i read you ''love'' is based on the promosie of getting sex...looks and other superficial shit.

because to me it doesn't sound like you are ready for a serious mature long term relationship, that's ok for someone your age - it''s not weird or anything - it''s not good or bad it''s just personal preference.... but that does mean you should not hookup with people who have different thought and rules and who are looking for a long term mature relationship wether their motives are religion, personal opinion or whatever.

what you should do... be honest... go to her and tell her you don't like the relationship because you don't get enough sex and physical attention. instead of fucking around her back and asking around for tips to make her break her own rules and manipulate her into having sex with you. you don''t accept her way of living or at least some aspects of it - stop trying to project your reality onto her and changing hers.

who do you want to be ? honest ? trustworthy ? expressive ? real ? Then go to her and tell her the truth, if you feel bad about hurting her - you should be because you are responsible, on the other hand you would be fucknig honest. The latest tip from sovetcke.. it probably would work ya know... but do you want to give someone a headache and make her obsessed ? seriously ? what if someone would do that with you wether it be financial or emotional ? And if you really feel bad for breaking her heart in a sincere way... well that's her problem - it are her emotions and her thoughts. who the fuck cares ? you are likely to be not compatible anyway.... she already sensed you were thinking about other stuff... that's why she came to you acting all weird so don't blame her for it.

again it's not bad or good - it's just a process you need to be aware of. and it''s surely not a battle between you and her.. it's about you and your libido.. your struggle.

my opinion... well i don't like not sleeping around for like 9 months - i totally dislike that but if the chick is worth it then i would keep my dick in my pants at all time... i dated to many whores.

in a nutshell .. what do i recommend ?... try to be the person you want to be.. honest, straight , sincere etc.. if you don't know exactly who that is or if you don't have a emotional connection to such idea you should ponder on it a bit.

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Dude, I read this just now and I know I am 2 years late but still anxious to see how it ended. What happened?

I am in the same position now as you were then and positive not to make the same mistakes. I concluded that as we are in a relationship I am gonna be 100% honest with her and say that I'm thinking of breaking up because of the physical problem.

So, if you read this, let me know! I'm curious

TJ

There are some phony christian girls out there , but there are some real christian girls too . It depends on what kind of person you want to be . Be the one with honor ? or be the one who actually just want to fuck and don't care others ?

we all want to fuck , but most of us don't fuck our family members , which make a big difference then the people who have done it . Lets all face the fact , we all want a good girl , we don't like whore , but since we hate ourself so much , so we fuck as many good girl as possible ,and then say"no good girl in the world" .

People get paid back for whatever they have done , In my dream world ,I wish she and I would be together forever , even though I start to fuck other girls .