Hey so I have a few questions concerning flakes and what to do. So I was gaming this girl and then we agreed to meet up only for her to cancel on the same day saying she wasn't feeling well, blah blah, typical BS. I respond later with call me to reschedule when you are feeling better. I know that probably wasn't the best thing to say but I didn't really care and deleted her number and moved on. She calls months later out of the blue, I didn't know who it was at first, she says how come your not at some random party, it's been too long, blah blah blah, and finishes with, ok see you soon. What does that even mean haha, should I ever contact this girl again? Or just pay no attention to her, and say I'm busy if she tries to hang out.

it depends on how many girls you have in your phone and if you mind trying to convert time wasters,

as for flakes and what to do, it is my opinion that fixing flaking almost always just has to do with your initial impression, as well as the connection that was formed, if you are getting flakes it most likely has to do with how hanging out went in person, how genuine your intentions came off, how interested in you she is, and how connected to you she feels

you can contact her if you want, there is really no need to delete numbers unless you are prone to getting needy, you never know when you could have an opportunity to entertain yourself by making a texting buddy, or some girl breaks up with her bf that you didn't know about, or some other girl descided she wants a booty call, you are good to fall off on contact with flakes, but they are usually worth a good 3 or so tries, sometimes girls just plain and simple have other stuff going on, and the flaking is just a part of who they are and has nothing to do with you, and if you just try a couple times you can get them out, but as soon as it becomes a pattern it is just a waste of time

if a girl never contacts you, never initiates, and always flakes, you can bet that is low interest/compliance, if a girl is initiating every day, trying to have big text convos but keeps flaking, chances are she is just nervous or has something else going on in her life, just make yourself a little harder to get a hold of over the phone, and easier to get a hold of in person, send out non-chalant invites to hang out that won't really matter if she comes or goes, if she invests in hanging out a few times and has fun, there is more motivation for her to come out more often

tell her flaking out is not alright.

what i normally do before meeting a girl is ask "what are the chances of you flaking out tonight?" they usually say something like "what??? im not going to flake out, etc" then they turn up before i do. try it!!

I still don't understand what this girl wants. After she called 2-3 weeks ago, she hasn't initiated again since then, and I haven't initiated either. Should I contact her and if I do how do I avoid getting flaked on again? Don't really want to look like a fool but it's hard because she's a solid 9.

dude flakes totally suck.

but to seem like less of a sucker when they DO flake, phrase the gettogether differently. like, "let's hang out" leaves her open to "i'm sick, i'm busy" and it sounds like you'll be spending the night alone.
so say something like "i'm trying to see a movie tonight, but i want to grab lunch first. you down?" that way, it seems you're having fun with or without her. so if she says "ohh i can'ttt so sorryyy" then you can be like "aiite" and keep it moving.

like the previous guy, i usually have a 3-flake limit. after that, it's not worth it to keep trying to set things up... just wait for your paths to cross again.

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