Hi,

All been on 3 or 4 dates with this one women. Its always been me arranging the dates which I think has gone well.

However everytime i ask her to do something she says she doesnt mind i must have seen her bout4 times in the last 9 days.

As well its always me who plans to do something or go out on dates shes never asked to meet me or arrange anything.

Also its always me who txts her first to have convo. Last night i said do u want to go out for drinks and she flaked on me saying she was tired and coudlnt be bothered to get ready.

Today its 4pm England time and she is yet to contact me. I think im going to wait till or if she contacts me first but I kno the longer it takes the more ill want too txt her first!

I seem to be devloping a serious case off oneitus with her and i kno myself that me doing allt he chasing wont go for much longer!

Please Help and advise!!!!!

Paul

it sounds like you have been getting compliance until recently which is pretty much what you want in lieu of direct manifestations of attraction.

The question everyone with any game wants to ask is when you plan to escalate? If you continue not to do anything remotely sexual with her, you are going to reinforce the "nice, sweet, safe guy" frame and get FZ'ed.

I would plan on sexually escalating on the next date, you are already in trouble as she may be lukewarm if you had 3+ dates without serious escalation.
this leads me to believe you may already be out of luck by being too passive

Hey Paul,

Their is nothing wrong with the situation thus far. The girl has agreed to go out with you 4 times. If a girl doesn't like somebody, she doesn't go out with them 4 times.

The only thing that stands out, or worries out of everything you said, is that, you've gone out 4 times in NINE DAYS.
That's like literally a date every other day. That's a little too much for a woman too handle, even for me as a guy, I couldn't stand to see a girl 4 times in 9 days.

Anyways, I think you in good standing. Just give her a little space to breathe, give her a chance to miss you, and give her chance to realize everything she is doing. It will pay off in your favor.

Only recommendation: Start escalating sexually if you haven't.

Keep up the good work, and don't question yourself too much buddy,

Peace,
Samex

When I say dates we have been out for drinks only once and the other times we took a dog for a walk and had a takeaway at my house! Ive also been to her house after one of the walks.

Im still finding her hard to read and im struggling to get her to open up the only way i can think how is to go out for drinks with her again which was great the first time we went.

Nothing physically has happened apart from smooching and holding hands like teenagers I kno!!! lol

It just seems like its always me making the first move weather thats smooching or arranging to do something

Why did you not sexually escalate at your home or at her home?

I mean she took you inside her home. She just asked to get banged by you!

Keep a silence for a few days like the others suggested and make a new meet up. Then escalate sexually to have sex. Its your main objective.

goodluck

Your only excuse for not escalating is having a girlfriend.

You might tell her you have a girlfriend and friendzone her, that worked for me once, but her reaction really depends on the girl and your interaction with her so far...

You might also tell her you like another girl and ask her for advice, considering her your best friend.

So, all in all, you should withdraw interest, friendzone her and then try another time, after you hook up with another girl.

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Dating - a waste of time and money

P.S. Not a native English speaker

that's good advice from Romania, also the jealousy plotline is a good touch if she has any iota of attraction to care.