Just a little background info about myself, I'm 17, graduating high school and just finished prom. There is this one girl i like and i want a relationship with her but i think she may be as confused as i am. I'm gonna change her name to Susan for private reasons.

I really started liking susan 3 weeks ago right after we got high and seeing how much of a connection we have. The problem is that we went to prom a few days ago with different dates, she liked her date but i disliked mine. We kissed and held hands a few days before prom and i told her that i really liked her and want to be with her through text. She was speechless and was telling me that why didnt i tell her before and that i should wait.

I really like Susan and want a relationship with her but i dont know what to do just because of how crazy and complicated my situation is. I just feel like she may like me but at the same time i dont want to be used or lead on. So what should i do with susan to be in a relationship with her?

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Loving Life -NV

Man, don't mean to diss you, but when you tell a girl you like her and wanna be with her through text,that's what you get... She thinks you're shy and lack confidence, so she'll just keep you waiting until she figures out the other guy... Are you willing to wait? And if you kissed her, what kept you from taking the interaction further and push for the close? Just don't develop an one-itis...

Redlight is completely on to something here. However I think it is more than just because you did it through text. While that shows a lack of confidence there is more to it. I recently made a similar mistake, but I did it in person. I let a girl know that I was really in to her much to soon. I liked her more than she liked me. Once she knew that I was totally in to her she knew that she could put me in her back pocket and keep looking without really risking losing me if she didn't find anything better. This is how a lot of girls work. If you give them any reason to believe that they wont lose you no matter how they treat you then they wont respect you and they wont have the fear of you ending up with someone else. This is one of those situations where you need to break contact with her. The girl has put you on the back burner while she looks for something better. Now you have to show her that you wont be her backup plan and that you are better than that. You need to be out of contact with her. You need to be seen talking to other girls. And you need to be seen happy with your own life without her. This will show her that you don't need her and if she wont commit to you then you will find someone else who will.