Imagine you are a girl for a second and you're in some bar drinking
with your girlfriends. Guys come up to you all the time, some with
decent game but some with boring "So what are you drinking?" game.
What is the one thing that would tell you a guy knows what he's
doing, has probably fucked a lot of girls, and can give you both
emotional and physical pleasure?

Boldness.

Let me explain with a story.

I was at a bar when I started talking to a cute girl. I sat down on
a bar stool to face her so that our legs were touching. After ten
minutes of conversation, I made it seem like I just noticed her
bracelets and starting touching them. Then I saw a spot on her
jeans where some of her drink spilled, and started "rubbing" it
out. She quickly hit my hand away.

I pretended nothing happened and continued the conversation. Then
five minutes later I started poking her thigh while she was
talking. That's when she started giving commentary on my pickup...

"I saw you here the other night talking to girls. I have a feeling
you hit on a lot of girls and you do this all the time." I just
said I was "outgoing" and "friendly," with a smirk of course.

She knows that this is what I do, that I hit on girls like herself
every night. But she cannot tell her brain to stop feeling
attraction for a desirable man. I am a desirable male because she
THINKS I do this all the time and that I'm successful at it. And
she thinks I do this all the time simply because I'm touching her
early and in ways other guys are too scared to do.

I made out with her before I got her number, after a total time of
thirty minutes or so of talking to her. Keep in mind this was from
a girl who hit my hand away when I started touching her.

Being bold screams confidence, because it tells the girl that you
are NOT AFRAID and have done this before. She will think...

"Who does he think he is touching me so early in the conversation?"

"Look how close his face is getting to mine. What makes him think
he will kiss me tonight?"

The answer in her head will be something like, "Because he knows
what he's doing and has succeeded at it before."

And here's the beautiful part: she will have no idea what your past
is and no idea how many women you really did sleep with (or
didn't). All it takes is one trait--boldness--to be the man she wants
to sleep with right now.

This means that even if you have zero confidence, just sucking it
up and pushing the envelope to get closer much sooner than you
think you can will actually increase the chance that you get a
make-out or sex. Weird how things work.

Just a few years ago the approach itself would've screamed boldness
and be an attractant in its own right, but we're many years into
the age of pick-up. Now by the time you get to a girl she has been
approached a couple hundred times. The boldness effect is not
achieved merely by approaching but by early touching and kissing.

That wouldn't make any sense to me before I got into the game. I'd
wait very patiently for obvious green lights and only then would I
proceed slowly. But the more experience I got, the more impatient I became, and the sooner I started going
for it. And it worked. Not only did I get more, but I got it that
much quicker.

Now I'm pretty spoiled. If I don't get a makeout within 30 minutes
or so, I think something is wrong... WITH HER. The only time I get
numbers now without make-outs is when I simply ran out of time or
got cockblocked.

It wasn't always like this, and it did take me work to get here,
but if you start with a solid foundation of techniques then it will
simply take practice and commitment on your part. RV

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Good job, boldness and confidence is the key to ALL pick ups!
Yesterday I was giving a girl I picked up at my apartment complex a ride on my motorcycle, we stopped at a remote bar on our adventure for a beer. Cute blond bartender HB8, girl with me, HB8.5. She was the only one on duty trying to cook Diner style behind the bar, and sling drinks. She served our beers, and said $5 as matter of factly as she could without being rude, I locked eyes with her and said "That's what she said" paid her. then tipped her $3 singles, touching the back of her hand, and told her that's her stripper money! We became new best friends, I told her next time I would leave it on her dresser!. She offered Her name and number! I said I didn't have my phone today because I don't bring it when I go on an adventure. She asked me to meet her at a different bar Tuesday night.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Boldness doesn't scream confidence.

Boldness is what people have when they're not confident.

Boldness is like being nervous but speaking to the girl anyway

Confidence is speaking to the girl because it doesn't bother you.

Horseshit.

It depends on how you carry yourself.

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

FYI:World English Dictionary
bold (bəʊld)

— adj
1. courageous, confident, and fearless; ready to take risks
2. showing or requiring courage: a bold plan

I am always bold in every endeavor- take a least one step out of your comfort zone daily!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Very true. I stopped doing this for some reason, must start again.

Look for Chief's old thread on getting good at something.

Just go get good at something . . . anything. Boldness, confidence, leadership, etc . . . none of these things are created out of thin air and definitely not out of staring at yourself in the mirror offering self praises every morning.

The clown act is fine once in a while but there is no reason to make a life-long identity out of it. "Carrying yourself" one way or another is not a choice.