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How and why I said it came from a place of complete abundance and outcome detachment. I simply did not care. And, the way I said it was very nice. It was not angry, it was not super serious, and it was not as a reaction to anything she'd just done or said. It was purely as a way of putting it out there that it seemed like she was resistant to sex and I was not particularly gonna waste my time any longer trying to get anything from her, but that I would still like to be friends and I thought she was a cool person.
I would only bother going down this route as a last resort. If you've honestly and truly tried to properly escalate to sex with her multiple times (which I don't think you actually have yet) and she keeps resisting massively, but is plainly into you, then go ahead and drop the "I'm more into sexual girls, I guess we're really different so maybe we should just be friends" move. But don't come crying if she actually accepts your friendzone request. You have to not give a shit whichever way the cookie crumbles.
I am back from my lunch with "General Stonewall" and read the rest of this thread.
In the few weeks I have been seeing this girl, there have been about two opportunities ALONE with her to escalate anything, and by "alone" i mean not in a public place. She is extremely shy and unwilling to even make out heavily anyplace someone might come up on us.
But, I am finding out more and more that even though this girl at first didn't seem to be my type, that she is turning out to be pretty cool, but has a VERY thick wall to breach. Much worse than anything I've dealt with before.
She has major resistance issues, whether it be flirting with her, kissing her, where I put my hands, and everything else. If I had gone with my instincts I would have never met her on a date in the first place based on some shit she said to me up front.
I choose to ignore all of it.
She is definitely into me, there is no doubt about it. As I break down her wall she confides in me she thinks I am hot, sexy, she wants to get in bed with me, and so on.
Sometimes you meet a girl who has been "burned" (not diseased) by a few guys she jumped right into bed with and you just happen to be the next guy in line when she decides to put up this huge fucking wall and make the next one really work for it.
But that above mentioned quote is the key if I am going to get anywhere with this one.
The more I do not give a shit about what happens, the MORE she opens up to me and tries to prove to me that she is fun, will be great in bed, etc etc... And it is not just in the way she acts or what she says — she has been going all out to look sexy for me when we meet up now, and there is no doubt that "it's on" — eventually — but for me right now, I am still going to keep seeing other girls.
I have a date tonight even with someone else. Having abundance in your life... That is if your mindset is "How the fuck am I going to go out with ALL THESE WOMEN this week UGH!!!!!" vs. "How the fuck am I going to get THIS GIRL to get into bed with me..." — you are going to have better outcomes with all the girls you meet, because you are no longer indicating that she "has you" — and that she has to work or do something in order to keep you interested.
The minute a girl knows she "has you" — even if it is after you are in a committed relationship — then your power in that relationship becomes ZERO.
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