WTF is wrong with my texting-need help on my text and my pic



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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 9:28 am 
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Guys,
I think I am pretty bad with texting.So I got the the number of hb I saw in bar who goes the same college as me like 3 weeks ago. She seemed really in to me with strong eye contact.But we didn't talk much.
So I sent a text like 2 weeks ago:
Me:"hey X,this y.How are you doing girl?"
no response.
So after 2 weeks,today I sent a text again like:
Me""hey,how is your week far X?I sent a pic of myself in the case you don't remember me.:
and I sent a pic myself:
My pic ~> http://www.flickr.com/photos/79722764@N ... otostream/

and she responded like :

HB:"Hey I remember you haha sorry I just forgot to reply that day I was pretty busy, I'm good and you?"

Me:"Fantastic. Came to Vegas with a bunch of friends to celebrate one of my friend's birthday.you can see part of her face in the pic ;) .so far pretty fun in Vegas.
How was your day?"

Honestly, I am in vegas but the girl in the pic was not my friend so I made up the story so that she doesn't think I have other girls and being player ... stuff.
Unfortunately, she didn't respond me back and Honsetly I like this girl.
And I know the text is not the best. But What the hell is wrong with this text that she ignored me.
Also, guys can you comment on the pic too. I sent it to hbs several times when they didn't text me back. It works for a while like this one but they don't respond me back at the end.
I have no idea how where I am wrong and how I can change the sitution.
So please help me.


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 9:37 am 
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How do you think guys picked up girls 15 years ago? There was no such thing as texting, you either talked to her in person or on the phone, that's it.
I know that a lot of guys use facebook and texting to pick up and flirt with girls these days, but the simple truth is that these methods are crap compared to traditional face to face or ear to ear methods.

During my years as a successful PUA, I always told girls that I found texting stupid and impersonal, the only texts they got from me where either very short responses to their texts, or something blunt like "Meet me here now".

A lot of guys struggle with online pick up and with texting, and the reason why is simple, you can't use your most sophisticated weapons such as eye contact, tone of voice, proximity, kino etc. Therefore texting is crap.

Learn to live without it, simple is that. The girls will be very impressed, especially if you tell them you think texting is impersonal, trust me!

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 9:53 am 
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I hate texting but many girls like it NOW .
When you call and you don't have enough rapport there is high chance she doesn't respond.It's like all in move to me.
I didn't have enough rapport with her because of the situation. So I wanted to develop a little bit through text and Then call and ask for out.
Any way, I am in this situation now. I am curious what's wrong with my texting since I have similar situation with another hb too and I totaly lost my confidence about what I am saying to hbs.
Want to know how would you change my text and what do you think about the pic? is it a DHV or not?
And the most important question is: What's the best thing I can now to get her back?


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Several things here. Firstly are you sure you had good attraction and rapport with her?

Now onto your texts. Not horrible, but it did make me cringe. I'm by no means a texting expert, but have improved a lot.

The mere fact you sent a picture made me go oh no. Also don't make up stories. Be honest.

Now, every single text you send NEEDS to have VALUE. And that is either flirting or meeting up somewhere. No more really.

"How are you doing" is generic and easy to ignore. Instead you could have used something from when you guys talked. If you guys had an inside joke or flirted, use one of those things. That way she has a higher hands of remembering you without you saying "this is ... Btw". It also has the possibility to engage her emotionally.

"How was your day" is pointless. It's ok if you would've already gotten good rapport and trust, but right now, no. Right now you should focus on flirting andeeting up that's it.

Hope this helps.


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 11:43 am 
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Pics kind of ruin the mystery and girls tend to over analyse picture and point out all you're flaws early on in the game.

You're texting seems try hard as hell though man, every text seems like you are trying to proveyourself to the girl..

Email me bro, lets do some consultation session together and i'll help you get to the bottom of how all of this is done.

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 6:16 pm 
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Several things here. Firstly are you sure you had good attraction and rapport with her?

Now onto your texts. Not horrible, but it did make me cringe. I'm by no means a texting expert, but have improved a lot.

The mere fact you sent a picture made me go oh no. Also don't make up stories. Be honest.

Now, every single text you send NEEDS to have VALUE. And that is either flirting or meeting up somewhere. No more really.

"How are you doing" is generic and easy to ignore. Instead you could have used something from when you guys talked. If you guys had an inside joke or flirted, use one of those things. That way she has a higher hands of remembering you without you saying "this is ... Btw". It also has the possibility to engage her emotionally.

"How was your day" is pointless. It's ok if you would've already gotten good rapport and trust, but right now, no. Right now you should focus on flirting andeeting up that's it.

Hope this helps.
I guess I didn't have enough rapport with her. I think I have problem knowing what's going on in the hb's head.
However her text was not bad and I think it was because of sending my pic.
So my question is there anything I can do about this HB?
I was thinking of calling her and see how it goes.


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 10:07 pm 
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This is for girls that you have not slept with or are not in a relationship with.

1. never text while on your vacation. Only time to do it is if she is there also and your trying to make a situation happen.

2. never send a pic. Is seems like your trying to impress and it makes you come across as needy. In your case, that's what happened.

3.
First text after number close: Get home safe :)
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Follow up next day with something funny or attraction based. Usually better if is based on the conversation from previous night. Example: You must of caused a riot last night. Now they got wanted poster of you at xxxxxxxx (place where you met her at)

Now, you have to keep the text going with comfort and attraction.

Day 2's.
Easy to set up if there is an event instead of a boring coffee date. Maybe your going to party. But sell it with humor. Example: Lets roll to XXXXXXXX we can make fun of all the midgets in mini skirts.


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