Hey,

This should technically be in the Relationship section, but since I cannot remember my username, I had to post here due to the new account.

Anyways, I've been dating a girl for about 6 months, and really it's pretty much going well (a minor issue this weekend which I will post separately for). She initiates 80-90% of communication and overall I'm pleased. In the past, I used to have very large insecurity/jealousy issues, so I didn't date for a year or so until I thought I was ready. That's why I need some quick pointers, whether my old habits are coming back or what.

My girlfriend is very close friends with a bunch of guys that she has some history with (ranging from makeout to bj). I met them, they're cool people and we seem to get along. This was years ago and drunken one night things. I don't really care about them, they legitimately seem platonic (or at least her attitude to them).

In about a month, she wants me to go camping with her and her friends. This is like an annual tradition for them. She really wants me to come. But I don't know how I feel about it... I think I just don't want to be in a situation where besides me, three other guys have history with whats mine. I just don't see how I can have fun and enjoy myself with that in the back of my head.

So what should I do? This seems like a big thing to her. And really I don't know why it's bugging me to go. Would it just be weak inner game if I did not go? I see three options:
1. go, have fun (even if it means forcing myself)
2. dont go and explain to her why
3. dont go and give a bs excuse

the probability of her hooking up with one of them is much bigger if you don't go. I don't know much about her friends or the background of your story. If you confront her, her answer would be it was long time ago and I'm not interested in any of them, only you and stuff like that. What is the deal about this? She hooked up with them long time ago before you were even with her. She is not yours and you don't own her. What has happened already happened and can't be undone unfortunately. Go camping and having fun; if it was me I would invite more girls to come along too unless you all get drunk and end up in a gangbang

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I used to have a GF where I was in the exact same situation. I knew a lot of her guy friends and found out later she had pretty much blown all of them. She loved to camp too and they would often all go camping together. She was the type of chick who had tons of guy friends and maybe one or two girlfriends.

I wont go through the whole story, but my advice to you is either let her go camping and accept it or just break it off completely. Either way you should be dating other women. You know what the quickest way to get over one woman is? To get a piece of ass from another woman.

I don't know how old you are, but only dating one women in your 20's is retarded. I wasted most of my 20's dating one woman at a time. Oh I thought I was in love with a couple of them and that they were the greatest thing possible. Now I look back and think how stupid I was. I kick myself every day for all those wasted years (and wasted opportunities of getting laid by multiple women). Don't be that guy. Please don't.

No woman out there is really that great -- you just *think* they are because you are pussy whipped and cannot think objectively. What's great is having total control of your emotions and not letting *other* people fuck with that. By the mere fact you made this post means you are letting her fuck with your emotions. She may not even be doing it intentionally, but you are still letting her. Never, ever give a woman that power. Ever.

You know what else is great? Having options. Being able to call up 5 different women for a date at any given time. If one of them "is busy," you don't let it phase you. No, you dial the other ones like a boss. That's real control. That's real power.

No woman is worth emotional stress, I don't care how great her titties feel in your hands or how tight that little beaver is. Yes, pussy is very powerful, I don't deny that (and women know it too). We have all been whipped before. It's nothing to be ashamed of and I admit it can be hard to overcome. But you can overcome it by dating more than one woman. If she was the only woman in the world, OK, maybe it would be worth it. But she's not.

This is not your wife, so chill out, bro. Either accept her for how she is or move on. You can't change her. You can only change yourself and that's what matters. If she is the only woman in your life, then you are the one at fault here. It's not her fault that you have no other options. You need to change that ASAP.

sadly im 22 and only dating one girl. i am that guy. i hate it.

maybe it's me, but I do not see any true problem in this situation

this is a sort of "gang's tradition" for your GF and these guys. it means this is not being specifically planned by her to get laid by some dude X, or by some dude Y to get her laid.
moreover, she wants you to go with her, which is also very good.

go with her and befriend the guys. OK, they hooked up with her, I can see why that would be unpleasant. but that is the past. you cannot change it. unless you are dating an UB1 (and even so...), if she is over 18 it's pretty much certain that some other cock has been there before yours. all that matters is that no other cock goes in there during your turn.

what I would do is go, have a good time, and be friendly to the other guys, but make sure to be introduced as the one and only boyfriend and that you signal appropriately that you and her are an item, and other people are not welcome in between (you can still be very friendly, sociable, charming, and nonverbally show that you own that pussy - lots of PDAs for example)

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I really do not understand men's jealousy over women. It is OK for YOU to fuck 2-5 women at a time, but when one of your girls does it she is a cheating whore? Stop being children, women are going to enjoy their bodies with many guys. GET OVER IT. I have my 2 best friends who I always invite my girls to threesome with because I want to fulfill her sexual fantasy. I really think most of you guys come off as selfish and petty and insecure when you worry about shit like this.

if it's your head being fucked over, its not much a of a choice really:

1) Go - and get your head fucked over in the knowledge you're spending time with guys she has a history with.
2) Don't go - and get your head fucked over in the knowledge she's spending time with guys she has a history with and you're not there.

either deal with the fact she has friends with a history or find someone new. or both.

yeah buddy u gotta go - some advice train brazilian jiu jitsu for a year, and talk to her guy friends about that

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