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I have a question on this. I'm starting to understand the importance of persistence, but I'm sure there is a point when you can take it too far. Last night I met a chick at a party, and had some great conversation/flirting but she seemed to start ignoring me as the night went on. She would still give me eye contact and when she walked past me she would brush up against me, but whenever I tried talking to her, she would say one or two words then walk off. At one point I felt like she wanted me to chase her, but then started feeling like she wasn't interested at all and was just ignoring me. What is the best way to distinguish this and deal with it?
Some women do like to be chased, a lot of women like to play games. And some women just like attention and have no interest in you whats so ever. To distinguish between these three, you must make a strong indication of interest. You must get into their minds. Also being able to interpret her body language will help you immensely.
A perfect way for you to have found out would of been to make a strong comment to trigger her physiologically and cognitively. When she walked/brushed by one of those times, you could of ( in a very confident manner) whispered or lightly said something like this:
If I kissed you passionately, you would melt in my arms.
I can make you tremble with my lips alone.
What would you do If I just grabbed you now and kissed you passionately.
I like you, I want to kiss your entire body
If I spent the evening with you, you would never forget me.
etc etc. ( this is the actions of the confident man)
The idea here is to disrupt her reality, to trigger he animal instincts, if she has any physical interest in you it will show based on her reaction. Since you have already built a little bit of rapport with her, these words are really not that strong, she's already had the opportunity to decide whether or not she is attracted to you.
Even if she keeps walking by after the comment ( which may happen more then not) If she is interested in you, her demeanor should change, her body language definitely will. She will become more submissive in nature as well as probably be checking you out a lot more.
If she replies, to your comment instantly, look for open signs, sometimes women will reply very cock and defensively but their body language and tonality of their voice will be a dead giveaway if they are interested.
In short and in this particular case. Make a bold move to disrupt her conscious thoughts, show your interest, look for the signs. Then let the cards fall as they may.
By doing what I said above, you will have engaged her in the dance of seduction, you may still have to work for it, but if she has interest in you, she will make it a lot easier on you once you got into her head.
Either way, you have your answer, if she shows no signs of interest, you can move on to your next target.
Note: bold comments like this can have a long lasting effect, they may not be any signs of interest right away, but as the night progresses and she observes you giving up on her and talking to other girls, she may become interested. This is why it's always important to never take offense to any type of negative response a woman gives you. Don't see any rejection as a rejection, merely her missing out on your awesomeness.
The less you show it has affected you the better, women are incredibly indecisive when it comes to men and dating.
I have had many women begin to show interest after they flat out rejected me, my calm and cool demeanor made them question themselves. My bold comments made me become part of their radar, after they observed me for awhile, they then became interested and made subtle efforts to come back into my world.
Be aware of this always.
CHAT
