Hello guys.

I have a problem that suits well to a let's be just friends even though that kind of a discussion have never been done. The issue is quite problematic at least.

Let's go to the story and time line. My friend girl is not a young one so those young girl solutions wouldn't suit well. The story is that my friend girl dated for 6 years and I had interest on her. Then she has been single for 3 years but due to my business commitments I have not been able to approach her only the last 9 months. The problem has been that we have had good connection but the last step for the relationship has been missing. I have made progress lately, but now the situation is that she must know about my interest on her but she's showing no response for intimate relationship. So if my situation is that I want to go deeper with the ralationship, but I'm afraid of losing a long lasting friendship. So what should I do to get best results?

My intepretation of situation is that I should walk away from this friendship, because my answer to a simple question of *would I support her in a new relationship if the relationship wuold not be with me" would be no.

Should I stay on the picture and do something fancy or should I end the multiyear friendship?

If you're planning on giving up the friendship anyway, you might as well try to turn it into something. And if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't matter because you were going to end it anyway. I've found 60 years of challenge's escalation stuff works surprisingly well for getting out of the friend zone.

Giving up the friendship is not exactly what I want, but I feel that is the only option in given circumstance. What I mean is that if I can't stand her being with other man (which is not the case at the moment) I would be torturing myself by staying in a friendship.

You are right about the pros/cons about trying to turn it into something. That's exactly what I want. I think that I've stuck myself too deep into "let's just be friends" zone. I'll try find 60 years of challenge's escalation stuff and study it. Thanks for tip.

Hello guys.

This is a raport on the situation right now. I read the 60 years of challenge's escalation stuff and found it great. I have read Neil Strauss, Mystery and Ross Jeffries (somewhere in the past) material and I found the 60 years of challenge material very valuable.

After reading and using the stuff I got a good response and I thought that I progressed. But to my dissapointment I heard that she was going for a short vacation with her ex. On a friendly basis of course. I called her on the day of departure and I suppose sounded like a guy who's mother had died.

I thought that everytihg had gone inevitably wrong and was wery uppset and sad. But to my surprise she called me after the trip and suggested that we should watch a hockey match. The only disadvantage was that she was bringing her friend also. OK. We were watching the match in a pub, but she suggested that we should go to her appartment, because the pub was too crowded. The evening was great. I cooked some pasta for the girls and I was able to use "60 years of challenge" stuff to escalate. The friend of my target said that you should (me and my target) keep on chatting when she's leaving, but it turned out to be so that the friend of the target and I left the appartment and went home. I thought that the escalation stuff was great and worked well, but I was not happy how the ivenig ended.

Next week I got a luch proposal from my target, but unfortunately due to busy working let it down. She also called me another time on the same week. So I had high hopes for the weekend. I was thinking to close the deal.

She told me that she was going to a work cathering on friday and be willing to for example cycling on saturday. On Saturday I SMS:ed her and then called. We talked about half an hour and she was telling between lines that seeing was not I her primary list. I said to her that if she has nothing special on sunday she could call me (lame I know). So the sunday went and monday also. No calls or SMS from her.

The big question is that why she was giving me a sense of a progress and why she was so recluctant on last weekend? I have of course thought all the worst scenarios and I think I have covered them well. The only questions that needs answers is that what should I do now and so I have any change with the girl?