Hello guys,

ok this is my profile http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=22180474

and i am getting lots of views but very few messages.

is there anything i could do to improve my profile? and what would you send as your opening message?

regards
Eddie.

mine for milfs is
thoughts on younger men?

could u help me out , whenever i try to create an account , it says username taken , this has been going for a while now , ive tried hunderds of usernames but still didnt work , so i lost hope on that fucking site , if you know anything about this and could help , it would be great !

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you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

in my experience on that site you are not going to get many messages. and the ones you do get them from won't necessarily float your boat. consider a hot girl is being messaged 100 times a minute. i pretended to be a girl, i know.

you're going to have to message them.

also, this might just be me but talking about death on your profile might freak some out. might not, but that's just me.

ok thank you. i have taken the death bit out.

i do message girls every week and they nearly all view my profile, but very few send me a message, and when they do its a rather cold one.

i am starting to think my profile puts them off. am i right??

Not sure if it's your profile. I mean being a stuntman is pretty unique and sounds pretty exciting. Plenty of scope for conversation there.

Yeah, in about 100 girls i message i would say i get about 10 that respond. and out of that 10 about 1 date. Lol.. They do say its a numbers game.

The only thing I would say is the photos. Some of them look like they've been taken by yourself and i've read a few female profiles where they state their dislike of those types of photos - mainly because it demonstrates DLV or a 'billy-no-mates' to put it bluntly. also your main profile - in the background looks a bit messy and DLV. Maybe, MAYBE that is something to take into consideration.

I've got suposedly good pictures - abroad, well dressed, in company - supposedly demonstrating DHV - but still......

also that first date part. I used to say that too. cup of something nice etc. maybe they can smell a rat on that one.

i wouldnt take it too personally. what kind of messages are you sending though?

You have to re do your profile!

Pics: Take out the pics that you took yourself! Bad! Also, look at the background, your house looks like a mess. And no pics with shirt's off unless if it has a purpose behind it like hanging out at a beach, pool party, etc... Your only good pic is the one of you running marathon. Self pics are ok, but it has to be taken by someone else.

Profile:
Negatives
"i am very picky when it comes to women and trying this online dating thing cause all the attractive women i have met bore me....x" Your making women you have not talk to already awkward.

"on a typical friday night i am happy."

"i am charming and interesting to know and also unpredictable." If those are your qualities, you should not have to say that literally. Instead, your profile should convey through pics and writing. Every guy that has qualities that naturally attract women never will say it literally. They will convey it.

First date "a cup of tea in a cafe and some stimulating conversation x" again, does not sound interesting or charming to me which your profile says you are.


My profile is based on my qualities, but I am not saying it literally. Girls I have met will bring up my qualities without me saying a word.

i send messages like "have you heard what happened today" just to get their attention and if they reply follow it up with a funny news story.

other days i just write "hi x" and they still look at my profile, but no reply.

The problem with these sites is it takes away an essential element which I feel is necessary: the interaction and instinctual vibe system women have that rate you on a scale of 1-10 for them. They don't know how you really are through your pictures, they don't know your voice, your tonality, your indifference, nothing. The test can be faked, and the pictures are all they have to go by.

I expect next to no guy is getting messaged other than one with abs or that has other women in his pictures as well (who are hot) and thats about it.

Interestingly enough, had a girl message me who is crazy for "military men" and she's very hot...but I'm sure this will go nowhere. I don't have a military physique. Haha.

I usually write a message that mentions or relates some way to their profile. That way they know its not just a cut and paste and I took the time to find out about them.

Relying on a 'hi' rarely works because thats probably what the 999,999th guy before you just wrote UNLESS you have a stand-out profile. Which you don't based on the comments above.

They do say that it doesn't matter what message you send, if your profile sucks you will get deleted.

I'm struggling with my profile too. i never know what to say. photos are alright but i never know if i am bragging too much or if i'm underselling myself too much.

well i do have pictures with hot women!! i just have not uploaded any.

also i kind of like the main picture wearing my baseball cap. maybe i should crop the mess out of the picture?

Come on guys...surely hot women are OUTSIDE somewhere! LOL

ok. i have added some different pictures!! what do you think??

Now, that's a lot better. I would seriously consider getting rid of "i am very picky when it comes to women and trying this online dating thing cause all the attractive women i have met bore me....x"

Don't even mention why your on there.