I really don’t seem to understand this girl and what is wrong with her. About three years ago I got to know a girl at a course I took at my University. We had no friendly or romantic relationship other that of shallow course mates. After that semester she moved abroad to continue her education. Under these three years she has been abroad we have meet once on a short platonic date that she wanted to end after two hours and a half bottle of wine. She was quite rude if I remember correctly.

Every time she has been at home under the school breaks we have not seen each other. Still she has pushed for us seeing each other. We have kept contact over Facebook, a contact that have involved most talk about school and romantic relationships, the last thing has become more common subject of discussion from her side. She has just been one of my shallow former course mates I have keep contact with. Under these three years we have spoken over the phone and over SPAM a couple of times. Last time we spoke over SPAM she ended it so she could “sex-chat” with some married older man. Two months ago she moved back home enlisting for her Masters in her hometown which is an hour from mine. Since then she has been bugging me about hanging out. She has begun texting me a lot. Her attitudes towards me have been quite strange the last two months: Firstly she stress that we are good friends, which we are not. Secondly she talks about all the older men she dates and quite explicitly tells me about some people she has slept with. It is all quite disgusting and vulgar. Thirdly, she tells me that we should do all these romantic things together which do not make any sense.

After I have declined to see her a couple of times I decided last week to bring her to a closed academic evening seminary I had been invited too. I know the speaker. It would be some people there which are good to know, mostly people working in academia, public relations, journalism and politics. It was also in her hometown so it was suitable. I took the train to her town in the morning because I had some business to attend to. She calls me and asks me if I want to eat breakfast. We meet and I hope that it will be pleasant surprise. I choose a great romantic spot with a great view. She talks mostly about her “internet-guys” and was heavily texting them during the breakfast. I realize that she is rude and ignorant – we have not seen each other for over two and a half years and this is how she is towards her “good friend”. I try to hint that seminary is boring and that she should skip it but she wants to go.

It is a boring seminary, though I meet some interesting people. I and this girl are one of the youngest people there. A couple of people there decide to go out drinking beer after the seminary and I convince her to follow. She is reluctant. I buy her beers and I realize that she does not feel at home with these people and she spends her time heavily texting these guys and show me one of the nude pictures one of the guys sent her.

At 23:00 it is only we that are left and I’m a bit drunk and she is on her way to become the same. I have borrowed a friend’s apartment (very central and he is out of town) and say that I will stay the night. I ask her if she wants to go to another bar. She declines but asks (almost pushing me) me to follow her to the bus station. I most say that this most be one of the most awkward conversations I had with any girl.

At the station I ask her once again to follow me to another bar and we have a short discussing in which she tries to come with excuses to reject my offer: In the end she goes: "I have a vaginal infection (nothing dangerous nor infectious) and I wants to sleep with the “Fireman” (one of the guys she is texting) ….and YOU don’t want to have sex with me when I have this".

Besides that it was the most vulgar thing I have ever heard. She actually implied that if she would follow me out she would sleep with me. I was like wow – because I had no such intentions. Sure, it has crossed my mind (as with any girl I’m not related too) but... I gave her a friendly kiss good night and realized that she was out of her mind. I erased her from my Facebook by mistake in my drunkenness. Two days later she sends me a text message asking me how everything is, if I got home safe and stuff like that. Yesterday I re-added her on Facebook and it takes her ten seconds to send me a text message telling me “how good friends we are and now she was really hurt”. I did not understand if she were joking or not. I responded some jokes back about her “sponges” and she goes: “I only told you that because we are so good friends”. I think it was to smooth things over – and therefore I just told her the truth, that we are more acquaintance then friends (which are quite obvious) but that does not mean that I reject her friendship and that I do not like her. I also said that I do not like her text messages to all these guys. For the first time – she didn’t respond.

I understand that I’m in the “friend’s zone”. She talks about guys with me (though never about problems, just who she sleeps with), she tells me that we are “friends” (all the time) and she show every sign in the book that I’m in the friends zone. Well, great! But why is she so messed up? Does anyone of you know what this woman wants from me? I cannot figure it out? Is she in desperate need male friends? Does she have a romantic interest? Why is she so strange?

Man it sounds like you've got a real nutjob on your hands.

With a girl like that, who sleeps with absolutely every man she meets, it must be hard to have any kind of relationship with a man who she's not sleeping with. She's probably clinging to you as some sort of life buoy or something. You're the one guy that she didn't have sex with, and therefore the only one that she could call a "friend".

Everybody needs a friend sometimes. I want to tell you to walk away from her, but the girl sounds pretty messed up and obviously needs someone semi normal in her life. She may need help to realize just what she's become. Try to help her if you want to, but you may be fighting a losing battle. I have personally tried to reform a couple of sluts, none of which were as bad as yours sounds, and failed miserably.

My advice, which is worth about as much as you're paying for it: DO NOT have sex with this woman, and under no circumstances should you get any kind of involved with her. Be friends if YOU want, but only friends. She sounds like really bad news.

Bottom line, your life is your life to do with as you will. Her life is her life, and if she wants to be a disgusting slutwhore, that's her choice. If you want her in your life, keep her there. If you don't want her in your life, kick her to the curb. You are a man and you decide who is allowed in your life.

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Don't stick your dick in crazy.

This chick is crazy. I've met a few like her, they were often starved for attention as children and will do whatever they can to get it. Find better women in your life.

I'm not even gonna read this, OP. Whenever your female friend is "confused" about her feelings towards you, it means she isn't really into you. 9/10 pursuing this is going to give you grief and not even get you anything out of it. And in the 1/10 times it would, it's gonna be filled with drama and end in her dumping you.

Just walk away.