Gt the number of this cutie from okc, had some good sexual and comfort banter over text today. Then, totally out of the blue and out of context:

Her: send me your pic. My friend wants to know what you look like lol
Me: alright, you too love. Gotta make sure you're not a stalker . (prob shoulda made her work more for it here)
Me: phones on low batt, can't open my pics, lol. I'll send it later when I'm home. (this was true, but I didn't intend to send it later)
Her: your phone sucks
Me: I prefer the term"rides the short bus to school"
Her: ah. Lol. What kind of car do you drive?
Me (figuring this is a shit test): the bat mobile. You?
Her: ha.
Me: I get the feeling you don't believe me
Her: I don't
Me: ok ok fine, you got me. I drive seven ferraris, one for each day of the week
Her: -_-
Me: you sure are interested in the type of car I drive
Her: I like cars, lol
Me (believing her): lol, ok. On that case I drive a 2000 Honda accord, the fuel gauge of which can almost never be trusted
Her: live with rents, roomies, or alone? Any pets?
Me: I feel like I'm being interviewed here, lol
Her: they're things Id like to know




And thats where it is now. WTF?? She responded negatively to my silly answers to what I thought were her shit tests, so maybe she's being serious...? But before this the convo felt organic and natural. Now it feels like she's grilling me like she's planning to gold dog on me.

How would you handle this?

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yep she is qualifying you plain and simple to her friend so the friend can give the thumbs up or thumbs down, probably comparing you to some other dudes or something,

nothing to worry about pretty normal, if it was me I would just try to steal the frame and reverse it up then cut the convo short (as in all of a sudden ''I gtg'' till the next day when her friend is not there to judge you),

''Uh oh, here we go with the car stuff , next you'll be asking how much I make a year and how much I like to spend on my girlfriends, you're not one of those terrible gold digger girls are you?''

from that point you abrasively cut her off from qualifying you, not the smoothest of moves but it gets the job done, sometimes you can't stay in the postive relm of emotions man, you have to drop the need for the approval and punish bad behavior, you have to judge her on what she does not on what she looks like, if a girl is demanding something from you and getting pissed about you not giving in, don't just cave in, stay strong, if she throws a little temper tantrum about it give her a time out

answer her, and then have her qualify to you so you're at least on equal playing field

Yea answer their question but then ask one of your own but make it something that girls will get worried about.

One I like to use is..."do you wear fake tan?"

Doesn't matter if she answers yes or no I still send the same reply.

"it's just I went on a date off this last week and the girl had so much tan on I'd swear she glowed in the dark! It was embarrassing lol"

This shows you have options and standards and if she doesn't move quick then you will move on!

I find stuff like this works a treat for a fast turnaround Towards a date

Sounds like she was making small talk and pre-selecting you; seeking approval from her circle of friends. That's normal!

So what.

The issue, IMO, was that all this was over text. I love the SPAM line - truly... but CUT IT OFF. Like Pumpington said, after the SPAM comment - "Hey, I'm ducking in to a phone call I need to take, What's a good time to call before 10?" Give HER the FTC, and see how she reacts.

You don't need to get pissed, it's not a shit test, it's conversation. All of which I prefer to have in person. That kind of fluff is important when I"m trying to fuck a chick. That's time I spend talking, not texting.


Guys - when a woman wants to know about you, she's wanting to present you to her social circle. If you like her, then what's the problem?

If she's really a gold digger - you'll learn this.

Just chill...

RR

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you have to change the roles. ask her that stuff back. you are the man not her. you are the prize not her. she's lucky to be talking to you. you have to make sure she's at your level.
invert the conversation and she'll be yours.