Okay guys this is my problem.

There is this woman that is a regular guest at my fav coffeeshop. I know her on a "hello how are you basis" for many years now. Some two months ago we coincidentally met on the subway and had a short conversation. We both have small children (she a daughter, me two boys 5+7 years) and I assumed she is married. She casually told me that she got divorced about a year ago and I replied casually sthg like "oh that sucks I left my babymom 2 years ago". She looked at me and said "oh, that´s interesting" in a most peculiar way, that should have been a warning to me...

In the following weeks we started to have long very pleasant talks, and I appreciate her as a person and even as a friend. She is very sweet and kind and even though she isn´t my type physically at all (real skinny, no tits, no ass), most men find her very attractive. But as I say she just doesn´t ring my bell at all.

By now this woman has a serious crush on me, keeps inviting me over, suggests activities we could engage in together. I get emails text-msgs, aso on a daily basis, which I keep turning down almost all the time. I actually did go to her place twice. Once to watch a movie, once to have dinner. I did give her the "let´s be friends-speech" on that first occasion and that was over a month ago.

But being how women are that didn´t give me the results I hoped for. She´s still after me and I am friendly and respectful when dealing with her, but do try to keep my distance. I lean away from her when she talks to me, I avoid physical contact, I even don´t strike up conversations (which she does then - of course). Basically I am nice and respectful but make a real effort to convey that I´m NOT sexually interested in her at all (which isn´t game but the reality of things).
Needless to say that my behaviour is just firing her up more and more. She´s constantly qualifying like there´s no tomorrow. Mimics my body language, sits as close to me in the coffeshop as she possibly can, comes by the shop several times a day to see if I´m there and does not leave until I leave when I am around. She even offered to take me to a restaurant on her expense several times. And told me also several times that I can come by her place whenever I want for whatever I want!
To be honest I´m slowly loosing my respect for her, she´s actually starting to get on my nerves. Also because she hinders my game for that coffeshop and my quarter are my main hunting ground...
Being a, let´s say, apprentice PUA I know exactly that my behaviour towards her is actually counterproductive, that I´m running extraheavy game on her unintentionally...
My problem is: I want this to stop, but have no idea what to do! Sure I could just be an asshole and simply tell her to fuck off, but I can´t do that. We are talking about a 36 yearold mother with a very sweet and kind personality, that harbours real feelings for me, not some brat I`m training my skills on in a nightclub. I simply don´t want to cause her unnecessary emotional pain, if that is possible.

I gave her the friends-speech, I game other women right in front of her to get my "point" across, I keep freezing her out on every occasion. And naturally she just chases after me more and more.

I really need your professional opinion on this guys. Would it be helpful to start showering her with IOIs??? I personally doubt that. If I continue the way I did it will keep getting worse. If even clearly telling her that what she´s hoping for will not happen, doesn´t work, will I really have to resort to rudeness? As I said, I don´t feel she would deserve that...

Nuff said! Your opinions are highly appreciated guys!!!

cheers for that. gonna do that with my oneitis. hopefully will get results...lol

in the meantime, try telling her that you love her and start buying her gifts and stuff. that ought to do the trick... worked for me

Do you have a wingman who can come in and steal her buying temp? At this point though she might have herself too emotionally invested in you. Gaming other chicks in front of her just gives you more preselection.

Would it be so bad to just take one for the team? Maybe she hasn't been laid in a while.

No wingman unfortunately. There is this guy- young very handsome and smart that was all over her (seemingly) two days ago and yesterday. I was real happy to see that, because she seemed to respond (the stealing the buying temp thing indeed) but the fucker casually dropped the remark that he´s gay! I was devastated LOL!

And as I said she doesn´t ring my bell, so taking one for the team is no-go. I know it´s a bit arrogant because she´s easily a 7-8 for most guys, but simply not for me. And I actually fear that doing that would make things worse. But then maybe you are having a point here. Perhaps I should fuck her and make sure it´s her worst lay ever. I´ll give it serious consideration.

Thanx guys!

Got the problem solved...

I did some thinking about the situation and realized that my insecurity about how to handle this came mostly from AFC.residue in my inner game. I actually bought into her farame by believing that I´m responsible for her feelings (I don´t want to hurt her blah-blah)...
Well fuck this, I´m not. What she thinks she feels is her problem not mine.

I met her at the coffeeshop and asked her to go for a walk with me. I told her the following: "(her name) you are a nice person, but I´m sorry to say that you are not my type and there´s nothing you can do to change that. I know what you hope to get from me, but you never will get it. Have some selfrespect and stop ignoring what you already know. Please back off for your own sake."

Was simpler then I thought, even though she did start crying. I gave her a long comforting hug and calmed her down. Then I took her back to the coffeeshop bought her a black coffee (the way she likes hers) and left.

Lesson I learned from this is: Stop buying into womens frames once and for all!!!

I bet you a million pounds you start pining for her once she stops visiting the coffee shop...