| More and more, I'm coming to the conclusion that text game is not ideal and a fallback to phone calls: too easy to misinterpret, too easy to come off as beta or try-hard. In person (or even over the phone), cocky-funny shows confidence and wit (because you have to think of your lines in real time, and most guys would get nervous face to face). Over text, it seems try-hard (b/c you might've spent a long time thinking of that too-clever line) and is so easy to misinterpret. And you don't have your (hopefully) masculine and alpha tone and body language.
In this scenario:
Two decent dates with a number of IOIs from her (thin, natural blonde, blue-eyed, but plain-faced and A or B cup, maybe a 6 or 7, age 26; I'm 31). Then she's going out of town for a week, back last Saturday, and a few days after I text:
Monday:
Me: Did Scooby arrive in time for your trip 5:38 PM
(Scooby is an inside joke - I used amazon.com to send her a small Scooby Doo stuffed animal to ride 'shotgun' with her on her drive out of town. I've not been to her place, but she gave me the address to send it to.)
Her: Yup 8:42 PM
Me: Laser tag tomorrow or Thurs? 10:09 PM
Tuesday:
Her: Umm super bad cold. Ill let you know 7:00 AM
Me: Scooby should bring you some orange juice and chicken soup. 11:21 AM
Wednesday:
Her: I just want to sleep maybe tomorrow. 6:42 PM
Me: ? 6:43 PM
At first I genuinely had no idea what her last text meant (as we had no plans for today, Wednesday.) Then I realized she was referring to my text about Scooby bringing her stuff .... it seems she interpreted it as me trying to invite myself over to her place!
I don't want to text back to say 'oh, that was just a joke' b/c even though it's true in this case (it genuinely never occurred to me that she would take it that way, it was a joke about her stuffed animal Scooby attending to her while sick), I know tht often guys will back off an unsuccessful sexual overture with a lame 'haha, I was just joking'. So that would come off as beta and dishonest. Plus it would require a long text message to explain, which also looks beta.
How should I play this? Or should I ignore? My dilemma is that on the one hand I don't want her to think I tried to invite myself over (I haven't been there yet, and she's sick, so IMO it would be weird of me to have done so), but on the other hand I can't think of a way to rectify this stupid genuine misunderstanding without making it worse.
Stupid texting. I'm definitely going to reduce my random-jokey texting.
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