Hi guys
I am having this problem right now, I dont know if its really a problem.

When I say something, as soon as I say it, I realize it could be interpreted as mean.
I dont intend to be mean, but it just comes out that way.

for example, the other day I walked up to this girl and I said "so you have a boyfriend?" she said "as a matter of fact, I do." I said "let me know when he breaks up with you" she said "ok"
what I meant was "I am interested, let me know when you guys break up." but then I realized it could also be interpreted as "you are ugly, I know he is going to break up with you. let me know when he breaks up with you"

today this fat girl was going around asking for a stapler. she asked me and i was just trying to be funny, i said "I dont have a stapler, but i have an electric shaver, you want it?" I was just trying to be funny. but then I realized she might think I think she is hairy and needs to shave.

is this normal that when i say something it just comes out wrong? or am i worrying about nothing here?

you just made me actual LOL....

your "problem" is consequence of your inner game. you are so self consious, it's crazy. Imagine if you could never say or do anything wrong. Try to live in that reality.

The truth is everyone sometimes says or does something stupid. What does matter is how you go about it. Just don't make a big deal of it it.

And don't ask girls if they have bfs.

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dont ask them? why?
I have used that a lot and I get good responses. no pussy yet but girls seem to like my sense of humor.
I just walk up and say "hi. so you have a boyfriend?"
is it not good?

It is indeed an issue of inner game, but more specifically, your perception of the world. You are thinking in terms of a fem-centric reality. All of your thoughts and words are polluted with the idea that an external authority must be adhered to. You are afraid of other people's perception of you, what they think of you, in case you have offended them, how they may react, etc. In everything you say, there's a prevailing and implicit sense of submission to female authority. "Is she ok with what I said?" is your first thought as soon as anything comes out.

You need to learn to give a lot less of a fuck, to let go, to develop a stronger internal belief system, and to remain grounded in your own reality. You must think in terms of how YOU interpret something, the take of others is irrelevant. You can't be intimidated by women nor worry about their disapproval. You are too strongly conditioned to associate "make girl feel bad" with "feel bad yourself." And so long as you don't break that subconscious inclination, you will remain a limp dick beta. You need to reform your mentality.

So for instance, in the example you have, your conversation should've followed as:

You: "So you have a boyfriend?"
Her: "Yah as a matter of fact, I do"
You: "Sucks, we could've boned"

Disgust and hatred < desecksualized disinterest. All she saw in you was passive pussy behavior. Be cocky, arrogant, confident, powerful, dominant, charming, be anything but a pussy. Don't tell her "ok, let me know when you guys break up." You're waiting for her on the sidelines...? Where's the challenge? Where's the secksual tension? Where's the intimidating level of confidence?

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I have this problem too. How do you reform that mentality?

Fuck dude. I am nearly crying with laughter.
Don't be so selfconscious. You've got some great wit. You should use it more often.
Damn I would love to see the second girl's face. roflol

but i was trying to be a gentleman, I thought she will think "what a gentleman, he is not going to sleep with someone who has a boyfriend, he is going to wait for us to break up"
But now i see your point and how that makes me a pussy.

Thank you guys, I want you to know that i really do read the responses, sometimes multiple times.

actually i think i am going to stop joking like this, i have heard girls dont like guys that are "goofy" or joke around a lot.

this thread is hilarious. I joke all the time like that without any problems with girls that I don't want. It's natural to me. I'm extremely direct and brutally honest. Some people don't like it. I couldn't care less about it. I say what I want to whom I want where I want. Despite that, I get laid often.

So the only problem you have is with your inner game.

Also...

even though you're an asshole, unknownpoet, the last quote made me laugh