Reel it in. Stop being emotional, women have so many options she's already getting laid. Usually they screw at least one guy to get their mind off of you, then they move on to a real relationship.

Move on and put all this extra energy into improving yourself thru the gym and thru work. And no, don't go tell her how much you've changed and how improved you are now. It's over unless the very slim chance she comes back to you. In which case you play it cool.

And she will come around if you stop contacting her, but only out of curiosity. Think about that. She's gonna be like "where's that wuss that was drooling all over me?" Then a week later she'll wonder again and call (they can't help but call). But she's only calling to see if you are still 'on the leash'. When she finds you hastily picking up her call and acting like you give a shit, she's gonna know, "he's just fooling around, he's stilll the same pussy". Then again if you date other women and she finds out about it, don't answer your phone when she calls, and don't give a shit, she may come back to you. But you really gotta have your game together to get that ass back in bed! And don't even dream that it's gonna be a "real relationship".

Now you need to find and have sex with other women. Improve your pick up skills now!

And do the 10-12 steps above.

so sad..but i guess its true..

I was dating my GF for 1 year and just recently, she got a job and said to me that she has the feelings she had for me are gone, and she said she doesn't see this working out. She said that while we were on the phone, and she slowly fell asleep. I never called her after that, and she's never tried calling me back to wonder why I've never called or to give the final closure. We had a memorable year, and it was close to our 1 year anniversary and I had made these big plans for our 1 year. I'm surprised that she never called me or to say sorry or give it closure. The question is, should I let it be and just move on, or should I call and talk and finalize the closure?

A lot of the articles and posts here are on opening game, but I think that some time should be devoted to posting about relationships and how to keep the girl attracted to you and where she won't cheat on you.

move on with your life and just dont give a F..
act like you dont care about her at all

Hey bro there is! Its a book called: "train your girlfriend by Matt Huston." Pure gold to keep having your girl attracted to you in a relationship.

However this is not the thread for this, my girl broke up with me last week and i got over her in about 2 days just by doing fun stuff with my best homie and thinking about other options i have, plus my ex girl had so many bad things about her so i just think about those and how good it feels not to have to deal with her shit anymore. I am free and there millions of hot single girls who can replace her anyday.

Don't get to emotionally invested in a girl unless you really know she is the good type. Freaks and hoes who play games by flirting with other guys etc are not worth your time nor attention and you should let them know your the price and that what she has could be gone the next day, this way you keep her attracted towards you because when she knows she has you she is going to get bored and break that little heart of yours.

Have a good day!

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

i cant believe no one mentioned the very best way to get over a gf...

find another girl. they're everywhere, your ex wasn't the only cool one out there.

maybe im just wrong haha

This is solid advise!

Honestly, thanks for this.

Great OP, agree with it all mate!

Ive heard to get over one-itis or your EX the best way to get over them is to get under 10 other girls.

Didnt work for me. Only way I was able to move on was to meet a women whom I connected with sexually and emotionally. Doing that is easier said than done though.

So my advice is to put yourself in position to meet high quality women your attracted to on many levels. Just dont fuck it up this time

Í broke every rule in the book.

I'm new to this forum, I just wish I had visited before and learnt some of the basics surrounding women and break ups.

I was with this girl for 1 year four months. We had our ups and downs and this was a lot due to our major differences in circumstance. I'm a straight A student studying at one of the best universities in the world. I live in a capital city with a handful of male friends in our own rented flat. My best male friend at the time was single and is a natural PUA. I envied his life but at the same time realised that it's not a lifestyle that I would necessarily take to. I've been raised by a single mum and have grown up with romantic tendencies. I should probably note that I haven't been single since I was 17. I was in a 3yr relationship and two 3 month flings before I met my last girlfriend. All of these relationships overlapped and, with one exception, I cheated on the previous with her successor.

My ex on the other hand failed school, was unemployed or working for free during most of our relationship and has only recently found a job in her chosen sector. She lived (and still lives) at home with her mum in the middle of nowhere. She has suffered mental problems (not severe) in the past and definitely has compulsive tendencies. This manifested itself in our relationship and she was overly needy. She would often semi-joke about keeping me in her cupboard so I couldn't see my friends who were a 'bad influence' and I couldn't cheat on her. To be fair to her I do receive a fair bit of female attention to which I am usually oblivious but when a few of your female mates tell you they want to shag you, even someone as blind as myself can take the hint. Short-sightedly I relayed this information to her and it made her all the more paranoid. It wasn't helped by the fact that I started seeing her whilst still seeing my ex. In fact, she used sex as a weapon to make me break up with my ex. I should have seen the signs then and got out.

During our relationship she saw her friends probably five times and instead invested everything in me. She didn't understand or take heed of my needs and couldn't understand my work load (I also work 2 part time jobs). She would get angry and/or threaten me when I wanted to see friends. She even said she would break up with me if I went to Spain with four mates AFTER I'd paid for the tickets and hotel. Like the idiot I am I conceded. I believe I would fall into the category of beta. Our relationship carried on in this fashion and the only time we were truly happy was during my Summer holidays where she was out of work and I had finished uni. We stayed at my mother's and played tennis, went on walks in the country and other stuff. It genuinely was a good period and made me realise that I enjoyed having a girlfriend. Going back to university was a problem. We 'broke up' regularly and on the first day of my moving into my new flat she did just that as she didn't see me as being there for her. In truth I wanted to be with my mates and get drunk as she wouldn't let me drink around her as we would often argue. She saw the booze as the cause of the argument. In truth it just exacerbated my pent up anger and resulted in verbal outbursts from myself.

As our relationship progressed it got increasingly strained. She was pushing me away and I her, though she was far more into it than myself and far more lovey dovey. I didn't really have any urge to see her regularly, yet she would cry and cry and almost demand I see her at least twice a week. I felt guilty but also resented this. Eventually I cheated on her. I felt awful at first but soon forgave myself and I continued to do it. I guess it was my own way of 'getting at her'. I cheated on her multiple times with multiple women. I never instigated and it was always the women who sought the sex. I guess they liked what they viewed as the unobtainable. I should also note that my ex was and is stunning and so some girls view it as an affirmation of their own looks if I 'choose' them over her. We continued and had our ups and downs but it was primarily bad. That she had found full-time employment alleviated some of the pressure piled on me. Eventually it came to March of this year and she was depressed. I didn't really clock this and saw her getting angry at me for trying to instigate sex as her being frigid. I was frustrated and said that we shouldn't be together. She cried and begged me not to break up so again I conceded. Fast forward 3 days on the 28th March she said 'will you be coming around?' I said no as I had far too much academic work. She kicked off and dumped me. I was quite nonplussed as I really wanted a break. That probably bothered her.

Almost immediately after our break up I saw this girl from my past. Shagged her and never called her again. She tried to get in contact but I just ignored. I didn't respect or fancy her. I was also seeing this other girl that I had got with a bit whilst seeing my ex. She decided to stay over for the week as she was living with her boyfriend and decided she'd prefer to stay at mine. Again I wasn't really into her and did my best not to have sex with her as I wasn't in the best mindset. During this time my ex was contacting me occasionally 'good luck with your exam', 'can I come and collect my stuff?'. She has since told me that she wanted to talk things through and reconcile. I wasn't bothered and essentially said it's her fault. I then mockingly said 'maybe in the future'. She went off and cried all the way home during the hour drive. Without even realising I was doing things right.

In April just before my exams start I make my first big mistake. I cave and send a letter. It wasn't overly emotional. As soon as she gets it she calls me saying it's the nicest thing anyone's ever done for her. She is quite fragile so she genuinely would have appreciated it. We arranged to meet up. I was obviously not that keen (I'd arranged to meet a girl that night so was more focused on that). She then sent a massive text saying I clearly don't care. I sent a nice one back saying I did. The day we were meant to meet I met up with another girl. I was hungover and didn't really want to see my ex. She sent me a text asking if I still wanted to come round. I just said 'do you want me to?'. She said she was hungover and to maybe meet after exams.

My exams kept me distracted to an extent so I wasn't really thinking about her but as soon as they're done I get really down, do the whole 'oh she was the one. I can't believe I let it go'. I cave again and call and leave a voicemail. She doesn't reply so I call again and say I'd like to meet up. She then says there's no point and we should move on. I carry on with life and go out with my mates. My mood is going downhill and despite getting attention in clubs my confidence is battered enough to not act on anything and, obviously, an underconfident guy is not attractive to women, no matter what other positive traits. I get more and more down and cave again. I called her on a saturday night, she was out and said she'd call BCme the next day. I beg her to get back with me and say that as long as there are feelings there I will never give up on her.

My biggest mistake comes two days later. I went to stay at my mum's. I wrote a horribly emotional letter with all the cliche drivel of 'I can't live without you' and other equally cringeworthy bollocks. I drove to my ex's house (an hour and a half journey). En route I buy her her favourite drinks and sweets and an expensive bunch of flowers. I arrive and she is evidently shocked. She almost immediately starts crying, saying she did miss me and cares for me but she is having a good time going out with her mates and having fun. I actually lie and say I'm not having a good time (at that time it was kind of true). I say I'm not going abroad despite a lads' trip to Portugal and a month visit to Bangladesh. I genuinely thought she'd like to hear this as she always strived to have me for herself when we were dating. I though naively that she appreciate my 'lack of a life'. She then drops the bomb. 'I'm no longer in love with you, you have to give up and move on'. My earlier attempts at reconciliation faltered here and I said 'ok' and after a brief hug I left. Now rationally and logically I cannot believe she is no longer in love as she was so infatuated with me. I believe she is trying to protect her feelings. She has told me on countless occasions she can no longer trust me (she doesn't know about the cheating).

This was a huge blow to my already fragile ego and it made me all the more infatuated with her. She's playing me for a fool and I'm taking the bait.

My question to you guys is how can I reconcile this relationship or have I already broken too many taboos? I genuinely would like to start afresh but I am also aware that my actions may have made her view me as needy.

Finally, a large part of me recognises that it's probably wise to move on and learn how to pick up women, build some confidence etc. What would you all recommend?