Hey Guys,

For me, it takes a long ass time to approach a set, after I spot them. Im talking like 30min or longer. It's very inefficient timewise. I usually open about 3 sets when I go out at night. I feel like if I don't waste time before I open sets, I can increase the number of sets I open by a lot.

How long did it take you to master 3-second rule? Any self-hypnosis trick you wanna share?

hey man, as you are learning, I would have a few drinks until you can approach without any alcohol. That's what I am doing.
Let me ask you this, out of those 3 sets that you open each night, how do they go? all open very well or what?
When I go out only half of hot girl sets open for me, so I have to use my time efficiently and open every set in a venue. Also I find it effective to ask a guy friend or open some guys and ask their opinion on which girls to open. I love doing that because it's kinda like a dare, and I have to do it. I am getting a bit addicted to this feeling, even though success hasn't been great.

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yeah, I do drink a couple of beer before I approach. I guess I'm not really tipsy or anything. I would say usually 1-2 are pretty successful. yeah, I have a friend taht I go with. And we take turns opening.

Why do you need a drink to approach? There are no self hypnosis thing for this you need to man up and just do it!

1......2.......3......and open with something simple like "Hey guys, need your opinion on something do you think its gay if two guys go watch twilight together?" Just do it!

The best way to learn is just to go for it and if you blow out then leave with a smile on your face and move on.

I had a set where this chick told me she will give me R20 (OK well in dollar terms that's like $5) to fuck off. I replied with "you don't get out much do you?" and laughed it off and moved on, no one can bring you down remember that.

there is a game you can play with a wingman to help you with your AA,

the object of the game is to win drinks and get drunk, there are a few ways to win drinks, my friends call this game wingman, every set alternate who plays the wingman

-if you are the wingman, point to a girl, tell your friend to talk to her, he has 5 seconds to leave and go straight to her and talk with her and get her name, if he does not, he owes you a drink of your choice (JAGER BOMBS!!)

-once he enters the set, give him about 20 seconds, if there is more then one person there, you follow him into the set (don't you dare cock block him, if it is a 1 on 1), it is his job to introduce you, and the girl has to aknowledge you exist from his introduction, if he fails to do so, he owes you a drink, (seems easy but if you have really bad approach anxiety your nerves will be so shot when you open at first, just speaking in-coherent sentences loud enough to be heard and understood will seem like a semi-difficult task)

-if he manages to open the set, get her name, and successfully introduce you to her, but the set goes no where, you owe him a drink

-if the man that initially entered the set, gets the targets phone number, he gets 2 drinks

-if the wingman manages to occupy a target or targets and gets a phone number, he gets 2 drinks

-if you get a kiss in set, you get 2 drinks (on the cheek doesn't count)


try to pull past the phone number, work together, be a team, talk each other up, don't take the side of the girls ever, have fun together, every set you alternate who approaches, and who wings, by the end of the night if you don't get laid, you will most likely get drunk, it is a pretty fun to play once in a while

after a good 40 approaches + It would be surprising if you still can't approach on your own out of your own free will, also through out the night you will build momentum, the first set is the hardest to open every day, but once you open a good 5-10 sets of random people, your nerves will just dissapear and you will be opening everything you can yell at and put your eyes on

That...sounds like a pretty damn cool thing to do.
I don't like the idea of getting drunk to overcome AA, but this is quite a funny idea to turn that whole thing into a game Maybe you're not getting anywhere with girls due to being blasted after like 30 minutes, but the approaches will be hilarious

everyone has approach anxiety. its normal

I don't. But I'm not normal, because I get laid.

even you do. you might not realize it because you have practice to overcome it

sorry but I'm not. I used to yes but not anymore. I known very well my inner game.

right that's what I am saying. For you to say that you don't get AA is false because it is triggered in every human being. Every celebrity, superstar .. i don't care who you are. you have it.. BUT it people can practice becoming immune to that feeling or making it rather synthetic. It is not permanent because like I said it will always be there and come back. If you don't practice it, you will get AA again its just how it is. Now you have become immune to it but its still there. Mystery gave a good analogy to this one: Its like waking up in the morning and jumping in a cold water. When you first jump in... its gonna feel cold. You might even shake a bit. Your body temperature adjusts to it... and then slowly its gonna feel better and better. Eventually you might not even feel cold anymore (same thing with approaching women) ... but the next morning ... when you first try to get in the water again.. you are gonna have the same first reaction.

Took me just under 3 seconds...Success!!!

Peace...

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just dont think lol

Look at it this way: a girl runs a certain risk at sending an IOI to a guy she sees across the room. He could be a stalker, rapist, pervert, abusive, etc. She could be seen as a whore or flirt by other girls there. So the girl is probably a little nervous about it but guess what Sherlock, she thinks you're cute enough to take that chance.

Don't you want to talk to her? It may not seem like it but she's taking a hell of a chance in the hopes that you'll what....YOU'LL GO OVER AND TALK TO HER.

And don't wait until "the right moment" because that window of opportunity IS ONLY 3 SECONDS LONG. To wait shows indecisiveness and timidity, not exactly things that wets a girl's panties.

Don't think about it, just do it. 3 seconds, period. If it takes you 30 minutes to think of something good to say then forget about thinking up a clever line and just say hello. It sounds like you need to build up your self-confidence, otherwise you wouldn't need such a long warm-up period.