Hi, guys. My name is Jimi(or Pink Panther) and I'm an 18 year old guy from Holland. I've basically been roaming around this forum and some of your field reports have really inspired me, specifically AFC Daniel's, so much props to him. In order for anyone to get really interested, I'd have to tell you guys a bit about myself:

History with women

For as long as I can remember, I've always been a guy who loved social interaction. I've always loved the attention and just people in general have interested me for a long time. In elementary school I would always fancy certain girls, a new one everyday, but I got bullied quite often because I was quite chubby and socially quite awkward. It wasn't that I was scared to talk, but it was more that I said the wrong things to try and fit in. All my classmates were into football and getting into fights, that was never my thing so I got excluded from the group quickly. I was(and am) a sensitive guy and those girls never appreciated that. I do remember one time when I was really nice and sensitive to a broken-hearted girl from my class and she actually ended up being my girlfriend for 2 weeks, but that was it.

High school didn't get any better. I didn't fit in with the jocks and the only kiss I got was in introduction camp. I was on that school for 2 years, so to get kissed in the first week was promising, right? Just unfortunate that soon after that she wanted my best friend(who was way cooler and more popular than me) and after I told all my friends we had a thing she went around telling we never did anything. A thing like that could bring me down for weeks. The first year on that school was hell, I got terrible grades and felt horrible, I felt like I didn't fit in. I did loose the chubbiness but my hair was long and fat, I walked with a lot of insecurity, my clothes were horrible and I was growing an awkward teenage moustache. In other words, I was the laughing stock of the class. This probably explains why I never went back there the 2nd year, I skipped the entire year and as a result I got kicked off.

On my last high school I created some friends. One of them especially was amazing with girls, he was really good. I'd say he was a natural. I'd challenge him to kiss as many girls as possible on prom night and in 2 hours he got eleven girls, which I found really impressive. Through that period I did better with girls also. I wasn't amazing, but since I was always interested in the opposite sex - both for lust AND because of my craving for a mate, a partner - I would sometimes succeed. I was very insecure but I knew how to act like I had confidence. At some point people could see through this but I could act to a certain point and that got me some girls. As I grew older I became better looking, I started trying new things with my hair and clothes. Sometimes it would look stupid, other times it would really work. The thing is, I've kissed some really beautiful girls, but I never held their attention. Most of them weren't really that difficult, anyways. I am 18 years old and still a virgin. But I've been doing better and better but still have much to learn. Looks-wise I'm doing alright now. I'm very well groomed, if I may say so myself ^^ - I spend a lot of time on clothes and my hair etc. I even go tanning to look healthier etc. But I'm far from where I want to be.

Interests

I've always been an artsy kind of guy. I like composing music and writing songs. I have a Hip-Hop, rocky, poppy kind of vibe. Music in general is one of my biggest passions. I listen to various things: Jimi Hendrix, Guns n' Roses, The Doors, Nirvana, Led Zeppelin, but I also like Eminem a lot and Kanye West and even dance songs like David Guetta etc. So I can't really narrow down my interest to a certain genre. I like reading a lot, my all-time favorite author being Charles Bukowski but I've been into other stuff too like Giacomo Casanova's Story of my Life. I like writing myself - short stories etc. Even though I'm not really a jock, I AM a big sports fan. I love watching football(soccer) and boxing. Besides this all I videogame quite often, which is maybe a habit I need to cut back on. Interests are endless obviously, but these are the basic things I've always enjoyed.

Improvement Areas & Goals

This is what it all comes down to. I will first narrow down my goals in a small list and then explain it more for those interested in details.

• Become more confident
• Challenge my fears
• Get laid!
• Become a positive, warm personality
• Work myself up to a position where people value me and see me as a leadertype
• Gain a sexual vibe and a warm aura

Let me start off by saying that in the past I was worried that quantity mattered. And believe me, to a lot of people it does, but not to me anymore. I've been raised by my mother alone and have lived with a little sister at the same time, so I respect women. My aim is not to get numbers, I want to have a good time with different ACTUAL people. I want to meet unique women and learn about them and bond with them and just share love. At the start, it will all be a game between the boy and girl, but once I get passed that shield I want a free-flowing interaction with lovely women.
I have picked up meditating recently and while I'm looking for inner peace, I also want to elude a sexual energy that draws people toward me. I've felt this myself with several people and it was very comforting being around them.

My goals might seem a bit simplistic and unoriginal, but my whole point is to start off with simple goals and adjust them as I'm working the field. I'm not just a guy looking to get laid, I want to find love and good energies in my life. So even beside women, this is just for me to get positive and look for things that matter in life.

Anyways, that was my introduction. I've actually already gamed last night, so I will write about this soon. Any questions? Ask away!

Strategy

Before I went out I had a strategy in the back of my mind. Me and my friend were kind of tipsy and I wanted to make sure everyone in there knew me. I'm going to approach women and dudes alike. As MUCH as possible.

So:

• Make sure I leave an impression
• Show people I'm having fun
• Be the life of the party

Field Report

For the entire week me and my friend had planned to go out. Continously I told myself in the mirror; "you're not going for girls, you're just going out and have a good time and if a cool lady just happens to come across, you open her." But deep in the back of my mind I was aware that I really wanted to go out there and game. I suppose this is a good thing, because a lot of people seem to have a problem getting in this mind-set.

When we got at the club, there were only a couple of people. I tried using this to my advantage. I walked up to most people and shook their hand and asked if they were having a good time and then just walked off. Some people were friendly, others responded quite surprised, but I never really got blown off. I guess no one blew me off was because I did this to everyone and wasn't really hitting on anyone.

At one point I opened a group with 2 girls and 2 guys. I introduced myself to the guys first and asked if they were having a good time. They responded really well. I held eye-contact with them, trying to show confidence and making sure their presence did not scare me and they really responded well to that, which made me feel quite good! I moved to the girls second and they were really friendly(probably because they knew I didn't move in to hit on them but to just have a good time!). I gave them an opinion opener I made up myself which I thought was good. I basically asked the group, "What do you guys think about tattoos? Because earlier this girl came up to me and started a conversation, but her entire arm was covered in tattoos and I wasn't really sure what to make of it." It worked alright, they discussed it for a moment. One of the girls said, "I can be hot on guys, but not on girls," and everyone seemed to agree. The girl that said this was actually my target so I decided to reward her. I noticed her freckles and complimented her on it, telling her she had the cutest freckles ever. She got kind of shy and said she hated them. Then I used Cajun's "You're such a cutey, I'm going to adopt you as my little sister," and gave her a very warm hug. I was feeling great. She laughed and hugged me back quite intensely. "You know what?" I said, "I want your number." I said it in a way that requires a lot of confidence, but I just didn't get it out with 0% nervouseness and I felt that straight away. "Only if you buy me a drink first," she said. I tried to recover by pushing her away from me and saying, "Wow, that's not my style." It kind of worked because she changed subjects and asked me if I could help her pick the best drink on the menu. I used this to my advantage and told her about Vodka-Redbull and grabbed her by the hand. I took her with me(away from the group) to a table where I actually had my vodka-redbull glass. I gave her a sip and she liked it. I kind of ran out of things to say and so she went back to her friends. I didn't number of kiss close but when she and her friends decided to leave she did go to me specifically to tell me this and gave me a hug.

As the night proceeded I somehow got really confident. I'm usually quite hestitant when it comes up to walking up to women because I usually just stand there, fantasizing and romantisizing about the prettiest girls. But opening went quite smoothly! For ONE reason only: I approached EVERYONE in the club. This sounds like a scary thing to do, but it is actually the best way to get over my AA. I approached more dudes than girls and throughout the entire night I felt amazing. I even had dudes walk up to me and say, "Hey, what was your name again?" and when I told them my name they'd shake my hand and tell me to have a good night. I felt really loved and was really enjoying myself!

I approached a two set of girls. I opened in Dutch and they told me in English they didn't understand me, so I had to switch to English quickly. One of the girls was exactly my type; long black hair, nose piercing, a bit of an emo-look. She was probably one of the most beautiful girls I had ever seen. To be honest, I fell in love straight away. She was absolutely stunning to me, absolutely my type. Her friend was pretty chubby and also had a nose piercing, she wasn't really my thing. I could see the friend was more engaged than the pretty one and so I tried a comment saying, "You look like the friendly one," pointing to the friend, "and you look like the arrogant one," pointing to the pretty one. It actually worked, to my surprise. The friend smiled like she was flattered and the pretty one laughed and looked at me with this playful OMG face, while laughing at the same time. Throughout the entire opener she was just uninterested and looking away and now I suddenly had her full attention. Because of my crush I went overboard, though and totally screwed up. I asked her for her name which was Emily(pretty name ^^) and straight away asked for her number. She told me she was seeing a guy for two years now but gave her number anyway. She walked away straight away and took her friend with her. When I called her the day after a guy picked up the phone, so yeah, that was emberassing.

I opened another two-set the same way I opened the first set and used the same way to escalate with the target, using the 'adopting you as my little sister' routine. She seemed into me and really hung unto to me. I noticed her friend wasn't to into me so I just number closed her and left. I did hug her and gave her a few kisses on the cheek when I left, she kissed me back which was good ^^. Later on the place was packed and everyone was nice to me as I opened almost everyone. I couldn't find any interesting girls anymore and I got kind of tired so I went back to the third girl. She and her friend were talking to two dudes. Normally I would never do this but I was so confident suddenly that I walked up to them and introduced myself to the guys and then moved to my target and said "am I being rude?" and kind of laughed mockingly. She smiled and said, "not at all." Funny thing was, the guys just walked off, I totally blew them off. That was a big wtf moment for me! Normally I'm that guy getting blown off. I talked with her for a bit, but her friend dragged her away and they just started dancing in front of me, looking the opposite direction. As a dude, you feel that sort of stuff when you put yourself out there. I decided the night was over and me and my friend went home.

Conclusion

I don't think any of those girls were really into me when I left. The third girl looked like she was attracted to me, but I think I just had to leave it for what it was and text or call her the next day, but I stupidly went back to her. In overall, I am satisfied, though. Normally(if I even have the guts to approach) I just stand behind a girl trying to physically escalate to a kiss-close. This time I felt like I owned the place and I was happy with the interactions with the girls(for now). Of course I want to achieve so much more, but just the fact that I opened them without ANY AA really gave me goosebumps. As read above, I got shot down twice, but it didn't really hurt my ego that much. I was only bothered with the 2nd girl, because she was really gorgeous, but hey, at least I approached her. I remember how often I've seen a girl that looked like my type but instead I just end up standing there all night, hoping she'd approach me.

Some sticking points are that I show interest to early. I think I get physical to quickly too. I'm a very touchy guy, I tend to hug and kiss quite quickly, this probably puts them off if they don't know me yet. I've read a lot of books on stuff like this and this is the first time I actually went out to try it and that actually showed me that I learned more. I mean, the "You look like the friendly one and you look like the arrogant one," line really worked, just to see what it did with that girl really gives me goosebumps. So yeah, I'm excited! ^^

Wednseday
I went out last wednesday to a club. I wanted to handle the night the same way as I did before. Except this time, I wanted to use a very direct approach and see how far that got me. I can tell you in advance; I failed miserably.

To be quite honest, I had too much to drink. I wasn't totally blato, but I definitely couldn't think clearly. I wasn't too much into the girls. Normally, I find a girl pretty really fast, but I just wasn't into the girls that night. The most succesful approach that night actually didn't make any sense. I walked up to the girl(an average looking brunette) and said "I'm a 50 year old horny dog looking for camsex," and she asked me if something was wrong with me. I said "Yes, I'm mentally challenged," to which she said "Aaaw," and gave me a hug and a kiss(???).

I approached another four-set with my tattoo opener, basically telling them a girl with arms covered in tattoos approached me kind of flirty and I wasn't sure what to think of the tattoos, asking them for their opinions. I thought I had their attention, but suddenly a guy interrupted me and said "Wow, this guy has a great pick-up line," really sarcastically and just froze me out by standing right in front me, facing me with his back. One of his guyfriends told me to just leave. That really was a blow to my ego, because they totally blocked me out and made me look like an idiot.

Still, I kept my optimism and determination high and approached another girl. I really had to force myself, because I was really tired and my confidence wasn't that high because I got shot down several times now. I approached the girl and just went direct by saying "I've been in this place for a while now, just having a good time and I have to say, this is not really my thing to come out and say this, but I think you're really pretty," to which she said "thanks," and smiled acceptively. I then asked her for her phone number, because I would like to know her better. But then she shook her head and said "I'm sorry, you're gonna have to be more prepared than this." Another guy blocked me out and even physically held me off. Again I walked off.

I walked down the street with my friend, we were just goofing around now. I kind of gave up on the girls for the night and we were just randomly approaching people telling them we were Mario and Luigi and we were looking for Yoshi. I don't know, we just like horsing around, haha. Anyway, at that moment I saw the prettiest girl I had seen that night, so for the sake of beautiful women I just approached her like we did to everyone, introducing ourselves as Mario and Luigi and asking for Yoshi. My friend chatted to her friend and I chatted to the really cute girl. I didn't feel like going into this stupid routine, because I actually really fancied her. So I just said "I think you're really pretty, and you probably think I say this to all the girls, but I actually think you're adorable." And so she replied "But I just saw you walk around talking to everyone here," to which I responded "True, but I was just messing around, pretending we were looking for Yoshi. I actually noticed I really like you when I spoke to you. Could I maybe get your phone number so I can text you and get to know you?" And she actually gave her number and gave me a hug afterwards. My friend told me that the cute girl's friend told him she never gives out her number to boys because she has a boyfriend, so I did something right!

Conclusion

I ended the night alright, but all in all, it was a terrible night. Not only did I get shut down several times, I actually got dominated quite a few times by some pretty dominant alpha males. This must be due to me showing signs of weakness in my tonality and body language. I need to practice this and focus on getting the best out myself and showing confidence.

The thing is, I overcome my AA more easily than I used to just by approaching a lot. But when I talk to girls, I still feel quite nervous and they probably see this in the way I talk or communicate non-verbally. It's all about setting the right frame, I think. Somehow, when I talk to them, in my mind I feel that I am hitting on them and they feel this too. I am certain that women will always feel that you're hitting on them if you approach them, no matter how good you are, but it's important to elude that you don't give a cr*p. I think I can overcome this with meditating, but also just a lot of approaching and practicing.

The funny thing is, today was a terrible day at the office, but it didn't really demotivate me. I feel fairly proud that I try and try. It's good to see a lot of dudes just standing at the side of the bar, waiting for something magic to happen while I'm jusst walking around shaking everyone's hand and having a good time. I'm really enjoying this new part of my persona. If you give positive energy, you will get positive energy back.

Peace and love,

Pink Panther

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