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friendzone is indeed a major cockblock. you can't pick up a girl if you are in the friendzone. you really have to get out of it first. and that takes time. weeks maybe months. that's why it sucks so much.
ofc there are some situations where you can get out quickly like if a girl is fragile and you act cavemen to comfort her and fuck her. then you became friend with benefits. but usually it takes time.
Poet, I disagree man.
I see it like this... New chicks aren't my friends. My friends are people I can call anytime and count on. Can I do this with this chick right now? Highly doubtful. So, YOU make the decision about 'friendzone'.
If she wants to friendzone me... I'll say "I don't fuck my friends."... or you can start kino then and there. Hand on the small of her back, slowly lower than the norm - right over the top of her ass, as you lean over to say something...
YOU show the intent, and she makes the snap decision. If it's 'friendzone' then "Cool, we should hang out sometime..." and BAIL. If she contacts you via text, be random/funny - don't chat her up, try to make the conversation sexual, and re-assess. Still friendzone? Then tell her "Listen, I'm sure you have hot friends... so, buddy-to-buddy, I wanna meet them..." If you're not friendzone'd - FUCK her.
If this is a chick you really want as friends... there's no issue as it is.
The ONLY time I've been hit with friendzone trouble is when there's an outside influence (fucking my dad's cancer surgeon, for example), even then, I confronted the issue, and made my intent known.
The only way this is an issue is if you allow it to be an issue, guys...
RR