I've known her for a year she is white Italian and I'm half white half black. We worked together for 10 months and hung out all the time at work and the chemistry was crazy. Soon as we met she called me everyday for 2 months, and we had a few dates and made out.

She told me she wasn't over her ex(who she was with for 7 years) a few times, and that it wasn't the right time. I knew she liked me as when she told me this for the third and final time, she almost burst into tears and tried to do everything from having me see this. She would stare at me with a twinkle in her eye, and squint whenever she was with me. I still contact her most weeks but we don't feel as close as we used to be.

I used to ask her out all the time but she would make excuses to meet up with me. Few months ago she wished me a happy birthday on facebook and put a loveheart, plus she txt my phone and told me she wanted to give me a kiss. My mind is moving on but my heart still has alot of feelings for her. She has been on dates with ugly guys(sex with one) which I find out through facebook. My gut feeling says she could feel our chemistry and had feelings(crying around me while staring) but something about me was stopping her. She is going away for 3 months and said we had a connection and she wants to go for a drink before she leaves but she usually ignores my call on the day we agree so now what do I do?

Ask her why she blew a great chance with you to go hook up with D-bags?

I see it like she is an epic game player, wants to keep you hanging while she is away for 3 months hooking up with more D-bags probably and then coming back to possibly be with you.

All I can say is at least find othre girls during this time.

Don't be her fall back plan let her be yours if you don't have success during these 3 months.

don't be fooled by "connections", "chemistry", "clicking". I was doing this exact same thing with a girl who turned out to be a total bitch.
I am still going to see the girl, but it's gonna be sex-sex-more-sex, no emotions involved.

go out and sarge more women. if you are not totally worn out by other chicks when your Italian girl comes back, go get laid. just don't fall for her.

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

I'm trying to get as many girls as possible but I feel a connection with this one. I could picture myself doing alot with her and just being happy in general. I think maybe she feels she has to be this way because when I speak to her she is just a cool chick.

I totally know where you're coming from. I felt the same way about J.. until I found out she was dating other guys and was very happy to exchange porn emails with any stranger who hooked her up on the Internet!

if your chick is dating and fucking other guys, she is not into you and probably too sexually open for any commitment.

PS crying seems to be a rule for this kind of girl... J is also into crying..

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Verdict: Don't get oneitis for "those" girls.

I know you say you are going to continue to meet more, but from here it seems like it's going to be a half arsed attempt because your more interested in this one when she gets back.