Hi Guys,

Need some perspective from the more experienced members of this community.

Recently, I was interstate and I hooked up with a girl. At the time that I met her, she was already interested in another guy (been on several dates, thinking about a relationship with him, etc.). Anyway, we got together, the other guy found out and was majorly pissed off. She tried to smooth it over with him - so I know that she is still interested in pursuing the relationship.

My concern is this: if she is still interested in this guy, does it reflect upon my abilities as a PUA? That is, have I failed to reach a level of attraction which would shut him out of her mind? Or, am I being unreasonably harsh on myself and should be happy that I, momentarily at least, diverted her attention away from this guy that she likes?

Kind regards,
Faust.

You shouldn't get down about it. I mean most girls... when they have there mind locked onto something it is hard to break them free. But I would just be happy that you even got some interaction. She obviously really likes this guy. For now just move on and continue on picking up other woman left right and center.

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-Shaft

Not at all, man!
If you have managed to attract and build comfort with a girl who was interested in another guy it speaks volumes for your game.
The fact that he was pissed, and not in a relationship, suggests that he is quite deep into the AFC spectrum so you have nothing to worry about in terms of competition.

The fact that she wants to smooth things out with him is nothing to be discouraged by; no-one likes being disliked and this simply tells you that she is concerned, not attached.

Thanks for the advice guys. I really needed some objective input to help me chart my progress. That girl may be coming to my home town for about two months (arriving in the next week or so).

Well there you go. That will give you a chance to have her isolated from this guy. So take her out and show her a fucking amazing time. Unless your hometown is like my hometown in which I have to drive them to the city to have any fun.

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-Shaft

I don't compete for girls who are . Let her 'have' the other one. He will mess up and when he does, she'll want you. Especially if she's seeing you with other women. Women want what they can't have and feel they have missed out. It may take a little time or not but they when the bad times hit they always come back.

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