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alright, let me tell you a bit about where i'm standing.
4 years ago i dated an asian chick one of the cutest girls in my highschool.
after we broke up a year and a half later i turned into an AFC. my confidence dropped, my popularity went down, i lost basically all my friends.. i havent had a girlfriend since then, i don't know my goals in life, in other words i just fell in limbo..
a year ago my friend introduced me to the game by neil strauss and at first i was not really believing this until my friend actually got a girlfriend using this stuff. unfortunately or fortunately he has a one itis. so we no longet talk.
months passed by and i began feeding myself of information. i wanted to read every book out there but some of the ones i liked were the art of seduction, 48 laws of power, october man, magic bullets, mystery method along with posts in the seductiontuition website.
im now working mostly on inner game
i been working out constantly, i been dreesing up better, working on my voice tone, my approach anxiety, and my body lenguage.
hosnestly i find many girls looking at me and smiling at me at school. like if they feel the positive energy i radiate. even though i find it easy to open. i have a hard time builing atraction
i get nervous. i hesitate to do the cube, the c vs u shape teeth, and all of that.
i need major work being congruent with my first impression.
(any tips o that)
anyway thats not really why i started writing this..
I accidentally ran over my friends facebook pictures and she was tagged among my x's pictures so the curiosity led me to her page.
i saw pictures of her doing well modeling for cars, working for one of the best clubs in the city and she seems to be becoming more and more popular. this only led me to be fed up with myself because it makes me feel like an AFC again because i havent really done much this past years.. more than 1/2 of the people i know know her so i know that at somepoint i will see her again and i dont want to be this AFC.
i needt to boost my game, i need to get my life in track.
seeing her pictures today just fueled me to get out and start working my way..
any tips on becoming more valuable?
i have learned some palmistry, magic tricks, astrology,
i still feel that is not enough.
Let me give you some truth about "Game" from a guy who has been at this for 5 years. First thing, is nothing happens overnight. It takes time and work. Some people are lucky and they get this stuff very fast and in a few short months are doing awesome. Others it literally takes 4-6 months of practice going out 3-4 nights a week to get really smooth with this stuff.
WHAT?!? Yeah I said 4-6 months! There are two key pieces to getting really good at this stuff. 1. ) Master it in smaller bite size chunks, work on opening, then transitioning, then building attraction, the comfort games, etc. 2.) Learning more is not the solution...it is mastering what you already know!
A lot of guys like myself are intellectuals and when I don't know something I research it, dive into it, and learn all I can about it because its my belief knowledge about things reduces fear of it, cause I understand it better. Initially that does help, however, you have to apply what you've learned too.
You have already read a LOT of pickup material. My advice would be to pick one of those methods you really enjoyed reading about and applying it a step at a time until you master that method. Then if you want go back and do another method, master it. Then you will understand why each method works and what you like and don't like about it. Then take bits and pieces from what you like and what works with your personality best.
Its very very easy to get in this stall of thinking if I just read another book, if I just take another class, if I watch these youtube videos, etc....then I'll have it down. Remember take your time, have patience with yourself and the process, and apply what you learn.
You are already valuable enough to take home a 10 just as you are. If you really devote yourself to it, you will be great!